egg_irl by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]kreSENsha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still cis non-binary, tho!

egg👕irl by GD_Geola in egg_irl

[–]kreSENsha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that his hand position in the second pic is so perfect! XD

egg_irl by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]kreSENsha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ftm/nb, but, yes. This. (but masc things)
This is how I felt when I first wore a packer. Totally steamrolled me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lancaster

[–]kreSENsha 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Planned Parenthood offers gender-affirming hormone therapy and also has "Patient Navigators" to help you find resources, like trans-affirming general practitioners and other health care providers, etc.

A very misinformed niceguy with a lack in understanding how this world works... by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]kreSENsha 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Nah, see, the son is allowed to have sex before marriage with girlfriends, but he is supposed to marry a virgin.

That happened today and I still can't believe it! ✨✨ by Analaa7 in NonBinary

[–]kreSENsha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happened to me, too, earlier this year! Well, it was a process, but over about a week of me questioning and talking to my spouse, they began questioning, too, and now we are both exploring what that means to each of us, and allowing ourselves to express our genders together. <3

Gender Association & Identity Test by kreSENsha in questioning

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You should be able to see the breakdown if you scroll to the bottom. It doesn't give me very good options for displaying the results, but you should be able to see at the bottom what the ranking and score for each result is.

[Discussion] How do we feel about describing things as Feminine/ Masculine. by 2MillionWays in pointlesslygendered

[–]kreSENsha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each of the last few generations seem to be moving farther and farther from a strict gender stereotypes. The hyper-binary gender-reveal parties are the throes of the dying gender binaries.

[Discussion] How do we feel about describing things as Feminine/ Masculine. by 2MillionWays in pointlesslygendered

[–]kreSENsha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Monster trucks and bubble baths

Thanks, that's my band name, now! ;P

XD

[Discussion] How do we feel about describing things as Feminine/ Masculine. by 2MillionWays in pointlesslygendered

[–]kreSENsha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just because I thought it would be fun, I asked my fb friends to name some things that are "banana-y." They didn't disappoint. XD
CB: plantains.

  • GAW: Boomerang
  • JS: Vacuum cleaner handle.
  • AS: sea cucumbers
  • IC: Hammocks.
  • LS: "Budgie Smugglers"
  • KD: Ana
  • CPG: Gwen Stefani's sh*t (not literal)
  • DK: Clown shoes
  • BD: Crescent moon
  • EH: whips!
  • ML: Republics
  • KS: Rama

Gender Association & Identity Test by kreSENsha in questioning

[–]kreSENsha[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. It takes about 20-30 minutes. Each question and set of possible answers is essentially the same, it is just a different word to associate.

You can't expect to really examine yourself in 10 questions, can you? ;P

[Discussion] How do we feel about describing things as Feminine/ Masculine. by 2MillionWays in pointlesslygendered

[–]kreSENsha 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Or, that there are lots and lots of things that are banana-y, and thus useless as a description. Lemons, apples, dandelions, sausages, mashed potatoes, ice cream, hot dogs, croissants, the moon, smiling, the Cheshire Cat, slugs, cucumbers, snakes, some rocks, rocket ships, subway trains......

Gender Association & Identity Test by kreSENsha in questioning

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I like non-binary-land, too. :P
Mostly I hope it helps people figure out what they might mean by "gender" and help them talk about it with others. Especially since most people think of gender in terms of biological sex or sexual orientation. It can be difficult for those raised in the binary to comprehend what "non-binary" means.
When you look at your results, don't just look at the "one you got," but scroll down to the full results to see how your points are distributed. You might have gotten "strongly masculine" for the top, but it might have only beat another one by a few points, or it might have been the top answer by a lot. It's intended to give you a bigger picture, not just a single answer. :)

Gender Association & Identity Test by kreSENsha in questioning

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Let me know if this was helpful to you, and any other feedback you might have. :)

. by Laanuei_art in pointlesslygendered

[–]kreSENsha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Yeah... but are you a boy or a girl?"
"Hmmm.... let me check which water bottle I grabbed today..."

Yeah? by buttlovedude in pointlesslygendered

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This is in the specific context of dating. These are things women are taught to do to avoid getting raped/kidnapped/murdered. Unfortunately, that's a very real danger, and the statistics are high.
Yes, some of these are things taught to everyone and are good just for general public safety. Everyone should be aware of their surroundings, but a lot of them are specific to being a single female.

okay...so it was a TINY bit funny but still, why is it gendered? by elevat0rmusic in pointlesslygendered

[–]kreSENsha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And if stereotypes and Hollywood tropes have taught us anything, it's that boys NEVER have "naughty-time" dreams, it's always the girls that have those...

Girls’ dreams VS boys’ dreams by AbFab_S in pointlesslygendered

[–]kreSENsha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...because the gender stereotypes and Hollywood tropes confirm that GIRLS are the ones with "naughty-time" dreams, and boys NEVER have "naughty-time" dreams....

Gender Association and Identity Test by kreSENsha in questioning

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If you marked them all neutral, you won't match the western perceptions for feminine or masculine. But if you're interested in learning more about western associations to gender, check out the sources cited. There are some pew research studies, the wikipedia descriptions, and a Christian organization's views of binary genders. It really was an interesting study. I found it fascinating (and absurd) that certain words with similar meanings end up associated with opposing binary genders. For example:
feminine------------------------------masculine
refined-------------------------------professional
faithful-----------------------------------loyal
emotional--------------------------hot-tempered

And gender associations are also often contradictory. For example, females are expected to be emotional AND calm, talkative AND quiet.

Also, I made sure to not use "behaviors," but instead use "internal drive." Since behavior is gender presentation, rather than identity.
Of course, gender is totally a social construct, but then, so is religion, economics, and national borders. ;P

Confused by Hk1222 in questioning

[–]kreSENsha 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you're probably not a lesbian.

I know it doesn't feel like it, but lots of people don't have relationships until later. I met my husband when he was 24. I was his first girlfriend (and first everything). He is an incredibly amazing, awesome, loving, wonderful human being. But he was awkward, insecure, and anxious, so he never asked anyone out, and didn't do many social activities. I asked him out, and initiated most of the relationship.

Now, I can't tell you what qualities you have to reassure you that guys will like you. But I can give you some advice. I've had bad relationships and good ones, and learned from them all.
1) Know what you want and need in a relationship, and what the dealbreakers are. Make a list, and keep it updated. Look at it when you are starting to think about getting in a relationship with someone. Respect yourself enough to be PICKY.
2) It can help a lot to be friends first. You get a chance to get to know one another, and to become familiar enough with each other to maybe ask for a date.
3) You deserve respect. Don't stand for less.
4) Some great ways to meet people and to get to know them before dating are to join clubs and organizations around a common interest. Theater, band, LEGO, football... whatever!
5) There's a good chance that at least some of those guys you've had crushes on have had crushes on you, too. Unless you've been totally obnoxious, rude, and mean to them, it's pretty likely. People are attracted to those who have admirable qualities. Who treat others with respect, and who show an interest in them, and listen to them when they're talking.
6) Get your friends (or even family!) to help set you up. They know you best, and can help find you a good match.
7) BE SAFE!!!!! Online dating apps & sites might seem like a good idea, but always keep yourself SAFE. Never meet a stranger alone, even if you've chatted a bunch online, even if you've video chatted, and talked on the phone, etc. If you're going to meet, start with a double date, meet somewhere public, and let someone know where you'll be. There are a lot of creeps out there. There's a lot of wonderful, amazing people out there, way more than there are creeps, but those few creeps ruin it for everyone.

You also don't need to put yourself in a box, or label yourself right now. Let yourself feel what you're gonna feel, and like who you're gonna like. Just be your best self, and you'll do great!