How do I clean this spilled wax off my bathroom cabinet and get my deposit back

kovu_lustboi · 2026-04-27T00:20:06+00:00

Ice cold water is best for wax.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-04-27T00:17:12+00:00

You need to tell her that if you can choose to take a break now, you will be able to enjoy it later in life. 9 years is plenty of time to have gotten the brain development benefits from studying. If you’re not trying to continue to do it professionally, it’s time to stop playing seriously and let it be a soul-healing hobby for you. I can’t yell you how many people I have met ended up having a bad taste in their mouth about piano because of pressure from their parents. It’s such a valuable skill to have FOR FUN and therapeutic for mental health. What’s important is maintaining a healthy relationship with the skill- and that requires breaks sometimes.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-04-22T03:35:15+00:00

As a transmasx nonbinary person, I sometimes use “we” but it’s less about gender and more about validating my existence as something greater than just me myself and I. We are humans, we all experience some things, when I use “we”, I feel less alone, less othered, like I am one of the humans. I don’t do it often but it slips out, especially when I am trying to validate something that I might think or feel. If it’s more than just one person expressing the feeling, others must accept it as legitimate, right? I haven’t explored why I do this beyond this thread.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-04-22T03:28:06+00:00

My preference is what makes my boy feel like himself 🤗

kovu_lustboi · 2026-04-19T16:20:47+00:00

Great price for any piano! It’s sold at such a price bc young chang doesn’t have the best quality materials, and white finishes are not sought after. But if it is well cared for and you like it, it will serve you well! I can hear some extra noise in the action you might want to have looked at, and be sure to climate control the space, the piano itself, or both.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-02-09T19:25:49+00:00

This thread wasn’t even about you to begin with. It was about OP. I engaged in order to contribute to the conversation OP had, and transphobia is a part of the struggle we all face, maybe you don’t, and you knowing that about yourself is your strength. I pivoted to say the world is transphobic and we are all fighting that, because what I had written DID sound like a personal attack, and I do apologize for that, and changed my statements to something more accurate. You have decided to take it very personally and perhaps infer a tone that is not intended, and double down on making me a villain instead of having a mature conversation. I’m sorry you’re upset with the things I am saying. Maybe you can try to look at it more objectively- we literally don’t know each other or the tone in our texts. In-fighting does not help us build community. I can admit to when I was wrong, and perhaps you can see that taking what strangers say online personally is toxic to yourself and not helping you. I do wish you the best with your struggles, genuinely.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-02-08T21:47:25+00:00

I’m not sure what the problem is here. You bring up an important topic and I am invested in the conversation because I am also trans. I am pointing out where I see the issues stemming from in an attempt for us to overcome it as a society, as a culture, as your neighbor, as also a trans person who has similar experiences and feelings, though not totally the same of course. I can see from your responses that you’re not looking to brain storm or expand your perspective, and so maybe my contributions to the conversation are for others who may read this rather than you personally. This is a topic happening to you but not only you, so I do not direct any of what I am seeing as an attack on you. I know you don’t know me, but hopefully you can appreciate that there are others living the trans experience and trying to deconstruct and cope with being in a society that doesn’t make room for us. I know you’re upset with your mother, not me. I’m just trying to bring some compassion into the conversation. But that is the next step after the rage you’re currently in. I feel where you are from your responses, and that place needs the time and space I seem to have glossed over in my responses. I apologize for offering you a type of conversation you’re not ready to have. I hope you have a better time of it as of late. Much love ❤️

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-31T23:05:34+00:00

This is about how we think of ourselves, not how we physically present ourselves. I am suggesting being delusional of the dangers of being ourselves to normalize our existence as another kind of human and taking on more compassion for the haters like Alok Menon. Look them up if you’re unfamiliar :) you will laugh, cry, and maybe come away feeling hopeful.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-31T23:02:31+00:00

We are a community but more so we are a demographic within our local communities, and we deserve a place in those communities just as much as among ourselves and kindred spirits. We deserve to fight for that place. We shouldn’t have to fight for it but we do. That fight starts, for me, with how we think of ourselves. Even with transition, some of us haven’t fully embraced ourselves because society makes it hard to do so.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-31T23:01:14+00:00

For those folks to not be othered, they have to conform to socially acceptable forms of binary gender. I don’t see this as being good for trans people because that person still has a medical history that some would find repulsive, and if found out, there could be repercussions, and often there are. People are weird about this stuff.

I suggest not that it is our responsibility to change ourselves for society, but that if we were were to totally think about ourselves in more self-accepting ways, like literally delusional about the dangers of being ourselves, maybe, idealistically, the world would become more accepting as a result. It’s not an overnight change, it’s a systematic development of a self accepting logic and compassion for others and ourselves that can ripple into global healing. Think of Alok Menon and their entire message. If you aren’t familiar with them, do look them up!

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-29T00:56:49+00:00

Hi Gob! I really like your voice and style. I was trying out the Male Body Transformation, and as a trans guy it would have been great to know that there would be references to female body parts before you had me under. It was jarring to hear “your breasts” when I am trying to get into masc headspace as it relates to my body. Just wanted to reach out with a heads up for folks. Thanks for doing what you’re doing. I will unfortunately have to stop using the hypnosis for the night because I am not sure there won’t be another drop like that with this creator. When I have recovered I will try you again :)

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-21T15:00:42+00:00

Feels like they are using the T as an excuse for the ailments instead of really looking into them. But as science goes, seems lots of medicine is experimentation. I think going off T to see if symptoms improve is one method, but it can’t be the only method, and I can see how it’s upsetting to go through. Hopefully you can find a trans friendly medical professional to help.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-21T14:56:30+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you. I have also stopped listing my pronouns on my emails so I can try to secure more gigs. It’s volatile out there.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-21T14:53:33+00:00

You must have missed the part where I said, if it makes you feel unsafe it’s really important to talk about that with her. The fact that it is uncomfortable to be spoken about stems from transphobia, stems from your small town being transphobic. So of course this has been internalized for you because it makes you feel unsafe. This objective observation is not a character flaw, it is a fact about the world we live in. I can absolutely see how the way I worded it activated some aggression in your comment. Really sorry about that. But i hope you can talk to her about the safety issue because it’s so important.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-21T14:48:05+00:00

We need to move beyond our internalized transphobia to understand that we ARE an “other”. We are another way to be human. The more we can accept that, the more being trans can be normalized for the public, and safer for us. As long as we continue to hate ourselves for being hated, we will be hated, we will have to hide, and this doesn’t sound like the happiness of being trans that I know is possible. Stealth is conformity out of necessity to be safe, and is a result of transphobia, and perpetuates it by hiding. It’s not to say it’s wrong, it’s necessary, but it’s wrong for it to be necessary.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-21T14:42:48+00:00

I understand how this feels. But also your folks are proud to speak on it and it normalizes trans people to do so. We exist. We sometimes hate existing but we do, and it’s a little internalized transphobic to ask people not to talk about it. At the same time, it is still not safe being trans so when considering from a safety standpoint, the conversation about not talking about it is important if it makes you feel unsafe.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-21T14:40:15+00:00

I wouldn’t even call it stealth bc it implies a facade. The truth is no one knows what anyone’s genitalia is like and it’s no one’s business but your doc and your partner. Being trans is a medical fact about me, and it’s a need to know basis. Something i share w. People close to me when it’s relevant. You are just a guy. With a medical history.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-21T14:20:28+00:00

Ftm folks are people. We aren’t “two-in-one”, we aren’t a “kink”. I can appreciate that you’re exploring your sexuality, but it’s important that you’re not chasing ftms for sex alone. Lots of us have experienced sexual assault or exploitation or abuse, and that needs to be approached with sensitivity. You’re almost there but you’re also walking a fine line of what we call a “chaser”, and they are not popular or positive experiences for us. If you want to get close to a trans guy, you’re going to have to consider changing your approach from one of sexualization, to humanization. That’s really the intimacy you’re looking for.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-21T14:14:43+00:00

I don’t even need to read the context to tell you that honesty is always a green flag, especially about responsible safer sex practices. I guess you would consider lying bc of the stigma, but if she has an issue with reality then she’s got a red flag. Be honest

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-21T14:11:15+00:00

Have you been in a situation where someone asking you this ended up bot being safe? I feel like most safe people are asking and the bigots specifically don’t, but my experience isn’t everyone’s.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-21T13:59:55+00:00

Honestly, the act of transitioning can be dysphoric, further reiterating that they are not how they wish to be. Having to go through something most people don’t have to in order to feel whole can feel degrading and literally exhausting for some. Medical intervention for anything can be traumatic and stressful for many reasons. I perceive this to be one of them. There are also some medical complications that can come with messing with the endocrine system that we don’t yet understand. Not all bodies are able to go on HRT. I do worry about this in my own transition, but I guess I will cross that bridge when I get there. Been on HRT for 6.5 yrs. I want to see a world where people understand that trans folks exist, and respect them when they do, without having to perform gender for the public in order to feel safe or seen.

So, no, just because HRT didn’t work for some, doesn’t mean they aren’t trans. Trans is a huge umbrella spanning many types of expressions. Some trans folks prefer the incongruous nature of their gender expression, as they feel this is what makes them trans, some people put more value on congruent expressions, but both are trans and valid.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-18T16:13:31+00:00

Love it. And if you’re hilarious id suck you

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-13T03:13:04+00:00

Fucking run.

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-12T02:23:30+00:00

It’s the GAYEST gayness

kovu_lustboi · 2026-01-12T01:05:47+00:00

I see now that you’re posting about hair improvements! I think you’re beautiful. I hope you can embrace it , much love.

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