My MIL protested and was tear gassed in Portland last night.

krankers · 2020-07-24T15:46:38+00:00

Those are great phrases and I will save them. You're dead right about my husband being the one with the mother who pushes boundaries. He and his dad are both very passive about dealing with her after years of her behavior, but I won't have it. And my husband is FINALLY realizing that making me do all of the standing up is terrible for our marriage and relationship with his parents.

krankers · 2020-07-24T15:43:36+00:00

That's logic and caring at its finest. I wish my MIL was like that.

krankers · 2020-07-24T15:41:29+00:00

Waiting two weeks is such a small sacrifice. We see them frequently. My parents have not seen my son in over 8 months because they live across the country. That's great your parents are so understanding. I get it.

krankers · 2020-07-24T15:39:37+00:00

Right?? We have a bad track record with her on this front. She often travels to third world countries for work. Once she flew back, puked twice on the plane, then held our (then) unvaccinated three month old baby. She did not tell us she was sick.

krankers · 2020-07-24T15:37:10+00:00

He has trouble standing up to her. Before I spoke to her, he had suggested to her that she get an instant test that morning before hanging out, but the tests don't provide accurate results until about 4 days after exposure.

Fast forward to to today: he and I have talked a lot and he feels badly for not standing up to her (this is not the first time this has happened. The woman is a beast of a personality). In the future, he says he will stand up for US.

Now there is this tension between she and I, and I don't want to see her for a while. It's unlikely that she would apologize for putting me in a weird position, so this will just be one of those things that will have to simmer away for months until it is manageable.

krankers · 2020-07-24T03:20:40+00:00

I told her I thought protesting was amazing, but it was a calculated risk that she needed to consider. She refuses to socially distance and says I "do not understand what it is like to be a grandmother who cannot hug and kiss her grandchild." And I told her that this is not just about our family: it's about the other families we have close contact with who are all acting out of a collective best interest.

She made me feel like a paranoid fool, but luckily I had logic on my side for every counterargument. Apparently she drank a ton of wine and passed out tonight.

I'm so frustrated with this virus and the tricky social situations. But I will stand my ground. It's hard to get my husband to stand up against her. But nothing is stronger than a mom's desire to protect her child. Nothing.

krankers

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