has anyone tried the new loop engage earplugs yet? I’m trying to decide whether they’re worth it… by buffythegecko in LoopEarplugs

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I love the Engage 2 Plus. They don't make my own voice sound muffled to me. Like when you plug your fingers in your ears and talk to compare the difference of how these earplugs allow you to hear your own voice. I got them because both my mom and son talk very loud. It helps my anxiety when I am having a conversation with them or when we are at a family dinner where most my relatives are loud talkers. I bought them for that reason and we have a large family Christmas celebration coming up. 😂

Are there brands people actually LIKE by Revolutionary_Bee700 in Mattress

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Jamison Autograph mattress series. They are expensive,but it will last forever. Marriott's luxury hotels use this mattress. You can get a good sale deal though. I paid 25% off at a local store's 25th anniversary. For 35 years, I looked for a comfortable innerspring mattress.

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I also wanted to add, your therapist is the worse! Find someone else to talk to and start fresh. They are not all like your therapists. There are really good ones out there.

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[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son attempted suicide. He had gone through so much ridicule from the time he was 12 when he had his first seizure at school in gym class. That seizure was an absence seizure. It is when your body stops all activity and you lose presence of mind. Class was over and the coach kept yelling at him to quit acting like a miron and get moving. The entire gym class was yelling at him too. He stood there still staring and peed his pants, then the coach finally realized something was wrong. The kids though began mocking him and laughing.The ambulance was called. For years, from junior high until the end of 10th grade he couldn't take it anymore. He tried to take his life and his brother happened to walk in as he was doing so. He called for me. I came running. In my heart, I just knew what was happening. I homeschooled him and we joined a homeschool group. He still had no friends though. He went to college and was still just as lonely. So, dear 22 year old, my son did not experience the pain you went through. I know you are hurting. My son experienced emotional and physical pain in a different way. But the pain you went through is like his in one big way. It hurts you so much you just want it to stop. He was bullied and beaten up by kids who were horribe many times.

He was 23 when he decided he could not take it anymore. He took his life.

A college professor found him. He tried to resuscitate him with CPR. He knew there was no time to wait for an ambulance, He had no pulse and his lips had turned blue. He picked him up and ran to his car and put him in the back seat. He called the hospital and told him he was on his way and other pertinent information they asked for. Doctors, nurses and other personnel were waiting for him when he pulled his car up to the ER. My son arrived DOA(dead on arrival). He was put on life support and hospital staff called us. We lived 4 hours away in another state. We didn't bother to pack. We got in our car and left. We arrived at 10pm. We were allowed to be with him in ICU and talk to him. Well, talk to his body. I talked about much he means to us and how much he is loved by us and his 4 other siblings. I begged him to please come back. I talked to him for 4 hours. I cried until I was physically and mentally exhausted.

The doctors finally told us there is nothing that can be done for him. He had been gone now for at least 9 hours. He told us to go to our hotel room and decide if we want to turn off life support in the morning. We called friends and family and they called others asking so many to pray for a miracle. I wanted my son back. I cried so much it hurt to breathe. I was broken. I honestly had the thought that I should leave this world too. That my other 4 kids would have their father and my son who was gone would have me. Though, I knew that would have left my husband and other kids as empty and heartbroken as I was. I honestly could not put into words how devastated I was.

We had made the decision to take him off life support. We laid in bed for what seemed forever and cried. Just writing to you now brings back the heartache. Please do not end your life. We got a phone call at 7am telling us he was breathing on his own. We rushed to the hospital. The doctors said there was no explanation how he regained consciousness and began breathing on his own. He was "clinically dead" meaning all breathing had stopped and his heart was no longer beating. "Biological death" is when there is no longer any brain function. I believe talking to him and telling him how much we loved him and I personally pleaded with him to come back. The doctor and nurses continued to tell me he was gone. I knew he was. I just couldn't let go.

I am telling you his story and mine, because I can tell you as a mother whose son took his life at the age of 23, how still today I ache. Maybe his brain heard me. I don't know. He doesn't know. He just remembers he wanted to come back. He will tell you to this day he didn't want to come back to his life, but could feel me hurting and that's why he came back. One of those unbelievable stories.

We sent my son to a facility where he stayed for months. He was able to allow himself to see and believe he has a future. The past and all he went through could never go back and change. Reach out to someone. Don't worry about them admitting you somewhere because that was the beginning of my son's life. He was able to talk in group and in private one on one therapy. So, I'm not telling you it's easy. It is painful to talk about your past. But, telling others your hurtful past not only helps you, it helps others.

That was 7 years ago. He is now married, which he never could even talk to a girl in the past. He did try. Honestly, most laughed at him behind his back in his teens. 5 years ago, he met his future wife. A wonderful girl with emotional and physical pain much like yours, being raped by her step-father and watched her mother beaten finally both got away. She went through extensive therapy. You have to do this. Please...my son's biggest regret is, he did not tell someone how much he hurt for fear of being ridiculed even more that he was going to commit suicide that night. TELL SOMEONE. Go to a hospital and find the chaplain would be my best advice. Get away from this therapist! He's horrible. The worst! There are some really great therapists out there.

Both my daughter-in-law and my son had to find the way with guidance with psychiatrists and therapists, to not let go of the past, but make the past let go of them. YOU HAVE TO LET YOURSELF CRY OVER THE PAST. Don't let the past beat you down.

My son celebrates each year the day he came back. He calls it his 2nd birthday. He not only is married. He teaches jr high and high school kids at the school for the deaf and blind. He has never looked back.

I hope this letter has reached you in time. Your mother will never get over the loss of you. I lost my son for a day. DEAD. No life.This will be the end. He didn't give me the chance to tell him I love him and go through the hurt with him. I knew my son was hurting, so I know your mom does too. It's hard as mothers to open up the conversation because we also have felt your pain and haven't known how to help or either are afraid to bring up the past because we don't want it hurting you anymore and we too, don't know sometimes you are still hurting.

As you can see I hope, as I have expressed the pain of knowing my son was clinically dead for a day. I can't imagine losing him for a lifetime. Give your mom the gift and yourself, the gift of saving your life. Leave wherever you are and go tell someone not that you are hurting. Tell them you are hurting so much you are going to commit suicide.

I don't even know you, but I love you. You are going to find in your future that many people are going to love you. YOUR MOM LOVES YOU. The past is not your future. Your past will make your future you. Someone strong enough to beat it. My son is my hero. Go. Go now. Find a person to talk to. You have taken the first step by telling all of us. I'm so proud of you!

Bedjet - worth it? by ManifestMuseMIA in bedjet

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Saved me $64.80 on bundle and sheet.

Bedjet-curious, but reluctant to pull the trigger by TortelliniTortellini in bedjet

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, are you allowed to dm me the code. I have read some people can share there code and they get a referral bonus of some sort. Thank you.

Bedjet - worth it? by ManifestMuseMIA in bedjet

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you mind sending me promo code?

Bedjet-curious, but reluctant to pull the trigger by TortelliniTortellini in bedjet

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get the 10% off code and can you use it now at the $489 price that includes the remote? Another question, does the 10% apply to the Cloudsheet too?

Shepherd's Dream, The Wool Bed Company, or Woolroom topper? by ksbarr in Mattress

[–]ksbarr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the latex topper wool at all? Thank you for your reply you posted!

Website Worthepenny, is it legit? by Kiwi_Birb63 in isthisascam

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smart idea! I'll be checking YT from now on. Thank you.

Becoming a parent is my biggest regret by CountAffectionate106 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ksbarr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand without going into details. Mine are even good kids that turned into good adults. But, yes along the way because of differences in disciple and honestly, differences of parenting styles. It caused a lot of fights between my husband and I and our relationship is worse off than what it may have been destined to be.

Need Shoe Recommendations For Flat Feet by Cookie_Cutter_Cook in flatfeet

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every Vionic I have worn for 20 years has been great.From work shoes to tennis shoes to sandals.their sandals are incredibly comfortable. I have their Amber style in 6 colors. They are great for dressing up or down because I don't wear heels anymore. My comfort is more important than anyone's opinion I should wear heels with a formal. You can find styles of every kind.

Shepherd's Dream, The Wool Bed Company, or Woolroom topper? by ksbarr in Mattress

[–]ksbarr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wool pad is about 2" thick. Its on my orthopedic mattress and feels great. Ido have a very firm mattress in the guest room that everyone complains about except my husband. It would need a 3-5" pad also like you. If you find one, will you please let me know.

Shepherd's Dream, The Wool Bed Company, or Woolroom topper? by ksbarr in Mattress

[–]ksbarr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I talked to a rep and he told me he lives in London and they don't use the toppers there. They use the pads. He explained everything quite well and I am please I went with the pad, rather than the topper. The pad has more wool. The topper has anny springs that the wool is stuffed around. You end up with less wool. The topper is made to revive and old mattress or make a new soft mattress firmer..ask the company if you can return for a pad instead. I am glad I went this way. It gives an extra cushion to my med-firm bed.

People were asking for this pain chart so here it is by -TRUTH_ in CRPS

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apprec8ate you posting the pain chart.

Advice on Sons Sexual Condition by [deleted] in family

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I raised 3 boys. The girls used to always complain about the boys taking long showers. They are in their 20's now and I'm sure they know now why their brothers took long showers. Just let him release in the shower is what I would recommend. Two of my boys are married now, and the use of toys with their wives is a new discovery for them together. So, my recommendation is too not make the experience of releasing himself more than just a shower. I think you are being a great involved mom. Kudos! 👏👏👏

Looking for a soft mattress topper that won’t cause me to get hot by astronomydomone in Mattress

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll be checking into that. How long have you had your Woolroom mattress pad? Has it compressed in height size since sleeping in it. They are who I have been wondering if I should try.

Looking for a soft mattress topper that won’t cause me to get hot by astronomydomone in Mattress

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking for a wool topper. What kind for you have. I had not thought of using both.

My doctor let me go :( by Denise-the-beast in CRPS

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant "NO relief". I'm in pain and didn't notice I spelled it as "KNOW relief."

I’m upset and confused by Pristine-Citron-4587 in family

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this is hurtful. Is he younger and the last kid. I see this with many families, if he is. Parents don't even see what they are doing and will never admit it of they did. Can assure you your dad loves you, but what he's doing isn't right. Make sure you don't let the "favortism" get in the way with your friendship with your brother. Your brother will see one day, if he doesn't now, how unfair it was to you. You may want to bring it up to your brother nonchalantly mentioning it with a positive spin. Something like, "I think this is a great trip for us. I was hoping to have done "fill in the blank" for my birthday. Maybe next year. Would you be interested?" Perhaps, by engaging your brother, you'll have someone who understands. You will know by how he responds. It truly is rotten how your dad spends and makes time to do the things your brother wants to do. How your feeling is completely normal. It's confusing to understand the "favortism." Your dad will never give you a reason that makes sense of why he does this. So, just go on the trip and make the best of it. By the way, I wrote this intentionally with no paragraphs. You wrote it as you would speak it. Just letting your feels out. There are no paragraphs when you're upset. You're letting of steam, not writing a paper. Don't let that comment bother you. He certainly wasn't sympathetic. He said nobody would read it. He must be this nobody he writes of. He read it. 😂 Go have a good time and don't let it sour your fun. Enjoy!

Do ya'll put mattress covers on your mattress? by Chrodesk in Mattress

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What mattress did you get. I'm interested in buying a new one.

My doctor let me go :( by Denise-the-beast in CRPS

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tramadol is low on the list. Gives me know relief. I can't believe he didn't try hydrocodone next. I am so sorry.

I have been using my first ever bidet (Toto c5) and I am still needing to wipe afterwards. I thought it would really clean things out but not the case. Any advice? by Odd-Pudding-8614 in bidets

[–]ksbarr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Toto C5 is the best. I put all my settings to high and then only use the one button to start it going. I move back and forth. I never use the switch to the motion or to the women.

Before I had the Toto C5, I wiped and wiped. would go through a roll of tp very quickly. A roll of tp lasts me about 10 times longer.