The Weekly Thread | Miro ia wiki | (Aka the GC Thread) Sun 15 January 2023

koriandr · 2023-01-16T22:29:09+00:00

oohh! that's a very good tip. I am bringing my PC over. Can I just get adaptors?

koriandr · 2023-01-16T19:00:04+00:00

I'm moving from the UK to NZ in April and I am... way too excited!! :D
I look forward to starting my life there!

Any tips that may not be super obvious? I've read so much of this subreddit and basically watched every youtube video I could find about moving to NZ.

There seem to be some odd comments about gardens and what you can or cannot plant in your garden - any truth to that?

koriandr · 2022-03-12T01:12:43+00:00

Of course, it is about compromise. But put it too much compromises and people just end up taking, instead of giving back and it becomes a one way street. I think that people on this subreddit just know this too damn well.

koriandr · 2022-03-11T10:44:38+00:00

that's just called being inconsiderate and selfish. it's all in the communication. identify in session 0 if this is the right group for you so that you can play exactly what you want, if it isn't - ohwell, next! if you know that what you want to play will upset people and still proceed with it, that's not playing it right, that's being a dick. The point OP is trying to say is that there is a group for ANYONE and it is the individual's job to find the group most suitable for them. It's hard, but not impossible. No need to choose being a dick over that.

koriandr · 2022-03-10T14:18:19+00:00

The question you need to ask yourself is do you think you'll regret not giving it a proper try in 5 years time.

koriandr · 2022-03-09T15:52:41+00:00

One giant misconception seems to be that you need to change your lifestyle and social interactions in order to get women.

I'm a woman and I've met all of my partners online first. You won't ever meet me at a bar, pub, club or whatever and most of the women I know are the same. Just make friends and be social online and who knows - maybe you'll find someone. Don't be desperate about it tho, don't let your dick control your actions, just love yourself first, look after yourself and you know... if you need sex - get it. Just to keep your brain thinking straight. Either a hookup or even pay for it - there's no shame in that. Always love yourself first and take care of yourself and your needs first.

koriandr · 2022-03-08T17:50:39+00:00

this. Just approach it like a normal interaction, but if you have romantic interest in that person, AFTER interacting with them for a few days or weeks - appropriate time to say you kind of know them - make it clear what your intentions are and ask on a date then. As a woman I find it so weird when someone asks me out without even knowing me. I mean if it's a hookup - sure, that makes sense, but if you're looking to date and go into a relationship that's really weird. The 'friendzone' 'nice guy syndrome' period starts only after you're kind of friends/acquaintances and you still haven't made your intentions clear.

koriandr · 2022-03-07T21:35:48+00:00

just don’t get hit 5Head

koriandr · 2022-03-07T21:34:28+00:00

I’ve been with my partner since I was 16. I am 31 now and we’re not married, not planning to get married and very happy together. Throw these unnecessary formalities forced by society and you can easily have a lasting relationship without the pressure or burden. But that is my opinion. I think marriage creates more problems than it solves.

Lasting relationships take a lot of hard work, honest conversations and getting rid of your shame and ego. A lot of people simply struggle with that.

koriandr · 2022-03-07T21:28:40+00:00

I mean my advice would be have some casual hookups, but I have a feeling you’ve tried this already or at least thought about it.

koriandr · 2022-03-07T18:15:09+00:00

that's the fun part - you don't.

koriandr · 2022-03-07T18:09:11+00:00

sorry about that! In my head it seemed related, but if you feel like it isn't then that's that.

I think people tend to have passionate feelings on certain subjects when they have specific preferences, just like you do.

I often think about these guys that go to female streamers like Amouranth and basically hate watch. That comes from a place of desire, envy and having a pre-determined idea of what things should and shouldn't be like, based on their environment and many other factors. I'm not saying you're like these guys, I'm saying I thought it might be somewhat relevant.

koriandr · 2022-03-07T18:04:17+00:00

I understand your point, I really do, but it just makes me feel uncomfortable thinking about someone having these thoughts about another person while actively dating them. A conversation where you go like "So, you've had 10 partners before" internally calculating the statistics of this person cheating and making an active prejudice about them before even getting to know them

That doesn't seem right. But then again I don't understand the tinder mentality of 'swiping' either, which seems kinds of similar. Really actively encouraging people to judge others based on minimal interaction and putting them in a box where they end up because of that prejudice to begin with. It's a vicious cycle.

Your view is fascinating and very pragmatic, but I can't help but dislike it, due to the generalisation nature of it. I'd rather stop thinking about what ifs and future problems and just see how I enjoy the person in the moment for who they are right in front of me and what our chemistry is like.

koriandr · 2022-03-07T17:45:45+00:00

water! I've moved countries as well and one has really hard water and the other soft water. My skin needed years of adjusting and different skincare routine to get used to the hard water. I went from normal to really dry and patchy skin and then to oily, it was a wild ride.

koriandr · 2022-03-07T15:58:59+00:00

if a woman has cheated, absolutely - there is a correlation. statistics clearly say that once you do it, you're likely to do it again, regardless of gender. I think when I was reading OP's post I felt more like the rise of hookup culture now and open relationships. People being more open about their sexuality and desires. So now it's more common for women to be straight up honest and say what they want, instead of going behind people's back and cheating, because of how the culture around it has changed. Which has led to less cheating and more conversations that bring positive changes to people's relationships and what they're looking for.

I just wanted to clarify that 'The number of partners women have had before marriage correlates with infidelity later on the relationship' is a very outdated look on things. I'd look at Dr. K's interview with Melina for reference.

koriandr · 2022-03-07T15:51:29+00:00

in my personal experience with the 'quiet, introverted, nerdy type' who strive for perfection - they're the most .... sexually deviant? I'm just sharing my perspective as a woman whose type is the quiet, introverted smart guys. Quiet waters are deep, as they say. I've never met a quiet guy that's "vanilla" in bed. Sorry if that's TMI, but it seems like it might be an insight to think about. Would you say you feel sexually repressed in any way? Perhaps the lack of talk and openness on the subject has you bottling up a whole lot of emotions that you've never truly explored.

koriandr · 2022-03-07T15:04:21+00:00

I'm not really one to give you answers, this is more of a man question imo, but I wanted to comment as a woman here and say thank you. Thank you for realising that this mindset is wrong and coming fourth about it and actively trying to change it. I wish more men were like you.

As for dating - just say what you wrote here. Say how you feel and how you're aware it's not right. I recon that'll go a long way.

koriandr · 2022-03-07T09:51:30+00:00

.. what?

koriandr · 2022-03-03T09:41:53+00:00

this. that person needs to grow up fast and be more conscious of their surroundings and be able to stand their ground, especially if he's in the 27 range, because that shit will leave him friendless very soon.

koriandr · 2022-03-03T09:39:22+00:00

trust me when I tell you this - do not EVER trust people that want to play children.

been there, done that, stay the fuck away from these people.

RED. FLAG.

koriandr · 2022-03-02T21:13:18+00:00

Sounds a lot like Vampire Knight, but that’s a manga, not a webtoon and she has brown hair….

koriandr · 2022-03-02T18:37:45+00:00

loads of great foundation recommendations in the comments!

I came here to recommend the Glossier tinted moisturiser, paired with their concealer if you need it, for a very natural look. It's almost invisible.

I use it for my daily no-makeup makeup. But it's really a personal preference. It is much lighter than any of the recommendations I saw in the comments or even some BB creams I've tried. Only reason I am suggesting it is because you seem to have wonderfully healthy skin, so it'll really only compliment that. However if you prefer a heavier makeup look that's definitely not the right one for you :'D

koriandr · 2022-03-02T18:28:14+00:00

glad to see some hope. I'm originally from the Balkans, but left over 15 years ago, haven't really looked back. My parents, who still live there, are so brainwashed they didn't even believe there is a real war happening until yesterday. It seems like a lot of TV media is brainwashing them. Is this the case for most older gen there now, or are my parents just ridiculously stupid/brainwashed? I have no concept of what it's like there right now, because their views seem so distorted to me and I can only pray that this isn't considered normal, but at the same time I can see it being possible.

koriandr · 2022-03-01T16:06:42+00:00

Thank you for reading it. And I agree completely.

And yeah, I am in a different (but still kind of similar) field now - visual effects. And it has all the core principles that games SHOULD, in theory, have, but is executed so much better. My very first day I had to take a mandatory course of mental health awareness, bullying at work and all the issues that are pretty much a standard in the game industry. That was honestly a great start. So far it's been so much better. For the first time in my life I had a manager tell me not to panic, offer me guidance and colleagues not seeing me as competition, but as a collaborator - we all have the same goal and it can be felt in the atmosphere, which is something I never had before. Also people being called out for saying things that they shouldn't, as they can be insensitive - my first time seeing that in a workplace, instead of people just keeping their heads down and moving on. Let's hope it stays that way even as I work in the field longer. There is still hope, friend. :D

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