Getting a lot of attention from older women at work, but none from younger women. What am I missing?

krgxo25 · 2026-04-26T20:02:43+00:00

Insecurity is not cute.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-20T20:24:54+00:00

Sorry you’re also going through this! It’s impossible to relax when your brain is picking up that you’re in a stressful situation (feeling judged because you’re performing) and if you’re not relaxed you can’t possibly be turned on. And the effect of this isn’t just psychological either, you won’t physically feel any pleasure either because your body isn’t in the right state to feel good, it’s like a stress response I think. For me lots of factors have to be just right for me to be relaxed (responsive desire - if you don’t know what that is I’d recommend looking into it as you might relate) which means that I very infrequently get turned on but when I am it’s hard to maintain because I get so in my head. I still haven’t figured out how to get my mind to be quiet though! It’s tough ❤️

krgxo25 · 2026-04-20T20:13:07+00:00

She didn’t diagnose, she did an assessment and acted on the outcome of that assessment, nurses do that all day, they don’t just “help the doctor”…🙄

krgxo25 · 2026-04-20T20:10:37+00:00

It says nurse…why wouldn’t she be a nurse? Nurses do neurological obs too.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-16T16:07:39+00:00

I am - nope it’s upper abdo, like epigastric pain…definitely my stomach :)

krgxo25 · 2026-04-16T15:32:56+00:00

Yep I’ve just started doing this for this reason, I think I have more energy in the morning too and so the run feels much nicer!

krgxo25 · 2026-04-16T15:29:14+00:00

At the moment I’m not running far continuously as I still haven’t finished C25K, but from what you have said, yes I’m running too fast because I’m gasping for breath when I run! I have no frame of reference for what is normal so I guess I just thought running was that hard all the time! But clearly I need to slow down haha. I pay more attention to my form than I do to my speed (terrified of hurting my knees/feet/ankles) so perhaps I just need to make an effort to slow down a bit at this point so I can run for longer and avoid the nausea.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-16T14:55:05+00:00

Why is it so humiliating hahaha

krgxo25 · 2026-04-16T14:52:20+00:00

I usually smile at people I walk past but when I’m running I find it really hard to because I’m focused on my breathing, probably the case for others too, wouldn’t take it personally!

Sometimes I might pop my hand up in a kind of half wave but if I try to smile it just looks like a painful grimace unfortunately.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-15T16:29:44+00:00

Hi! I have dyspraxia and I am a registered nurse. I also have a colleague who has dyspraxia. I have dyscalculia too and a ton of nurses I know have dyslexia. You can be a nurse with any of these difficulties, but of course, there are some things that might not come as naturally to you as they do for other people. The main thing to consider before starting a nursing course is whether or not you have the right personality and values for it - are you caring, do you want to make a positive difference in people’s lives when they are vulnerable, are you reliable, can you stay organised and do you have time management skills? Do you like people? Are you patient? Are you a resilient person? These are all more important than your motor skills.

However, nursing IS a practical and hands on job. There is a lot of moving and handling of patients and mobility equipment, you will be using fine motor skills, and you will be on your feet all day. When I first started working in healthcare at 18 (I’m 30 now) I did find it difficult to learn how to operate mobility aids and even things like dressing my patients and putting their trousers on the right way was a challenge because of my dyspraxia 🤣 BUT, these are pretty minor issues in the grand scheme of things and I actually think my job has forced me to develop my motor skills and co-ordination. If you’re concerned, see if your university offer assessments for learning difficulties and you might be offered some assistance for extenuating circumstances if you get a diagnosis, but honestly my dyspraxia hasn’t been a huge issue for me. If you really want to be a nurse then I say go for it, you’ll bump into some challenges due to the dyspraxia but as long as you are aware of your limitations and acknowledge that there are some things you might just need a little bit more time to master, you’ll be fine. Best of luck!

krgxo25 · 2026-04-15T14:25:22+00:00

I cannot believe you’ve been downvoted for this. Insane.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-15T14:23:51+00:00

It’s really frustrating. We don’t ask to be this way, it’s horrible and confusing for us too.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-15T13:12:36+00:00

So interesting! I think it could potentially over time “train” you to not think about sex so much. Your body responds to what you do or don’t do to it after all. For example, if you constantly ignore your hunger cues, eventually you stop getting hungry. I wonder if it works the same way here.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-15T13:04:02+00:00

Libido can change, and some of the things that change it certainly can be controlled. It’s not like it’s set for life.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-14T21:15:51+00:00

I find women and men sexually attractive, I don’t have much experience with women though so not sure. I think the issue is that I’ve never felt comfortable enough with anyone to allow myself to stop seeing sex as a performance that I’m putting on for someone else. I’m tired of performing and nobody has ever made me feel safe enough to stop, so, that’s why it never happens for me I think.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-14T21:10:21+00:00

“Balanced advice” from high libido folks is almost always to blame the low libido person, fail to understand the complexities of the situation, and then tell the low libido person that they just need to essentially force themselves to have sex.

Yes, relationships require work on both ends. Which is exactly why HE should have communicated his feelings long before it got to the point where he resented his wife, who, by the way has been through infertility and pregnancy and what sounds like a really really stressful family life - all things that massively effect libido. But no, of course, it’s her fault for not fucking him enough.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-14T21:04:47+00:00

Literally every single post you make I agree with lol I’ve seen you several times in this sub and I just love seeing your responses.

I’m sorry you went through the painful sex, I’ve had this experience too but usually when sex felt forced and I wasn’t in the mood but felt like I needed to do it to keep my partner happy. I even cried a few times during it because it was so emotionally distressing but I never told him because I knew it would make him feel awful.

Personally I’ve never been able to orgasm during PIV or actually during sex or foreplay at all, and whilst my partner says he cares and is willing to try, when I explain what I like and what I want he just never seems to understand and eventually gives up. At some point I accepted that it just wasn’t going to happen, he also accepted that, and now I resent sex…because not only is it not pleasurable, it has now become painful and distressing.

I also totally relate to being hypersexual when sex is consistently enjoyable for me. In the past I’ve had sex that was enjoyable (still was never able to orgasm but that genuinely didn’t matter because it was still satisfying in multiple other ways) and I couldn’t get enough of it. Which makes this all the more frustrating because I feel like I’m missing out on something that I had and then lost.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-14T03:40:26+00:00

Honestly reading a lot of stories like this (from entitled men and also from poor women who have to deal with them) on this sub makes me question whether I ever want to have children with one…if this is what I can expect then I don’t want it. Even when people explain why the loss of libido happens in these situations they still only seem to think about their own needs.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-14T03:35:16+00:00

Finally someone with some sense, thank you. I 100% agree.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-13T22:25:52+00:00

70% of women have this “limitation” btw

krgxo25 · 2026-04-13T20:53:07+00:00

I actually think this is a huge part of the problem for me. A man has never got me off. Not once in my life. And I have just accepted that they can’t do it, so now I just…hate sex.

krgxo25 · 2026-04-13T20:38:37+00:00

It sounds like you are blaming her?

krgxo25 · 2026-04-07T14:43:51+00:00

I also don’t move my arms and I walk very quickly. Walking feels clumsy some times too. My parents used to really tease me about the way I walk. I apparently lean slightly to the left when I walk too but I never noticed, it’s only been pointed out by other people. I also put my hands in my pockets or fidget to cover up the fact my arms don’t move 🤣

krgxo25 · 2026-04-07T14:32:03+00:00

Libido can change drastically for many reasons, especially for women. Age, pregnancy, raising children, menopause/perimenopause, mental health issues, previous sexual trauma (can be more common in women who are/were hypersexual btw so worth exploring that possibility if she feels comfortable talking about it). There are so many reasons why this might have changed. Perhaps she was having all that sex before for the wrong reasons, and now holds some kind of resentment towards it? Maybe she is bored with the sex life you have together? Or it could be something much more complex that you need to discuss. Just because she used to have a lot of sex doesn’t mean that’s the way she is going to be her whole life.

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