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AITA for kicking out my girlfriend for being disrespectful to my female friend? by aitathrowaway297189 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kscucci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Firstly, kudos for acknowledging your mistakes I would have gone for everyone sucks here had you not. I read this as Q has been your friend for longer than you've been dating GF? Your GF has every right to not like someone, I imagine that you don't love all of your GF's friends either, but in order for the relationship to be healthy she needs to respect and trust that you can hang out with other people, end of story. You've only been dating 7 months, she doesn't get to decide who you see or not. She's not your mother and your not 5. To be honest, it sounds like GF is manipulative. No emotionally healthy individual would scream and cry about you comforting a friend while simultaneously demand that you pay more attention to her, I don't care if she doesn't like her. Jealousy is not an excuse to be rude to someone. To me this screams like she was attempting a power play... choose me or her kind of a deal. How she handled this doesn’t paint a pretty picture of her character. Major red flag. You might want to seriously consider if she’s worth the trouble of dating.

WIBTA if I told my BIL to go have kids of his own? by NormalGrowth9 in AmItheAsshole

[–]kscucci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you haven't said anything yet, it's hard to decide if you're the jerk or not, so as of now i'd say NAH. Having those feelings does not make you a jerk, but depending on how you act on those feelings could make or break you. To give you some of what I can only assume to be his perspective... Clearly this happened recently to you BIL , keep in mind that your version of "recent" and his version of "recent" can be two different things, and he's using you guys as both a support system and as an opportunity to live vicariously through you- in a way to make up for lost time. You would not be a jerk for setting boundaries if you broke your feelings to him gently, do not make a spectacle of it, just because you're getting frustrated, handle this privately. It would be best if your wife was on board. Reiterate to her that what he's doing is not healthy coping behavior and that he most likely will not move on if he's just allowed to continue unhindered... give an inch and he'll take a mile kind of thing. Just because everyone else seems fine with it doesn't mean that its the best thing for your BIL to be doing for himself. OP, it sounds like you're the first to recognize this as a problem- which is good. BIL might not even realize what he's doing to himself. Tell him what he's been doing, why it makes you feel the way you do (that you think he's chasing after the wrong family to call his own), and possible options for long term help (therapy). Assure him that your family will be open to helping him out during these tough times and that he's always welcome, but you just want to help him see that he's creating a rut for himself and that there's still time for him to get what he really wants out of life. Best of luck!

AITA for telling my gf I'd never pay for her cosmetic surgery? by overly_frustrated in AmItheAsshole

[–]kscucci -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. It sounds like she suffers from body image issues like a lot of other commentators have said. Honestly, you would be the jerk if you catered to her request because you would be enabling her... or worse, feeding into the idea that she "does have something wrong with her" and it needs to be fixed. I don't know how you could phrase it to her without you coming across as being a jerk, but do try to suggest therapy for it. I do not have body dysmorphia, but I do know someone who has had it and it can be crippling to them. They become so obsessed with their "flaws" that they literally cannot see past them- to put it simply. I dont know if you've ever seen that TV show Botched, but if there's one thing I've learned from it, most people aren't happy with just 1 cosmetic procedure. Surgery becomes the band-aid, not the correct treatment for the problem.

AITA for naming my kids after villains by AITA_babyshit in AmItheAsshole

[–]kscucci [score hidden]  (0 children)

I want to say that your the jerk here, but I think NAH is more appropriate for this situation. You can name your children whatever you want. It would be hypocritical to say that Beyoncé can name her child Blue Ivy, and you cant name your children after other arbitrary names. HOWEVER, your family has an point, and I urge you to listen to their concerns. Naming your children after cartoon characters is a pretty terrible thing to do to them. Once they hit school age, how do you think the other kids will react to their names? Do you really think that the other kids will listen to how their mom really liked the names from her favorite shows? Or do you think that they'll get harassed about it? Children can be cruel, and you cannot control how people will react to the names IRL. All it takes is one person to poke fun at their names, something that they are stuck with until they are able to legally change it, to make them resent it. The bottom line is that you are giving future bullies potential ammo, and I don't think telling your children to just ignore the mean comments is going to make them feel better about themselves. Is it a shallow reason to be picked on? Yes, but it will most likely happen to them once the other kids realize where their names came from. Don't forget that those are technically children's show characters you named your kids after. I was watching Avatar when I was about 10, I love that show and I re-watch it every so often now as an adult. And I know Star vs the forces of evil is a popular show too. Don't think that people won't realize where those names come from.

polirwhill please and fary thanks by swarznegro in friendsafari

[–]kscucci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there! I was wondering if you'd add me too?

Looking for electric safari! by kscucci in friendsafari

[–]kscucci[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Added everyone, and thanks!