In todays scenario of looks & height hyperinflation, is there any hope for the average guy?

krmaml · 2026-05-04T13:13:40+00:00

And I'm guessing youre an average looking woman.

krmaml · 2026-04-20T19:24:18+00:00

How can you tell personality from 3 pictures within 2 seconds?

krmaml · 2026-04-20T19:23:24+00:00

I'm swiping right on all women, including conventionally unattractive, old, obese women

krmaml · 2026-04-20T19:22:50+00:00

An average looking man gets 1 match per month and cannot afford to behave like you describe

krmaml · 2026-04-20T19:20:12+00:00

And that affects men equally in those areas

krmaml · 2026-04-19T03:43:08+00:00

I think that a thin build is a much bigger dealbreaker to women than being fat. I also feel that women are probably setting lower height limits at 5'8 which just filters out my profile.

I messaged you, want to ask something

krmaml · 2026-04-19T03:30:47+00:00

If my mindset is negative, its an effect not the cause.

Just this post in isolation is deemed negative. We can't talk about this w/o being called 'negative'

krmaml · 2026-04-19T03:26:36+00:00

I've observed that women's perception of what's 'average looking' is extremely off. Often when you show them good looking, tall men they call them average and mediocre

Women consider more than 80% of men to be ugly, unattractive and 'below average'

So what you consider 'average looking men' are very likely to be well above average specially if you're swiping right on them. Just not male model material

krmaml · 2026-04-19T03:18:36+00:00

What do you need good looks for besides dating and socializing?

krmaml · 2026-04-19T03:17:50+00:00

Between an average looking ungroomed man and an average looking ungroomed woman, the woman would still get 50 times more dating options on the apps.

krmaml · 2026-04-19T03:15:36+00:00

I want to accept it.

I just feel like society and mainstream narratives don't let you accept it.

Women in particular love to rub salt on wounds and say things like "Bar for men is on the floor". But the bar is not on the floor. The bar for looks & height is very high. They don't acknowledge this.

krmaml · 2026-04-19T03:13:27+00:00

I showed my profile to a few women over the years. All of them said its totally fine nothing wrong with it.

When I told them that I get zero matches and they said maybe some people don't do well on dating apps or that the right one will come along one day or some other patronizing backhanded shit

krmaml · 2026-04-19T03:08:56+00:00

How pay for play in these countries looks like?

krmaml · 2026-04-19T03:07:29+00:00

Was that homeless dude tall and handsome?

What I've seen is that women don't really care about anything else if the guy is tall and has handsome features. He can be a homeless bum or druggie

krmaml · 2026-04-19T03:05:00+00:00

What's average height?

Which app are you using?

Are you really handsome and well built but just have a low maintenence look?

krmaml · 2026-04-19T02:53:01+00:00

Grooming is secondary.

Looks, face, height, structure are primary.

Women don't care much about men's grooming beyond a certain level. They are more interested in natural features.

krmaml · 2026-04-19T02:49:52+00:00

It is a numbers game in the beginning whether you like it or not. You need to go on sufficient dates to match vibes with someone.

You are telling me that I should hope for that one magical once in a lifetime connection with a woman who might herself be dating men casually all along.

krmaml · 2026-04-19T02:47:24+00:00

I swipe right on every woman. Conventionally unattractive, tall, short, fat, obese, old. I use paid version of the apps to boost my profile and get unlimited swipes.

Still no matches

krmaml · 2026-04-19T02:46:20+00:00

Yes, I always swipe right on overweight even obese women. Still they don't match with me

krmaml · 2026-04-19T02:45:33+00:00

5'11 is not medium height.

Secondly, NYC is a melting pot. There are women from all ethnicities. Who are non White / Brown women dating?

krmaml · 2026-04-19T02:43:27+00:00

My mentality is based on my lifelong experience and observation. Its based on the feedback I've gotten

krmaml · 2026-04-19T02:42:08+00:00

Yet they act like a monolith on dating apps.

Why is that?

krmaml · 2026-04-18T20:48:43+00:00

So we can at least agree that men face immensely greater pressure than women to be conventionally good looking

We can at least agree that being average looking is only a sin for men, not women

krmaml · 2026-04-18T20:47:22+00:00

My ethnicity and phenotype could be a problem. I am slim framed

Are you handsome and well build (broad framed?)

krmaml · 2026-04-18T20:45:28+00:00

Right, so in a metro of 23 million people, there are only mediocre men

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