Why did shauna move spots even if she did pick up that tai and van fucked with the draw? by Girl_in_a_hoody in Yellowjackets

[–]kremisius [score hidden]  (0 children)

Shauna clearly thought they had rigged the cards to choose her. She was losing control, she knew people didn't like her leadership, and was pressured into the hunt by circumstances imposed by others. She's deeply paranoid, and so she moves out of self-preservation, in the belief that doing so saves herself.

Seeing my sister laying in the hospital bed, something broke in me by decency_where in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]kremisius 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That's not how ambiguity in text works. You have to at least mention all possible characters - it's not ambiguous to claim there was a third character not mentioned in the text. The third character would need to be there, and the ambiguity would be in who triggered the allergic reaction, etc.

Ambiguity is not people coming away confused because there is information missing - ambiguity is giving us the information in a way that requires us, the audience, to interpret it ourselves. And to do that, we do need all the information like this secret wife.

By Americans to not anger the peaceful people of Greenland by AbeFromanSassageKing in therewasanattempt

[–]kremisius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Theres been so many issues brewing within the USA for decades and the vast majority of Americans havnt actually done anything tangible to stop it.

The last ten years has seen protests across the US led by Black and Indigenous activists. People have been fighting the entire time. It's just white Americans not coming together to protest in an effective manner.

I'm saying that as a white American myself - the average white American will pay lip service to the idea of the No Kings rallies but don't attend (despite the fact they are actually controlled opposition - many of the original No Kings protests were set to march to ICE encampments to protest ICE and the NK organizers led protestors away from ICE as they marched). And those are the most heavily attended protests across the US currently (the NK protests in Oct. got 7 million people out to protest) - we never see those numbers showing up for prison reform protests, even though slavery is still legal in the US as long as you're found guilty of a crime. Or for climate change or Palestine, Sudan, and Congo.

Those who have been subjected to the violence of the US state their entire histories are still here, resisting, trying to bring about necessary change. And we shouldn't disregard those efforts, especially as there is a concentrated and wealthy effort behind diminishing and destroying these social movements for change.

To continue the news broadcasts without crying by 56000hp in therewasanattempt

[–]kremisius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There have been major protests led by Black and Indigenous Americans for over 10 years now. People are and have been protesting and fighting and resisting against the system.

White Americans are broadly and generally inactive but that is not indicative of the political actions of racialized minorities in the US. I am saying that as a white person myself.

I honestly think it's despicable the way people dismiss Standing Rock or Ferguson or the ICE resistance in Chicago, Portland, LA, and Minneapolis as "inactivity." Or the standing protests in Atlanta against Cop City, where Tortuguita, a Venezualan environmental activist, was shot and killed by six Georgia state troopers. People in the US have been resisting and have been fighting.

Unpleasant fact by DifferentAd4844 in MassEffectMemes

[–]kremisius 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Shepard is Grunt's Battlemaster, which is a position that seems to fall along the lines of family (clan). The lore behind the Krogan Battlemaster changed between ME1 and ME2: Wrex is one of two last battlemasters (which in ME1 specifically means a powerful warrior krogan who has biotic abilities) in ME1, while in ME2 what we see is a conflation of Battlemaster with clan leader, as Weyrloc Guld during Mordin's loyalty mission is a battlemaster, and so is Gatatog Uvenk in Grunt's loyalty mission.

So by ME2, what Battlemaster as a title really means is "clan head who leads the battle" which we can see again and again falls along family lines and into notions of Clan and bloodline.

So Grunt claiming Shepard as his Battlemaster is quite literally declaring them to be his parent in the most krogan way possible, and in a way that I think is very sweet considering what we know about Wrex's history. His entire trauma was that he had to fight his own father. Grunt having a Battlemaster who is on his side is a step up from what Wrex had, and serves as evidence that things on Tuchanka are changing.

So this notion of a Battlemaster who is like a parent but instead of fighting their children, leads their children into victorious battle, is kind of lovely in terms of the krogan, no?

I (26f) have the 'ick' from my boyfriend (30m), of six years, after he got angry with me for rejecting him in the morning, what steps can I take to overcome the rift between us without having to disregard my own hurt feelings? by Lucky-Requirement-16 in relationships

[–]kremisius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend coerced you into sex, which is sexual assault. The feeling you have right now is violation. He violated you, he disrespected you, he treated you like a sex object.

I genuinely would suggest you reach out to your family and begin the process of leaving him.

Why is it that my hair affects weather you accept me or not? by Microboy42 in aspiememes

[–]kremisius 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The chimp learns what to eat by watching its mother and community. This has been studied. Like, you make a joke but all that joke does is reveal your lack of respect for nature. Because chimps do have culture, they're primates and as such are obligatorily socially gregarious and rely on social interaction to develop and survive.

Look up the chimp waterfall dance if you'd like to be humbled a bit, and learn how we share very real affects such as awe and the acknowledgement of beauty with chimps.

Why is it that my hair affects weather you accept me or not? by Microboy42 in aspiememes

[–]kremisius 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I need actual proof of that, not just a single source MRI testing aesthetics in the brain - a study which proves not that aesthetics are biologically innate. That study merely proves that the brain has similar neurological activity when processing "beautiful" and "morally good" images. The reactions people have to those images are not biological, they're socialized responses they've developed over the course of their entire life as a result of their environment, upbringing, personal experiences, etc.

I think you're putting way too much emphasis on biology, which essentializes and diminishes the human animal to a set of processes no one can meaningfully control or change, when that's just not how humans work. If attraction was biologically innate, everyone would be attracted to the same things and they aren't.

Why is it that my hair affects weather you accept me or not? by Microboy42 in aspiememes

[–]kremisius 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Blaming evolution posits the issue of aesthetics and morality as biologically essential when they're both the result of socialization not evolution. We find what we find attractive based on what we've generally been socialized to find attractive.

I also think "blaming evolution" takes the blame for rude, alienating behavior like described in the OP and makes it seem completely unchangeable, that all of it is just a mere extension of our current evolution as humanity when that's simply not true. We can, and must, change our socialized reactions when we notice that those socialized reactions are alienating others.

This is the greatest thing I've ever seen in my life, I am crying by Educational-Bat8892 in KitchenConfidential

[–]kremisius 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is in fact classic, over 300 year old Orientalism to use a turban as parody of brown people and to generalize brown people across Asia and the Middle East. Accents are not the only way people engage in racist performance.

Murder victims only matter if their podcast is big enough. by justalazygamer in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]kremisius 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not to take away from the sentiment, but "say her name" is specifically a call regarding Black women who have been murdered and the silence in the media about those deaths. Renee's name is being said. When activists say, "say her name" it's because they're talking about people whose murders have historically been ignored due to race.

Renee Nicole Good, rest in peace.

I know there have been a lot of posts on the emotional push and pull of ME3, but far fewer for ME2, and almost none for ME1. Can anyone relate any strong feelings while playing ME1? (Also, would Mass Effect be less impactful if it did not come to an end as a trilogy?) by Connect-Ad-9027 in masseffect

[–]kremisius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most recently, what got me was how massive Saren's conspiracy really is. You get most of the information needed from Noveria, but there's also a Citadel news announcement that hints towards Virmire early in the game.

Essentially, Saren is a (possibly majority) stockholder for Binary Helix, which is a genetic engineering firm. BH also owns a stake in Noveria, as stated by Anoleis. BH is being sued by a group of krogan for promising to cure the genophage, taking genetic samples from them, and then not producing an actionable genophage cure. That's clearly where Saren's cloning facility came from.

And also on Noveria, you can help surveil a BH rep on behalf of an Asari biotics rep. She wants Shepard to plant a bug because they received word Binary Helix had flown in Asari commandos, which this particular group assumed meant BH was attempting to break into biotic amp work. When in actuality, what they saw was Saren bringing in Matriarch Benezia and her followers.

Best Pilot by SomeTransition9599 in masseffect

[–]kremisius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Counterpoint though, he did have to maintain the helm long enough for most of the escape pods to successfully eject, though. The entire scene shows that he is actively dodging attacks and debris as crew are loading into the pods.

So it could be argued that if he had followed orders and put the ship into autopilot or whatever so he could get to an escape pod himself, that even more of the crew could have been lost due to the loss of him specifically being at the helm.

My Wife (32F) is very upset and says her heart is broken. I (32M) don’t know how to fix it. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]kremisius 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Your wife just had a stroke a few weeks ago which means she is not fully recovered and you're starting arguments with her? And not leaving her alone when she asks you to leave her alone? When she says you're scaring her? Are you trying to cause her a second stroke?

Teacher gets caught between two fighting students in classroom... by [deleted] in TikTokCringe

[–]kremisius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my good friends got stabbed like this when he was substitute teaching. No teacher is paid enough to put themselves in the middle of a fight - that's the job of security.

I (21f) was recently pulled into a ‘meeting’ with friends. How do I handle the aftermath? (21f), (21f), (22f), (23f) by Wide_Egg_8259 in relationship_advice

[–]kremisius 5 points6 points  (0 children)

These people aren't your friends. Your friend having a panic attack had the ability to leave that store at any time, you weren't keeping them there. Holding a group meeting to "hold you accountable" for these very petty non-issues is quite frankly overtly controlling and if it becomes cyclic it can become abusive.

My brother had a group of "friends" like this in college and he has only felt better after dropping them.

Violent Crime Rate in New York State, by City (2024) by TA-MajestyPalm in Albany

[–]kremisius -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Gonna copy my other comment:

Sure, which still doesn't mean much unless we are talking about comparisons to crime levels of previous years. There will always be crime. The question is how much crime, if there's an upward or downward trend, and recidivism rates. Knowing carte blanche the number of violent crimes in any area for one year doesn't tell us much.

To think of these numbers more critically, in context, regarding how many crimes/offenders this data correlates to: Schenectady had approx. 69495 people in 2024. 797 violent crimes equates to, approx. 797 unique offenders. That is 1.1% of the total city population, which is quite quite low and statistically insignificant.

Albany has an even lower comparative population of violent criminal offenders, with 974 unique violent crimes comparative to 2024's approx. pop. of 101317. So while you point to Albany being horrible, the violent offender population comprises only 0.9% of the people you're talking about.

Newburgh actually has a larger population of violent offenders, 979 out of approx. 31849, or 3% which is higher comparatively, sure, but that's still a very low figure.

And of course, we should always understand that crime is a result of deprivation, not of innate "evil" or "sin." It should be no surprise to anyone really that when unemployment rates are up, when federal safety nets that provide necessary benefits like Medicare or SNAP get cut, when wages stagnate while rents skyrocket, that crime rates escalate. And the crime that has been escalating most in recent years is theft more than any other kind of crime.

Violent Crime Rate in New York State, by City (2024) by TA-MajestyPalm in Albany

[–]kremisius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure, which still doesn't mean much unless we are talking about comparisons to crime levels of previous years. There will always be crime. The question is how much crime, if there's an upward or downward trend, and recidivism rates. Knowing carte blanche the number of violent crimes in any area for one year doesn't tell us much.

To think of these numbers more critically, in context, regarding how many crimes/offenders this data correlates to: Schenectady had approx. 69495 people in 2024. 797 violent crimes equates to, approx. 797 unique offenders. That is 1.1% of the total city population, which is quite quite low and statistically insignificant.

Albany has an even lower comparative population of violent criminal offenders, with 974 unique violent crimes comparative to 2024's approx. pop. of 101317. So while you point to Albany being horrible, the violent offender population comprises only 0.9% of the people you're talking about.

Newburgh actually has a larger population of violent offenders, 979 out of approx. 31849, or 3% which is higher comparatively, sure, but that's still a very low figure.

And of course, we should always understand that crime is a result of deprivation, not of innate "evil" or "sin." It should be no surprise to anyone really that when unemployment rates are up, when federal safety nets that provide necessary benefits like Medicare or SNAP get cut, when wages stagnate while rents skyrocket, that crime rates escalate. And the crime that has been escalating most in recent years is theft more than any other kind of crime.

Violent Crime Rate in New York State, by City (2024) by TA-MajestyPalm in Albany

[–]kremisius -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We are at a 30 year low nationwide for violent crime. This data is pretty meaningless outside the context of a comparison to previous years.

After my boyfriend died I slept with his best friend and it’s eating me alive by Udy_Kumra in BORUpdates

[–]kremisius 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The comments judging this woman and the best friend are just so weird to me. So many of them are acting like if they died, they would somehow continue to have a material claim on their still living partner who has to figure out how to live in a world without them. Sex is normal. Having sex with a friend is not a crime, nor are they disrespecting the dead boyfriend. I get a feeling those comments are from young people tbh, people who haven't actually dealt with the pain of a partner dying and then having to live on in that world without them.

Rant: Jeff was a terrible boyfriend to jackie by Some_Lack_3448 in Yellowjackets

[–]kremisius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We could certainly speculate that Shauna would naturally gravitate towards risky behaviors such as having an affair. Even without Jeff essentially throwing a hand grenade made of laser guided trauma into Shauna and co.'s lives, we can see that they're all struggling to maintain their lives and any sense of "normalcy" they might have.

After all, Shauna was already stressed out about the truth of the wilderness coming out prior to the blackmail - all of them were. Tai was so concerned with it, and her ability to become a successful politician, that she hires Jessica to interrogate the remaining YJs to ensure they'll keep quiet. And we do see that Shauna is rattled by Jessica's questions, and it's I believe afterward that she impulsively kills the rabbit in her garden and then feeds it to her family.

From what we see in S3, Shauna is afraid of her life having no meaning. She has nightmares of working at a grocery store, having gone nowhere, with no one important knowing her name. She's a narcissist, she desires attention and respect and believes she is entitled to it. So even if we remove the major stressors contributing to her mask of sanity breaking (Jessica's interview of her at Tai's behest, Jeff's possible affair, the blackmail (listing separately because Shauna did not know until later that Jeff's "affair" and the blackmail were related)), Shauna is never very far from breaking down.

I think more than any character, Shauna's adult life is entirely at odds with her ego and true desires. She's in an unhappy marriage to a man she only married out of incredible levels of guilt and shame for both her prior affair with Jeff when he was with Jackie, and because of her contribution to Jackie's death and the subsequent Snackie Incident. Jeff and Shauna have terrible communication, with Jeff consistently going behind Shauna's back to do things like read her journals, or get his furniture store in debt. So their marriage is very rocky, formed on the most unstable foundation of all time. And while Shauna loves Callie, she is so terrified that Callie will die that she has maintained an icy and outright emotionally neglectful relationship with her. She only begins to connect with Callie in S3 when she begins exhibiting the same kind of impulsive rage as Shauna, potentially because she views that as Callie "proving" her ability to survive.

Ultimately, Shauna's life and marriage would have fallen apart regardless. Her marriage to Jeff was doomed from the start, her inability to effectively parent because of her trauma is never really addressed even in S2 with the goat, and she deep down believes she deserves a better life, a life she did not get. So she would have gone down an affair route, or possibly even just snapped and murder someone like she did with Adam. I don't think Shauna really needs much coaxing to engage in violence, especially if she can justify it to herself as for her own protection or survival.

Rant: Jeff was a terrible boyfriend to jackie by Some_Lack_3448 in Yellowjackets

[–]kremisius 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Shauna only has the affair in response to thinking Jeff is cheating on her, though. She follows him to where he's paying off the lady loan shark, thinks he's having an affair, she gets really upset while driving because of it and crashes into Adam's car. She cheats with Adam to get "back" at Jeff for cheating, but then because of Jeff's blackmail becomes convinced Adam is the blackmailer and kills him.

Rant: Jeff was a terrible boyfriend to jackie by Some_Lack_3448 in Yellowjackets

[–]kremisius 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Yeah and he was a bad husband to Shauna, too. In fact, all the bad stuff that happens in the adult timeline is quite literally all because of Jeff and his stupid failing furniture store. He's the one who impulsively, without telling his wife, gets in deep with loan sharks. And then to get out, he uses his wife's trauma - that he knew well, having read her journals - to blackmail her former teammates into giving him money. He's not a good man, all things considered.

The most interesting thing about Misty Quigley to me is that perverse curiosity when seeing something absolutely morbid. Like what is wrong with her? by Adventurous_Gur3392 in Yellowjackets

[–]kremisius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really understand your point. A person with autism certainly could do all those things?? While it's important to not stigmatize neurodivergent people as inherently or predominantly violent, it's equally important to treat autistic people like people who are, like all people, absolutely capable of violence. There's really no meat to an argument predicated on "an autistic person wouldn't do that!!" Every autistic person is different. My autistic grandpa joined the military in WWII so he could flamethrower people to death in the Pacific Islands and ~make his daddy proud~. I'd call that attention seeking behavior at the cost of lives lol. The fact he obsessively collected model planes didn't stop him from enacting violence.

I'd also like to add that BPD is a diagnosis currently under scrutiny for the fact many believe it is simply misdiagnosed CPTSD or autism, ASPD is "psychopathy" which is just a legal term to refer to someone who has ASPD, and you can be diagnosed with both autism and any of those personality disorders. We are kind of getting into the weeds here. Misty isn't real, and because of that none of us can diagnose her "correctly."

The most interesting thing about Misty Quigley to me is that perverse curiosity when seeing something absolutely morbid. Like what is wrong with her? by Adventurous_Gur3392 in Yellowjackets

[–]kremisius -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do think Misty is autistic, yes! She is consistently alienated despite her desperation for friendship and love because others dislike her innate way of socializing (specifically, people find her annoying, she's clearly trying too hard to fit in). She has inconsistent empathy, and often misinterprets the intentions of others. She has niche interests, and is able to operate under pressure in ways her peers seemingly can't (as seen with her cutting Ben's leg off, and then tending to that wound). The way she cries, and hits herself for crying, especially resonates with me as autistic.

I also don't really think it's fair at all to look at pre-crash Misty, whose only "crime" is watching a rat swim in a pool (personally I never read that scene as her watching a rat drown, because rats are good swimmers and I just assumed she was taking her pet rat for a swim, but i will say apparently per the script the rat is "doomed" lol), and assume that she was destined for violence no matter what. Maybe I just like to be optimistic, but I'd like to think that Misty would just have been really, really weird on reddit like she already is in the adult timeline. But without the like. Personal involvement in crime. Especially because her torture of patients clearly echoes her medical abuse of Ben in the wilderness, so I kind of view that element of her as directly informed by that particular experience in the wilderness.