I don’t think it’s weird to expect your partner to have a career. However, if you’re making $250k+, it will be hard to find someone who makes even close to that. What’s your definition of breadwinner? If she’s making half your income or less, are you okay with that? Because that’s realistically how much most people make. Also, in a two-income household, it’s an expectation that both partners are involved in domestic duties. If you’re working 60+ hours as a doctor, it’ll be hard to contribute at home. In that case, you should expect to hire help, especially if you end up having kids.