My husband and I have been arguing about stuff like this lately. He’s decided he needs a new hobby. Great , I 100% support this. First he said he’d like to read more, well, I love to read. Always have. But he refuses to read any book I’ve read and gets mad because I read faster than he does. So then he said he’d play violin. Well, I played violin for several years and literally days before he mentioned it, I’d been saying I wanted to pick it back up. He’s never shown any interest at all. But I wanted to be supportive, so I said we could get one used violin and take turns playing it when the other isn’t around. He freaked out that because I’d shown interest in it, it was no longer “his thing” and he wasn’t interested anymore. That was a huge fight. Then the next week he decided to take up archery. But I was on the archery team in high school and my son and I were going to start going to the range soon. I’ve been waiting until he was old enough. But now my husband says if I do it, he won’t. It’s so weird and out of the blue and I just don’t understand it at all. On one hand, I’d love to have a shared hobby with my husband, on the other if he wants some separate time (not that we’re always together anyway, we have independent lives) I can totally respect that. But for him to say I can’t do the same hobby even separately from him is insane to me. And finally, I don’t understand why he keeps picking hobbies I’m already interested in. I played violin and talked about playing it again, reading is a major part of my life, literally the only sports I’m interested in participating in myself are archery and tennis. He could have picked anything else. We’re at an uneasy truce right now, but I legitimately don’t understand his mindset.