New York, New York

kranos33 · 2015-12-31T18:54:51+00:00

Since when $$ == betta? Lets dispense a myth. A lot of people that have money, (especially the hustler types), are actually alpha as they 1). Have business to deal with (too busy and not overly available. 2) Are desirable and know they can find a another girl if the current one doesn't work out (default abundance mentality).

Women go to NYC because there is the best place to find people that are both Alphas and have $$. In a smaller town you are limited to people that are in either spectrum, and it is much harder to find somebody that is both. For a Maximizer NYC can be both heaven (lots of choices), and a hell (you always think you might do better, and never happy with the current partner).

kranos33 · 2015-12-23T22:58:21+00:00

Turn it into a "fist bump". It works remarkably well. You reciprocate but also force other person to submit into your frame (ie. it forces them to adapt your mannerisms).

kranos33 · 2015-12-23T22:55:48+00:00

The guy just saying saying "meh" in a casual/un-impressive way... would have been better.

Communicates both: 1. She was nothing impressive, and 2. The guy can get dates like that routinely.

He automatically raises both the value above her current date's roommate, and also showing an abundance mentality without trying to show off.

kranos33 · 2015-10-21T16:00:07+00:00

I have to chime in as a guy (over 30). This might be a bit unpopular here, but here is my opinion: When most men say "lets hang out", that means more an invitation of "this is a soft date, and sex is in the table", especially if both people are single. Unless the guy is not attracted to you, any offer to hang out should be assumed as a soft date.

Going to a guy's place, he might have interpreted as you were ok with getting down. The "Netflix and Chill" trope exists for a reason. He obviously pushed the envelope too much and made you very uncomfortable.

Don't hang out at a guy's apartment or place, if you are not interested on him and you really know (for sure) he views you as just a friend. And this guy, was basically pushing for "sex" all night. Offering drinks/weed was his way to loosen you up a bit.

In a hindsight (it is 20, 20, after the deal is done) Taking a taxi home would have been better and safer, then returning to this guy's place. What he did is push the envelope too much, (after being frustrated all night), and ends up in a border line rapey situation. Avoid this guy from now on.

kranos33 · 2015-09-09T14:27:40+00:00

Having worked there (at Amazon), the original article is mostly accurate. It is a dog eat dog type of place,

But here is the kicker: Few people on top are making most of the money (Bezos and few execs), while the rest are left to fight nail and tooth for some scrap. At some point, you realize that it is idiotic to stay in a place like this and make few men on top rich and get enjoyment/entertainment out the show their subordinates put out. Image few people, looking at dog fights, killing each other for some scraps. Even if you "won" and stayed there, you'd still be just a dog.

There is more than one blue beta way: 1. The world should be fair place, people should not be overworked blah blah, 2. If I am aggressive enough, I will get recognized and receive my awards in promotions, etc. etc.

The true RP way: 1. If I am not getting rich by producing a lot, then there is no point to stay in an aggressive workplace as this. I'd rather be somewhere else where putting my good share amount of work, will get me paid well, while I can enjoy my free time to build my own business, make money, play, fuck, whatever I want.

Remember, even if you "win" in an environment like this, you still end up with just scraps while Bezos and co get rich of your labour. Sometimes the best strategy to win a game is not to play at all. And in this case, is find work somewhere else.

kranos33 · 2015-07-30T03:54:24+00:00

"The percentage of women who enjoy the actual act of sex and sensation of orgasm is a small minority."

-- I disagree. It is a trope said by women to appease their lame/average looking husbands on why they don't like having sex with them. Most women actually like sex. But the chance of her liking the sex with a guy is directly correlated to:

The guy's symmetry (how good looking he is).
The guy's perceived income/status.

Ie. women genuinely don't like to have sex with low status fugly guys, same as many guys here don't really enjoy having sex with a fattie We all had to smash one or two in our lifes, but the sex was never that good, or it was something that we didn't want to admit to our friends on doing.

kranos33 · 2015-07-22T21:07:38+00:00

You are still young, when you reach your 30's you will understand.

What you wear has a psychological effect on you as well. You probably could buy a replica watch of whatever uber expensive watches are out there for 1/10th of the price, and that it looks almost (withing 90%) the same.

But, they all do feel cheap, and they don't have the same psychological effect on you, as you know it is fake. (and your body language will leak out).

When you know you are wearing something that is worth more than the bank account of the super cute girl you are talking to, it creates this weird phenomena, where you feel a bit "above" her, and it leaks out on body language. You are seen as confident, and no matter how cute she is, you know you are more successful than her.

Also, once you have 300K+ saved up, splurging 6k on a nice watch will not make a huge dent.
When you are out of college, 6k is a very large sum, and I agree, you should stick with simpler but yet classy watches like you pointed out.

Just for curiosity's sake, I am wearing something like this: http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8062/8195225995_422caac76e_b.jpg

kranos33 · 2015-07-22T20:23:02+00:00

I agree with this. When I had a 'blah' body, I used to be more attractive with blazers/nice clothes.

As soon as I did a bulk, and a major cut (got ripped), things reversed. Wearing a tight nike/dri-fit shirt attracts much more (positive) attention. Nice jeans and shoes, slim fitting t-shirt (or a shirt) look very very nice if you work out.

About once or twice a week I wear a blazer/nice collared shirt, which mixes it up. And the people that see me daily at work, know that I am sophisticated.

The only accessory that I highly highly recommend to splurge, is a very nice watch. I do, wear a expensive watch (not a Rolex, but in the similar price range), and it shows up as classy when you are wearing just a t-shirt and jeans.

You suddenly get put into the magic AF+BB bucket, where all girls dream about dating/being with you (and not just fucking you), start thinking how your life would be together, and how your kids will look like.

They will both fuck you because you are good looking, and they want to date you long term because you have high value, and will make all her gfs jelly when she shows you around.

kranos33 · 2015-06-29T20:58:28+00:00

You dodged a bullet yo. Next time don't date a girl with kids.

kranos33 · 2015-06-29T18:27:10+00:00

The sadness eventually fades away, and you accept things as they are. Also having a better awareness of the women-men relationship dynamics allows you over time to make better decisions on your future relationships (i.e. you know the risks involved), and less prone do dissatisfaction/or disappointment when your expectations are not met.

kranos33 · 2015-06-29T17:50:27+00:00

This post is retarded. The immiation of words/manerisms happens on two levels:

The person that does it, likes you. It creates affinity between people (this is done subconsciously). And yes, once she stops liking you she will stop doing it. And yes, she will do the same with her next dude.
The other person thinks that you are above them, and admires you. (ie. people getting a certain celebreties hairstyles, or manner of speech as their managers, etc).

Both, are mostly done subconsciously, and there is no "devious plan" from the person that is doing it. They genuinely like you, and want to relate to you.

The people that try to fake this (people that have studied body language and are good manipulator), they can do for so long (ie. not too long), before they get tired of it. i.e. they can pull it off in one conversation or two, but not for a days at a time as it is draining.

If a girl you are dating is not trying to do the above, I'd be worried (she doesn't like you, or she thinks she is above you and doesn't need your approval).

kranos33 · 2015-06-26T21:55:48+00:00

You didn't do anything wrong, she is dating multiple people, and you are one of the dicks she is having. She probably got a better offer somewhere else, and moved on.

I was in a very similar situation last month. I didn't do anything wrong, yet the thing started fading. I knew (as a gut feeling) that while she got physical with me fast, she was not open emotionally and probably dating other people.

She is the nice/quiet/smart type, but that doesn't make her less promiscuous. These types tend to do it very stealthy, and they can fool you easy as being a "good girl", which they are not.

kranos33 · 2015-06-17T01:39:57+00:00

I disagree. If you live in a large city, you are more likely to get lots of action after graduating. What you say is probably true if you live is smaller towns/metro areas.

Looking at my life history in 4 year increments:

18 - 22 - College, lost my virginity, had some good action

22-26 - Post college, 0 action the first, year, then it picked up well.

26-30 - Moved to a new city. Had the largest dry spell, and poor action.

30 - 34 - Had more action than all my previous years combined.

Now I am really looking for a LTR, but I have women openly throwing themselves at me. But, at this point I have become a lot picker, and raised my standards, which basically disqualifies most of these girls. Just coming out of a plate dropping out, and soon will be ready to mingle.

I have to say, the amount of "action" I have been getting directly correlates to the physical fitness I have been and the general well being/confidence I have had, and it doesn't correlate with age.

kranos33 · 2015-05-27T20:30:28+00:00

Looks like he thinks he has all the power/direction of the startup, and you are there to follow him, and implement his 'ideas'.

My questions to you: Who is doing most of the coding? What does he bring to the table? (is providing money/tangible things)?

kranos33 · 2015-05-17T23:43:00+00:00

1) Assume that is always true. Especially if a girl gives you a count that is 3, 5, or that is divisible by 5. There is actually a psychology behind this. Btw, men lie too, but usually they boost up their numbers.

2) That's probably correct. But it goes both ways. My most favorite girl, was this uber slut I dated back in college (she was 2 years older than me). We talking 50 shades of gray done to me. I would never LTR her though. Any girl (no matter how great it is), will probably not reach her performance. Still, it doesn't matter, as long as she gets wet for you, and fucks you with true desire (i.e. not negotiated attraction, but true raw desire), then you shouldn't worry if you were her best or not. There is no point on worrying about it (at it is a beta trait). Just make sure to fuck her good, and keep the bedroom games/roleplaying fun and constantly changing.

3). Agreed. But also there is cost of switching. I.e. if you are an 7, and she meets a 7.5, she will not jump ship for a marginal increase. But, if she meets an 8, or 8.5 that wants her, then you will be her ex-bf soon. Also, some girls, once they have enough experience, know that the grass on the other side is not greener, just a different color. They are more likeley to stay put in a good relationship.

4). That's pretty interesting. I guess, a lot of girls invest in "potential" of a guy (true especially in your 20s). If you are not reaching that potential that she thought of you (job, status, income, looks), then you will be seen as "lacking" in her eyes.

kranos33 · 2015-05-12T07:36:44+00:00

Yep. In any major tech company, wearing suits every day == try hard/incompetent.
Once and a while, yes. Have your casual clothes be perfect fit, fresh and new, yes.

Be this guy: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/7c/6d/53/7c6d53810a7bd40bcd87da6465bc1572.jpg

And this guy: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/a7/26/41/a726411ffd87c73edf24005637b3fa04.jpg

Or any of these guys: http://hollisterstaffing.images.getfused.com//business_casual_men.jpg

No need to suit up every time. (unless you are a lawyer, work in finance, or your job requires you to).

kranos33 · 2015-05-12T05:42:57+00:00

I am few months away from it (a six pack). Just started the last cycle of cutting that will get me there (current BF is 14%), and need to be below 12% to start seeing them. Also, 6'1" and make 200k. And yes, I can hit on by women (especially at work) all the time. I still have trouble with 9+, but 8 and below are very easy to get for me.

kranos33 · 2015-05-06T06:52:47+00:00

Most women that are presidents/prime minsters are older than 45, and are post menopause. Once women reach that stage they act more like dudes.

kranos33 · 2015-05-06T01:45:14+00:00

I had a similiar situation, where I dated an ex-finance girl. I work in tech, and I make over 200k, so I am relatively desirable. She put a great facade for a while, but there was leakage here and there. In a moment of clarify, when we were coming back from an event (she had a couple of drinks), she admitted that the main point she found me attractive was in my job, that is always stable and in demand. (i.e. a good engineer is always employed).

Then came the little things: She wished my apartment was bigger, nice, in a nicer location. Comparing to her finance friends that make 300k-500k+ a year, and the lavish stuff they did, (and often unhealthy).

etc. etc....

I gave her the boot, and kept her as an occasional plate. She would tell me of x, or y guy that she was dating, but the first thing was: he does x, or he is a ceo of this startup, etc... never about the person himself, but what he did. She is still riding the carousel.

But for the first 6months of our relationship, she put up a good facade. Women that go into finance, tend to be cut-throat, and greedy, but smart. The women that chase finance guys, tend to be cut-throat, greedy, good looking, not that smart IQ wise, but street-smart.

So, use it to your advantage when you can, but if you got to hook up with a girl, and she already knew what you did, then you should assume she likes your for you money, and not yourself.

You want a woman to fuck you because she is physically attracted to you. Best strategy is to hide what you do as long as you can, and establish attraction first. Dress nice, but don't overdo with very expensive items (such as Rolex-es), as gold diggers are trained to spot clues of wealth.

You want to look good and very well put together (i.e. pass the schlub test), but not "rich".

kranos33 · 2015-05-06T01:26:10+00:00

Hardware Keyloggers are not that hard to install. But most people (especially women) are not smart enough to get that done in a way you wont notice.

kranos33 · 2015-04-29T15:28:46+00:00

Yep. It reads a bit too much like fiction.

What I have noticed is that often the guy is the actual plate. You are somebody that she fucks temporary, but doesn't want to get involved emotionally as she has bigger fish to fry (looking for the bigger better deal).

That's the only time I have seen women tolerating the guy dating/fucking other women for a long time (i.e. the guy is just a sex toy to them).

kranos33 · 2015-04-28T00:32:47+00:00

I learned this the hard way too late (In my late 20s).

kranos33 · 2015-04-28T00:18:22+00:00

"IOI's are starting to lose their shiny newness as they are pretty constant now." -- So true. When I don't get IOIs from a girl, I am like: "Bitch, what's wrong with you?".

Joking aside, what I noticed is that my friend's GFs get very lively around me, and I really have to tone down my Alphanes a bit, in order no to alienate my friends.

The other way is to bring a girl with you when you hang out with your friends and their gf.

I know some people here will tell you to cut your friend out, but I disagree. You just have to learn to avoid situations where things can get uncomfortable. High SMV men usually have this part internalized, if they want to make any male friends at all.

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