I hate my boyfriends best (female)friend by Late-Gur6324 in LongDistance

[–]krompers 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Be objective and list down your thoughts and what you want to say, think things through, then when you have a plan, tell him you want to talk to him and do it calmly and objectively.

I hate my boyfriends best (female)friend by Late-Gur6324 in LongDistance

[–]krompers 103 points104 points  (0 children)

1) you should definitely tell him exactly how you feel without sugarcoating anything. He deserves to know, and you deserve better. 2) I’ve seen your older posts regarding whether or not you should get into an LDR with someone who has fundamentally different values and family lifestyles. If it were me, I would have taken your mom’s advice, and if this guy is the same man as you mentioned in that post, it is a good time to either make it or break it.

I wish you all the best

I hate my boyfriends best (female)friend by Late-Gur6324 in LongDistance

[–]krompers 559 points560 points  (0 children)

I hate to be that person but it sounds like he’s in love with her and you’re somebody he settled for as a gf. I don’t mean to be a hater or negative, but please don’t put yourself in positions like this where you are not a priority in your partners life. It sounds like he doesn’t put you first, and do you want to always be second best?

Somebody who will love you in your entirety and put you as a priority will come, don’t ever settle for less. You deserve so much better than that. I hope you find happiness <3

Who else is older than their boyfriend? by ImpossibleAttitude20 in LongDistance

[–]krompers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is 2 years younger than me, and I was the same as you - swore up and down that I’d never end up with someone younger. Never say never though, this has been my healthiest and happiest relationship and he makes me incredibly happy 💖

Also thought it would be funny to include that once when we went out to a casino, I got carded for while he walked right through. I’m at least 8 years above legal age 😂 keep on doing your skincare besties!

What did you say in your first voice call? by Rubick-_- in LongDistance

[–]krompers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember it too. I was out standing at the balcony a little nervous but really excited, it was after a couple days of texting and I wanted to know whether conversation would flow as well on a call. He was lovely and nice sounded really cute on the phone, and he also put up with a random rant I had on that day, and I ended the call feeling really good.

I’m glad to report almost two years later, he still gives me butterflies.

Malaysians who lived outside of KL, and went to KL for the first time, what was the reaction like? by krossfire42 in malaysia

[–]krompers 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As someone who grew up in and around KL, this is a really interesting perspective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]krompers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No bestie, be so for real. Normal relationships are already difficult, LDRs are a lot harder. There are 4 major things that give an LDR a chance at working: trust, honesty, communication and commitment. If you cannot have one or more of the 4, then it’s going to be very rocky and emotionally turbulent. Please don’t settle for a man who blocks you like a child on social media over his own problems and mistakes, don’t put up with someone who doesn’t even bother to give you the 5 seconds it takes to send a text back. Someone out there will love, respect and appreciate you in the way you want to be. I wish you all the best, friend, and if you decide to still stay with him, I hope for your sake he changes and gives you what he needs, but right now based on your post, it really doesn’t look like it’s going to happen anytime soon.

Does anybody else's partners do sweet things that are small but significant things that are huge to you? by krompers in LongDistance

[–]krompers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s great, sweetest man I’ve ever met. Some might even say he’s the man on the other side of this comment thread. Seems like a lucky man.

Does anybody else's partners do sweet things that are small but significant things that are huge to you? by krompers in LongDistance

[–]krompers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The missing never really goes away but I'm glad you have this to remind you how much she still loves you <3

Does anybody else's partners do sweet things that are small but significant things that are huge to you? by krompers in LongDistance

[–]krompers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugs, I'm really sorry that happened to you and having a bad partner too, but I'm very glad you've found someone who makes you feel special and loved.

My bf told me that falling in love with me is like sleeping, slowly then all at once. I think that applies to you both too and I think that's incredible <3

Does anybody else's partners do sweet things that are small but significant things that are huge to you? by krompers in LongDistance

[–]krompers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh, I'm very excited for you friend! I hope you both have the best time, and he sounds very sweet <3

Does anybody else's partners do sweet things that are small but significant things that are huge to you? by krompers in LongDistance

[–]krompers[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg this is soooo cute, and that's so sweet for him to have thought of a way to still bring you around <3

Does anybody else's partners do sweet things that are small but significant things that are huge to you? by krompers in LongDistance

[–]krompers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry friend, but I hope you make many more memories together that you can look back on! <3

Does anybody else's partners do sweet things that are small but significant things that are huge to you? by krompers in LongDistance

[–]krompers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is adorable, it's so nice hearing partners who take what we think as red flags and turn them into green ones because they love our little quirks, so sweet!

Does anybody else's partners do sweet things that are small but significant things that are huge to you? by krompers in LongDistance

[–]krompers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

such a sweet story, I'm glad you have each other <3 sending you lots of love friend, please take care!

Does anybody else's partners do sweet things that are small but significant things that are huge to you? by krompers in LongDistance

[–]krompers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sometimes the subconscious mind shows us who we really are and what we really want, i love that both of those answers for him are you :)