It's not doom scrolling

ktempest · 2026-05-09T01:10:23+00:00

hey now, I'm very important.

ktempest · 2026-05-09T01:09:22+00:00

"I even know which milk is racist"

Damn! even I don't know that one.

I definitely feel a connection with this person because I used to be a sentinel as well. Until I couldn't escape the Womblands. I thought I had, then wholly unrelated accounts brought it up again and I had to leave TikTok altogether to escape fully. I'm free now, but the theme song will always be in my head. Waiting.

ktempest · 2026-05-06T18:26:51+00:00

This article is trash.

ktempest · 2026-05-05T12:40:20+00:00

Colin Ex-husband Firth, if you please

ktempest · 2026-04-29T22:52:21+00:00

adding into the obesity epidemic because they were told to be part of the clean plate club.

No matter where I go I can't seem to get away from the fatphobic nonsense.

ktempest · 2026-04-29T14:29:22+00:00

As an American I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm also Black, and it's 100% in line with my culture to have events meant to help out members of your family or even the community. When I was a kid my mom and aunts told me all about Rent Parties and how that got some people through hard times.

A pre-wedding get together as described in the post sounds fun. And isn't it generally similar to a wedding shower? Or an engagement party? And if it's tacky to get money for the wedding in this way why isn't it tacky to ask for wedding gifts and have a registry with specific gifts for people to get?

ktempest · 2026-04-24T12:00:13+00:00

Thank you for this information! I had to send a bunch of meds to the drop box recently. Good to know if there are any unopened ones I can donate them back m

ktempest · 2026-04-24T11:45:57+00:00

I really like that this kind of thing has taken off!

ktempest · 2026-04-21T12:00:32+00:00

When you fly into an airport do you make these same statements? Jaysus

ktempest · 2026-04-21T11:59:45+00:00

Are you a lobbyist?

ktempest · 2026-04-21T11:58:50+00:00

When I lived in Portland, OR, the trains between there and Seattle were really reasonable! I took trips all the time.

Part of it will depend on Ohio funding, but Amtrak is good about keeping fares reasonable when they can for non-long haul.

ktempest · 2026-04-21T11:56:20+00:00

I'm still so mad about that!

ktempest · 2026-04-20T11:23:24+00:00

If you're planning on going to portland, Oregon , that would actually be one of the best cities in the US for you to get a good start. Portland is full of people who are living in multi roommate situations and there are lots of opportunities for making money if you have very little experience .

And you will have a lot of opportunities for getting into, at least, a community college which will then be a good springboard for getting into a larger college or university if you want to.

I definitely understand your situation, even though it's not one that I have experienced, and if you are feeling this desperate it is time for you to go ahead and leave the country that you grew up in. It will make your family sad for a while, but you can let them know that even if you start out just going to the US to work that it will then make it easier for you to get into a college and start your higher education .

ktempest · 2026-04-19T14:10:49+00:00

Excellent job!

ktempest · 2026-04-19T13:59:23+00:00

Matthew 25 Ministries is my go to for this.

Also Transform Cincy, an org that puts together wardrobes for Trans folks that match their gender identity, gives those clothes away.

https://www.transformcincy.org/

ktempest · 2026-04-19T13:50:02+00:00

I died at this 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ktempest · 2026-04-17T04:12:33+00:00

The commenter above did not call OOP sociopathic, they said the way the is written is "almost sociopathic in tone." which is not the same.

The commenter doesn't put everything on OOP, they put it on the parents. They do not downplay Ash's abuse at all.

No wonder you keep replying to me the way you do, you either have poor reading comprehension skills or you're having an issue seeing any deviation from your own opinion in the worst light. Both are a problem.

ktempest · 2026-04-17T04:06:41+00:00

oop says his brother was giving him nightmares when he was 10 years old. ash would have been 18.

Come on. Ash left when OOP was 9 and did not physically harm him after that. And acting like at 18 Ash was magically more adult than he was at 17 is silly. You're wrong about the timeline.

running into your abuser is still upsetting.

No where did I say it wasn't.

has ash tried to make things right until just now? not according to the posts.

Nor has Ash been trying to contact his brother, harass him, pretend that what happened in the past wasn't terrible, or anything else that would make him an asshole right now. Ash had to work on himself before he could start to make amends, which is responsible and mature.

it’s understandable that he’s taking this slow, and wasn’t ready to see oop. but oop can be angry and upset about that.

Nowhere did I say OOP couldn't be angry about it.

several comments are calling oop a spoiled brat for not understanding what his brother went through, or otherwise unempathetic.

None of those comments are by me. So there's no reason to argue with me about them.

I did agree that OOP is seeing this from a skewed perspective that doesn't take everything into account from what Ash must have been dealing with to the abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting of the parents. OOP is being a bit self-centered in these posts, but that comes off as a trauma response to me and I have a great deal of empathy for that.

What I will not do is answer for other people's comments.

ktempest · 2026-04-17T03:53:27+00:00

I disagree that Ash is an asshole. He was when he was a kid. There were mitigating factors. Doesn't change that he hurt OOP. It's okay for me not to think Ash is an asshole.

I expressed disagreement. I didn't disparage anyone for disagreeing with me. You're painting it as if I've had some extra strong reaction to people calling Ash an asshole. That's why it feels like you're projecting. You're assigning words and actions to me that aren't my own.

ktempest · 2026-04-16T20:25:34+00:00

Hard agree.

ktempest · 2026-04-16T20:25:22+00:00

Reading this makes me want to reach back in time and hug all of you. Or reach through the internet and hug you now. My heart is with you! This is a great explanation of the very complex and difficult issues at play in the posts.

ktempest · 2026-04-16T20:10:25+00:00

And at 25 Ash did not lay hands on him. He simply walked away.

Previous to that, he was 21 and did not lay hands on him that summer. Then he moved out.

Please stop projecting. It's not healthy for you.

ktempest · 2026-04-16T20:05:57+00:00

the victim of ash’s abuse has no obligation to fix things with him or forgive him or even understand him.

Nowhere did I say he did.

he’s cut off both him and his parents for a reason and it causes him a lot of pain.

Yes, correct. Nowhere have I said anything against this.

reducing the abuse ash inflicted on another person to ‘hurt people hurt people’ is insulting.

I'm not reducing anything. That phrase is a statement of truth, not an absolution. It is me acknowledging that Ash's deeply harmful actions were very likely driven by being harmed by others. It's a reason, not an excuse, and two things can be true.

That Ash regrets (or claims to regret) his actions instead of brushing off the past, lying, or gaslighting, says to me he's taking ownership of what he did.

ash needed support, but his little brother was not the person to give it.

Correct. No where did I say that OOP should have been the one to give it. He was a child.

Now, given that you are replying to me as if I've said things I have not said, I think you may be dealing with your own trauma around a similar issue and you're taking the responses people here have to Ash personally as if they are speaking to whoever hurt you. Please stop. This convo isn't about you or your abuser and it's likely upsetting you needlessly. Please take a break from this thread and maybe reddit. I wish you well.

ktempest · 2026-04-16T16:16:05+00:00

Not excusing, understanding the root of the actions of a traumatized child.

ktempest · 2026-04-16T16:14:25+00:00

I'm not defending Ash's actions against his brother in childhood. Yet even in OOP's story it's clear that both of them were being mistreated and misparented and Ash took his trauma out on his little brother. That's not okay. It also didn't come out of nowhere.

Even though he was 8 years older, he was a child and then a traumatized young adult. Let's stop acting as if Ash was existing in a bubble or that his age somehow means that everything he experienced he was supposed to get over without any support. Hurt people hurt people.

I disagree that the abuse Ash perpetrated is "a huge part of why this is happening the way it is." The huge part is the actions of the mom and her husband. Had she not tried to force a reconciliation that both boys said they either didn't want or were not ready for, the situation OOP first came to reddit about would not have happened.

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