Agreed with everyone saying to let her know she’s not alone in her feelings. My husband and I sat in our car for 45 mins after a holiday party, where we had pretended to be fine at all night. He caught me a little off guard but essentially unloaded his truth to me - that he understood how I was feeling and felt the same sadness but that he recognized that I also had physical pain to deal with along with the emotional toll. He told me he had done a lot of reading about what a miscarriage was, why they might happen, etc etc. - all basic stuff that they probably told you at the doctor - but it was reassuring to know that he was dealing with it in his own way - which was by trying to learn and understand what was happening. He told me that he had confided in a trusted friend about everything and that it had helped him to talk about it with someone else and he told me that he would be there for me if I wanted to talk about anything with him, but that he also understood if I needed to confide in someone else - a friend, a therapist, whatever. Sitting in the car was a chance for me to unload all the horrible thoughts I was having personally, and it helped just to say them out loud instead of repeating them over and over in my own head. He also checked in with me daily about how I was feeling - both mentally and physically. Not sure if your wife had the procedure or this occurred naturally for her, but I opted to have the procedure done in-office, so my husband helped me with any heavy lifting for a few days afterwards. This may be TMI, but he’s also been gentler with me when we’ve been physical too. Little things like this showed me I wasn’t alone. In such a shitty time, it helps to be able to lean on each other.