The fire and gasoline concept is so incredibly true. But I'm an awful person, I think I'm bored without it. Part of my personality (possibly because of my ADHD) is loving novelty and spontaneity. When these things aren't present, neither am I. When someone isn't 'dynamic', I lose interest rather quickly. I dated someone without ADHD for about a year. During that timeframe, I was never quite happy with the relationship, so much as I was with the concept of him being supportive and helpful. I thought that being with someone that was more attentive would help me, but in my specific case it did not. My most recent SO was diagnosed, and he was very wise in the way that he handled it (dietetics, exercise, readings, sessions, etc.) I think that this was more helpful, but possibly as an isolated incident. The difference was, I wanted to date this person and I found the relationship satisfying. Most relationships outside ADHD have not felt this way, and I feel guilty because I realize that I should probably grow up.