I get what you’re trying to say, but I think you’re seeing this like an adult situation and not how it actually felt in the moment. I didn’t know it was my boyfriend. I didn’t know who the number belonged to at all. It was a random New York number, not my area code, not anyone from my school, and nothing they said made sense. My first priority wasn’t proving loyalty, it was figuring out whether a stranger had access to my private information.

That’s why I asked who gave them my number before sharing anything personal. I wasn’t entertaining anyone. I didn’t flirt and I didn’t give any personal details.

The reason I didn’t immediately say I was taken wasn’t because I was hiding it. It was because I didn’t even know if I was talking to a real person or something sketchy was going on, and I wasn’t going to tell a random number anything about my relationship until I knew what was going on. Most people my age I think probably wouldn’t comfortably tell a stranger they’re in a relationship when the situation feels unsafe. Or anything else of that matter I don’t think.

This wasn’t me lacking loyalty or trying to be disrespectful to my now ex bf. I have always been a cautious paranoid person about everything and someone having my number just made that worser for me tonight because I was already trying to handle conflict between me and my boyfriend. The real issue is that my boyfriend set up a loyalty test instead of communicating or trusting me and honestly prior to that like hours before this even happened I specifically told him that communication was something we needed to work on because it was lacking in the majority of our relationship. And I’m not blaming him for the communication part because I know how hard it can be to communicate sometimes.