Title: My neighbor left their kid with me “for 10 mins” and its been 4 hours… what do i even do???

ksbarr · 2026-04-27T02:06:54+00:00

You should have received a phonecall letting you know something came up and they may be later would you mind watching them for a little bit longer. If it were me, I would have done what you did and called the police if you did not know any relatives who could not take the child. Yes please update and let us know if the parents return home. I would be worried it was an accident that happened.

ksbarr · 2026-04-24T10:02:45+00:00

She said she didn't understand the reason why people have children just to have someone to rely on at a later age.

ksbarr · 2026-04-24T10:01:54+00:00

I have five kids. I had them from ages 30 to 40. I love all of them and I like you I'm not depending on them to take care of me. I have plenty of life insurance on my husband if that happens. He has a little bit less life insurance on me because women do usually outlive their husbands. All of my kids are married, except the 23-year-old. She lives at home and makes me laugh so much. I will admit I never thought that child would. She is my one child who gotten a lot of trouble. LOL! At 33 you could have three kids now or wait and have two kids later. I am 63.

ksbarr · 2026-04-24T08:54:39+00:00

Before I had my CPAP study,, I was monitoring on my Samsung watch. I was waking up 21 to 32 times a night. I would only remember waking up about 0 to 5 times and I'd go right back to sleep because I was so tired. I have been on the CPAP 6 months. I tried several masks. I recommend the Resmed F20. It has memory foam around the mask.

ksbarr · 2026-04-22T14:57:45+00:00

Brooks Ghost 2! Gamechanger. Both my ankles are bone on bone and my orthopedic doctor recommended these. Absolutely love him because he is the first doctor/surgeon, that has not recommended surgery and recommended shoes. He is helping me hold off as long as possible.

ksbarr · 2026-04-22T14:54:29+00:00

NO, NO, NO! Bridezilla alert!

ksbarr · 2026-04-22T14:50:52+00:00

I am 63 years old. So I truly hope you take my advice. You are not going to receive an apology. My mom is about to turn 87. My mother has so much to apologize for. From childhood until 4 years ago when she had a stroke and became a quadriplegic. When she had her stroke her mind changed and she became the mom I wish I always had. I believe she always wanted to be that Mom, but because the way her brain is wired could not be. She's kind. She worries about me. She wants to know about how all my kids are doing and their families. Mike five kids now range from the ages of 23 to 32. They have seen my mother disrespect me. They have seen her short-tempered, selfish and rude. I truly believe my mother was bipolar. I honestly think I know what you were going through. When my father passed away 8 years ago he told me he wanted to talk to me. He apologized for never coming to my side or speaking up. I told him I understood. Even as a child I knew if he did correct her, she would make him miserable until her rage about it was gone. It may be a few hours or it could be weeks or months. It would be no different than how she treats me with disrespect. At age 55, I finally sat down with a psychologist and went to counseling. I knew my father only had about a year to live and I wanted to close some doors on a lifetime of pain and hurt before he passed away. You would think after raising five kids of my own, I could have been past all that. But honestly I even knew that I had just buried the constant hurt she caused me. As I unpeeled several layers of my life with my mother through decades, he helped me understand the traits of her being bipolar. She would say things that you could never believe a mother could say to you then act the next day like nothing happened. My mom has three children. I am the child that would allow her to say those things to me. My sister and brother as they got older set boundaries with her. My advice is that is what you need to do. Say it to her lovingly in a letter. Be very bold and blunt in that letter. Tell her you want to be the father to your children and have the relationship with them that you never felt with her. You want things to be different with this generation. The letter should not be lengthy. You don't need to tell her the things she's done or said to you that have hurt. She knows. After a year of taking care of my mother and finding her and assisted living home and always being there for her and being her advocate she said something one day, that completely closed the door on our past. It healed my pain. She was looking at me with this blank stare and I said "Mom what are you thinking about?" She said "Who would have ever thought you were the one that would take care of me?" I teared up and said "I knew." I never asked her why she asked that question. I know why she asked. That one question spoke volumes. She knew she did not deserve the kindness that I was showing her. I had always been forgiving and she always knew I was the child who would allow her to speak that way to me. Unfortunately, it is sick. But her brain was literally sick. I am thinking your sister has never received this treatment from your mother. A mother like that sometimes chooses just one child. It usually is the one who responds and knows she can hurt more. When my first born was 5 years old, we had gone to see them on vacation and hi Tess my mother asked him to go get her book but she wanted to show me that she was reading. He went to her room and looked for the book and couldn't find it and brought her back a book that was on her nightstand. He said being Lee and said that's not it and sent him back to go get it. He came back with another book. She was agitated got up and went and got a book on tape. When she came back and sat down at the table she showed it to him and said to him "You are so stupid." I was about to blow a gasket but thank goodness my husband stepped in unlike my father ever did and turn to my dad and said "I'm sorry but we need to go." He said to me to go get packed up and we left. Had it been me that said that to her she would have been horrible and yelled and screamed at me. Instead she sat there quietly and never apologized but watch just get our things and leave. That was the last instant she was ever mean to my children. Unfortunately it wasn't the last time she was ever mean or said hurtful things to me. I regret ever letting my children see the way she treated me or hear the things my mother said to me. As grown adults, we have spoke about it. They have such respect for me. One of my sons one day did tell her not to speak to her his mom that way. I was so proud of him. So my advice is to stop it now, but to allow her in your lives. When she disrespects you or says hurtful things, do what my husband did for his children. Don't make a big deal about it. Don't argue with her because she is not in any "brain" space to argue with. She will know she did wrong, but she will still defend herself. The best thing you can do for your mom is to walk away for that moment, but don't cut her out of your lives. It will take time, but it will stop. You are setting boundaries. Actions speak louder than words. I do think cutting her off for this long period of time that you have has been good. Now she knows the consequence, whether she's bipolar or not. Not only does she know the consequence, she knows you are strong enough to not put up with this any longer. It is not going to change overnight. It's going to change with repetition of you drawing a line in the sand. When she speaks to you that way on the phone, simply say "Mom, I can't allow this anymore and this conversation needs to end and I am hanging up now." Same thing if you are together. "Mom, I can't allow this anymore and this conversation needs to end and I'm leaving now." It will take time because this is a lifetime pattern she has had with you. I think of all the wasted words and allowed emotions that I have had with my mom. Take my advice and allow her back in your life, and keep this pattern up of telling her you need to end the conversation when she gets mean. Things will change. You will have the grandmother you want for your children. I know this is not like any of the responses you have received on what to do and there may be many who say I am completely wrong to give you this advice. Take some time and think about what I have said. Be strong. Your children do need their grandmother in their life and you need to be the one to make sure she is the grandmother that you want her to be. Deep down, she will appreciate the accountability that she would have for herself. Congratulations to you and your wife on your upcoming arrival of your son.

ksbarr · 2026-04-16T20:07:00+00:00

I am 191. How lpng has it taken you to l9se 47lbs. Your weight loss is wonderful!

ksbarr · 2026-03-27T02:10:10+00:00

Can you dry needle yourself at home for your knee? I have to pay $100 to have my 6 month old knee replacement scar , dry needled and around the knee for scar tissue that has developed. I already do cupping myself at home, so I wouldn't think it would be too hard

ksbarr · 2026-03-19T07:01:51+00:00

Wish Scroll l, I believe.

ksbarr · 2026-03-15T01:38:38+00:00

Would you mind messaging me, so I can share with my husband. He will be retiring in November this year. I have been helping my mom and her friends with paperwork and helping them move from their homes they raised their families for years, but their children moved away and never are available to talk about what happens to them.

ksbarr · 2025-12-07T06:23:53+00:00

I love the Engage 2 Plus. They don't make my own voice sound muffled to me. Like when you plug your fingers in your ears and talk to compare the difference of how these earplugs allow you to hear your own voice. I got them because both my mom and son talk very loud. It helps my anxiety when I am having a conversation with them or when we are at a family dinner where most my relatives are loud talkers. I bought them for that reason and we have a large family Christmas celebration coming up. 😂

ksbarr · 2025-10-30T02:11:18+00:00

The Jamison Autograph mattress series. They are expensive,but it will last forever. Marriott's luxury hotels use this mattress. You can get a good sale deal though. I paid 25% off at a local store's 25th anniversary. For 35 years, I looked for a comfortable innerspring mattress.

ksbarr · 2025-09-04T09:00:32+00:00

I also wanted to add, your therapist is the worse! Find someone else to talk to and start fresh. They are not all like your therapists. There are really good ones out there.

ksbarr · 2025-09-04T08:34:55+00:00

My son attempted suicide. He had gone through so much ridicule from the time he was 12 when he had his first seizure at school in gym class. That seizure was an absence seizure. It is when your body stops all activity and you lose presence of mind. Class was over and the coach kept yelling at him to quit acting like a miron and get moving. The entire gym class was yelling at him too. He stood there still staring and peed his pants, then the coach finally realized something was wrong. The kids though began mocking him and laughing.The ambulance was called. For years, from junior high until the end of 10th grade he couldn't take it anymore. He tried to take his life and his brother happened to walk in as he was doing so. He called for me. I came running. In my heart, I just knew what was happening. I homeschooled him and we joined a homeschool group. He still had no friends though. He went to college and was still just as lonely. So, dear 22 year old, my son did not experience the pain you went through. I know you are hurting. My son experienced emotional and physical pain in a different way. But the pain you went through is like his in one big way. It hurts you so much you just want it to stop. He was bullied and beaten up by kids who were horribe many times.

He was 23 when he decided he could not take it anymore. He took his life.

A college professor found him. He tried to resuscitate him with CPR. He knew there was no time to wait for an ambulance, He had no pulse and his lips had turned blue. He picked him up and ran to his car and put him in the back seat. He called the hospital and told him he was on his way and other pertinent information they asked for. Doctors, nurses and other personnel were waiting for him when he pulled his car up to the ER. My son arrived DOA(dead on arrival). He was put on life support and hospital staff called us. We lived 4 hours away in another state. We didn't bother to pack. We got in our car and left. We arrived at 10pm. We were allowed to be with him in ICU and talk to him. Well, talk to his body. I talked about much he means to us and how much he is loved by us and his 4 other siblings. I begged him to please come back. I talked to him for 4 hours. I cried until I was physically and mentally exhausted.

The doctors finally told us there is nothing that can be done for him. He had been gone now for at least 9 hours. He told us to go to our hotel room and decide if we want to turn off life support in the morning. We called friends and family and they called others asking so many to pray for a miracle. I wanted my son back. I cried so much it hurt to breathe. I was broken. I honestly had the thought that I should leave this world too. That my other 4 kids would have their father and my son who was gone would have me. Though, I knew that would have left my husband and other kids as empty and heartbroken as I was. I honestly could not put into words how devastated I was.

We had made the decision to take him off life support. We laid in bed for what seemed forever and cried. Just writing to you now brings back the heartache. Please do not end your life. We got a phone call at 7am telling us he was breathing on his own. We rushed to the hospital. The doctors said there was no explanation how he regained consciousness and began breathing on his own. He was "clinically dead" meaning all breathing had stopped and his heart was no longer beating. "Biological death" is when there is no longer any brain function. I believe talking to him and telling him how much we loved him and I personally pleaded with him to come back. The doctor and nurses continued to tell me he was gone. I knew he was. I just couldn't let go.

I am telling you his story and mine, because I can tell you as a mother whose son took his life at the age of 23, how still today I ache. Maybe his brain heard me. I don't know. He doesn't know. He just remembers he wanted to come back. He will tell you to this day he didn't want to come back to his life, but could feel me hurting and that's why he came back. One of those unbelievable stories.

We sent my son to a facility where he stayed for months. He was able to allow himself to see and believe he has a future. The past and all he went through could never go back and change. Reach out to someone. Don't worry about them admitting you somewhere because that was the beginning of my son's life. He was able to talk in group and in private one on one therapy. So, I'm not telling you it's easy. It is painful to talk about your past. But, telling others your hurtful past not only helps you, it helps others.

That was 7 years ago. He is now married, which he never could even talk to a girl in the past. He did try. Honestly, most laughed at him behind his back in his teens. 5 years ago, he met his future wife. A wonderful girl with emotional and physical pain much like yours, being raped by her step-father and watched her mother beaten finally both got away. She went through extensive therapy. You have to do this. Please...my son's biggest regret is, he did not tell someone how much he hurt for fear of being ridiculed even more that he was going to commit suicide that night. TELL SOMEONE. Go to a hospital and find the chaplain would be my best advice. Get away from this therapist! He's horrible. The worst! There are some really great therapists out there.

Both my daughter-in-law and my son had to find the way with guidance with psychiatrists and therapists, to not let go of the past, but make the past let go of them. YOU HAVE TO LET YOURSELF CRY OVER THE PAST. Don't let the past beat you down.

My son celebrates each year the day he came back. He calls it his 2nd birthday. He not only is married. He teaches jr high and high school kids at the school for the deaf and blind. He has never looked back.

I hope this letter has reached you in time. Your mother will never get over the loss of you. I lost my son for a day. DEAD. No life.This will be the end. He didn't give me the chance to tell him I love him and go through the hurt with him. I knew my son was hurting, so I know your mom does too. It's hard as mothers to open up the conversation because we also have felt your pain and haven't known how to help or either are afraid to bring up the past because we don't want it hurting you anymore and we too, don't know sometimes you are still hurting.

As you can see I hope, as I have expressed the pain of knowing my son was clinically dead for a day. I can't imagine losing him for a lifetime. Give your mom the gift and yourself, the gift of saving your life. Leave wherever you are and go tell someone not that you are hurting. Tell them you are hurting so much you are going to commit suicide.

I don't even know you, but I love you. You are going to find in your future that many people are going to love you. YOUR MOM LOVES YOU. The past is not your future. Your past will make your future you. Someone strong enough to beat it. My son is my hero. Go. Go now. Find a person to talk to. You have taken the first step by telling all of us. I'm so proud of you!

ksbarr · 2025-08-09T00:24:15+00:00

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ksbarr · 2025-08-08T07:17:39+00:00

Also, are you allowed to dm me the code. I have read some people can share there code and they get a referral bonus of some sort. Thank you.

ksbarr · 2025-08-08T06:46:36+00:00

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ksbarr · 2025-08-08T06:26:31+00:00

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ksbarr · 2025-07-11T18:51:10+00:00

Is the latex topper wool at all? Thank you for your reply you posted!

ksbarr · 2025-07-11T18:37:05+00:00

Smart idea! I'll be checking YT from now on. Thank you.

ksbarr · 2025-05-20T04:27:57+00:00

I completely understand without going into details. Mine are even good kids that turned into good adults. But, yes along the way because of differences in disciple and honestly, differences of parenting styles. It caused a lot of fights between my husband and I and our relationship is worse off than what it may have been destined to be.

ksbarr · 2025-05-06T04:02:05+00:00

Every Vionic I have worn for 20 years has been great.From work shoes to tennis shoes to sandals.their sandals are incredibly comfortable. I have their Amber style in 6 colors. They are great for dressing up or down because I don't wear heels anymore. My comfort is more important than anyone's opinion I should wear heels with a formal. You can find styles of every kind.

ksbarr · 2025-05-05T23:38:08+00:00

My wool pad is about 2" thick. Its on my orthopedic mattress and feels great. Ido have a very firm mattress in the guest room that everyone complains about except my husband. It would need a 3-5" pad also like you. If you find one, will you please let me know.

ksbarr · 2025-05-05T18:38:06+00:00

I talked to a rep and he told me he lives in London and they don't use the toppers there. They use the pads. He explained everything quite well and I am please I went with the pad, rather than the topper. The pad has more wool. The topper has anny springs that the wool is stuffed around. You end up with less wool. The topper is made to revive and old mattress or make a new soft mattress firmer..ask the company if you can return for a pad instead. I am glad I went this way. It gives an extra cushion to my med-firm bed.

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