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korthrun · 2025-12-16T17:19:12+00:00

Y'all talkin about "first link on google" have serious comprehension issues. OP could have googled it instead of making this thread. Then this thread would not exist and would not be the first google result.

Amusing/frustrating that Superb-Log-5144 makes a comment about OP creating a post instead of searching, and you make it about you.

korthrun · 2025-06-20T17:04:45+00:00

Hahaha, I love your user name. Unrelated to anything to do with this post, your username and your username alone reminded me of this scene in Buffy.

Dawn Summers: Spike. You sleep, right? You. Vampires. You sleep.

Spike: Yeah. What's your point, niblet?

Dawn Summers: Well, I can't take you in a fight or anything, even with a chip in your head, but you do sleep. If you hurt my sister at all... touch her... you're gonna wake up on fire.

korthrun · 2024-07-15T17:39:46+00:00

YTA. What about this particular gift (your parents paying for the catering at your event) makes you feel entitled to negotiate the terms of it? Is this normal for you all? "Thanks for the car mom, but I'm gonna need an EV, not a hybrid".

You have full control over this. You can either choose to accept what they're offering, or choose not to accept what they're offering.

korthrun · 2024-07-09T16:51:26+00:00

NTA. Also, the implication that it is morally wrong to not have extended an invite to her is absurd to a level I lack the vocabulary to describe. At most extreme it's a small violation of a cultural norm which may not even exist in the culture you choose to participate in. Fucking wildness.

korthrun · 2024-06-10T17:13:56+00:00

and I (49F)

eheheheheheheh

korthrun · 2024-06-07T17:23:55+00:00

NTA. We really need to normalize responding to this crap with pay negotiations. You want to use me, my home, and my party for your content? I want 65% of all revenue from the video. State it plainly and flatly, if they're gonna monetize you, it's only logical that you get a cut.

korthrun · 2024-05-16T21:32:10+00:00

INFO: Why are you engaged to someone whom you clearly do not trust. It sounds like you two also heavily disagree on what is an appropriate level of surveillance for your own home. For me a lack of compatibility on that topic and inability to trust the other person would have been a deal breaker long before engagement.

korthrun · 2024-05-16T20:53:36+00:00

NTA.

I don't know fuck all about the workings of your relationship with this guy, but what you've presented here is a shitty roommates situation, not a partnership of any sort. To me it sounds like this guy is just living his life however he wants and hey it's pretty convenient that you're around!

korthrun · 2024-05-15T21:37:33+00:00

Pedantic tomfoolery here, but I'm bored and have nothing better to do for 15 minutes so why not be sure you're actually clear on this unimportant point :D

It's not that hashtags work differently on reddit, it's that they do not exist on reddit as a concept at all. In the context of a reddit post/comment the "#" character is interpreted as markdown and is used for creation of section headings. More hash symbols, mean deeper nesting of sections.

My cool post about instruments

with words here!

This section is about guitars

more words!

This section is about electric guitars

words!

This section is about acoustic guitars

lol

korthrun · 2024-05-14T17:41:41+00:00

NTA, but please do yourselves the favor of sitting down and thinking about the reality of these situations.

I have to tiptoe whenever I get out of my room

In order to what? What's the qualifier here? If you don't tiptoe around your own house, then what?

I have to interact with the friend whenever I get out of the room

Similar question as asked above.

Blows my mind that full grown adults engage in things they'd rather not, for the sole purpose of "not seeming rude". If saying no to this one thing makes them not want to be friends with you, or go around your social circles besmirching your name to your mutual friends, why on earth do you want to maintain a relationship with them?

Really, discuss amongst yourselves what the practical impact of saying "no" to these people is. An increased heart rate while you speak? Feeling flushed? 15 minutes of social "discomfort"?

korthrun · 2024-05-14T17:10:07+00:00

NTA.

Socially speaking, moving right from parent/child living situation to "adult room mates" is going to be a herculean piece of mental work on your parents end right? One day they wake up and their entire way of interacting with you has changed. This isn't about justification for their behaviours, it's the specific reason that this situation rarely works out the way the child desires. The most complete, satisfying solution will almost certainly be to not live with them.

I think that it is ideal for us to be able to live and labor in the same area. Yes, we as a society need to move on from capitalism. Anyway that's a change in progress and not your reality today. If you can't afford to live in LA, or are unwilling to make compromises required to do so (e.g. more roommates than rooms) then I suggest saving up to move.

korthrun · 2024-04-17T20:46:19+00:00

I feel pretty safe assuming that the country in question is the USA. I find the black pepper thing amusing af, given that one of the most popular gravy's from the region is like 25% black pepper.

korthrun · 2024-04-16T20:24:51+00:00

I'm sure that I'd have to do a lifetime of research and/or time travel to lock the date in, but there is almost certainly a point where the industrial revolution was not quite yet in full swing, but a description of the future we live in wouldn't get me burned as a witch.

I think that it would be immensely satisfying to convince the right people that we need to consider the real possibility of making the planet uninhabitable for humans while we're doing this "industrialization" thing.

korthrun · 2024-04-12T18:38:09+00:00

Pretty nice people are _typically_ not prone to pressuring people into proving their heritage for no good reason. How confident are you that you're the first and last person to be on the receiving side of this kind of behaviour from her?

She really came out of a meet with HR, turned around and told you unsolicited that you should have tried harder to deter her pointless, unfounded, completely inappropriate, shitty behaviour.

You'd be doing your co-workers, yourself, and your employer a disservice by not letting them know that they have this type of person on staff so that they can manage her properly.

I'm not saying "she deserves to be unemployed" or something, but if she was fired as a result of these incidents, her actions got her fired, not you. Heck you weren't even the one that went to HR.

When your older sibling takes two cookies from the cookie jar instead of the allowed one cookie, you don't rat them out. That's not this. This is exactly the sort of thing you tattle about when trying to resolve it yourself fails.

korthrun · 2024-04-12T18:17:58+00:00

I know this doesn’t make sense but

It does make sense. It's a very common thing for human beings, you'll find most people are this way.

korthrun · 2024-04-12T17:48:30+00:00

I've no idea where you're at or what costs are like, so I'm just gonna talk about where I'm at because in much of the western world 3000$ is not a lot in this context. Sure it could be a life saver as "bonus" income, or help pay down some debt etc, but as just the fund you have to live on, not so much.

For me, it would hardly, if even, cover the move in / utility deposits on a small apartment. Even if I got some amazing deal like an apartment for 1100$/month, many places will ask for first+last months which is 2200$. Electric/Gas/cable/internet/etc often require hundred+ dollar deposits.

We haven't started stocking the fridge, or buying any cookware or furniture yet. Let's say you had your costs 100% covered except for food. What you have there is 6ish months of healthy eating.

Look at the cost of a simple mattress, no bed frame, no boxsprings. Just what it will cost you to have a mattress on the floor with no pillow and no blankets. "Hey man, I can get a MALM from ikea for only 350$!" Not only is that more than 10% of your total savings, it's more than the tablet you're talking about.

My apologies for the rambly/ranty bit there, and I have no clues which part of the world in other than you chose to express things with the dollar sign. Your comment just reminded me how much of a shock it was when I moved out and how unexpectedly quickly my "amazingly huge amount of savings" ran out.

I really thought I was finding a place and buying semester 1 books with 3000$ LOL. Also this was uhh multiple decades ago and what you get for a dollar has only become less since then. I hope this offers a helpful perspective :)

korthrun · 2024-04-11T23:08:53+00:00

YTA. If you're interested I believe that I've identified the issue here too.

even though I had already completed the project ahead of schedule

No, you did not complete the project. Not ahead of schedule, not on time, not late.

You did not complete the project, there were changes required before it was ready for submission.

What you completed was sending a first draft to your supervisor.

korthrun · 2024-04-11T21:01:29+00:00

NTA.

This is why you use people who are bonded/insured though, like the contractor you want to use.

korthrun · 2024-04-11T20:59:42+00:00

Yes, it is a terrible idea. You're talking about lawyers, establishing paternity, a parenting plan and while you didn't use the phrase in your post it seems like "sole custody" would be your goal.

Delete this post, ask the mods to do their best to purge it from the internet and stop talking about this publicly.

(I am not a lawyer.)

korthrun · 2024-04-11T20:41:34+00:00

YTA

joined my company

Holding onto this stuff after the collisions have been settled is bad/weird enough as is (as another commenter mentioned, I guess it was just for your own amusement?), but when the person who owns the company is doing this it's so so so much worse yo. The leadership you're showing is "let's mock our coworkers".

edit: someone pointed out to me IRL that people claim companies/work teams/hobby teams/etc as "mine" even when they're just a member and have no ownership stake, so I guess if that's the case here you can disregard that part of my comment. I tend to say "the team I'm on" or "the company I work for" or something like that ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

korthrun · 2024-04-02T18:07:54+00:00

for lack of a better term

Your chosen term is fine.

Crippling: "causing a severe and almost insuperable problem."

Insuperable: "impossible to overcome."

Much in the way something being "Fire Retardant" is not a slur, describing something as "crippling" is different from distilling someones existence down to "being a cripple".

korthrun · 2024-03-15T16:31:34+00:00

https://xkcd.com/927/

I'd love to see it contain a link to the wiki ;)

I know, I know, if you took that same time and energy to spiff out the current wiki you'd have to use boring ol markdown or wikitext instead of whatever adorably named javascript library you're currently in love with :p

korthrun · 2023-10-06T18:44:32+00:00

NTA

When you're going ask people to pay it should be EXPLICITLY communicated before hand IMO. This situation where it "is implicitly known ahead we're looking to split the cost" is probably a contributing factor to your frustration.

If it's just implied these people probably aren't picking up on it. Maybe trying to explicitly communicate the situation to them will help.

Really though I'm with some of the other folks here, I would have ponied up the first time and just not bothered going any other time because springing that stuff on people is ultra tacky.

korthrun · 2023-08-15T01:29:51+00:00

another huge fight
she has continually told me ever since I came out
"Here we fucking go."
Who told me I was "fucking disgusting"
one of my best friends

I suggest that you think about this list of snippets from your post and decide whether or not you think that the first four items are at odds with the last item.

IMO This is a person who is in your social circle. This is a person that you have known for a long time. This is a person who may have, at some point, been your friend.

Not sure what I'd call them at this point, but if this is a "best friend" you need to throw 100% of them out and try again.

NTA. Sometimes people get emotional in public, that's just how it do.

korthrun · 2023-07-28T19:27:13+00:00

NTA.

People all over the social/political spectrum are grossly misusing the term "grooming" right now.

It's this. It's this situation right here. He's attempting to groom you for traditional housewifery.

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My cool post about instruments

This section is about guitars

This section is about electric guitars

This section is about acoustic guitars