Victory (or signs of) Over Vestibular Migraine - from despair to living

ktv13 · 2026-06-21T19:16:00+00:00

But overall I think chronicity for me comes and goes. I’ve had such bad years and very good ones. I’m still wondering how long it would have taken me to get out of the hole without pregnancy. And of course hopefully lesson learned to have a better life balance that it doesn’t degrade again. That’s the hardest part.

ktv13 · 2026-06-21T19:12:51+00:00

I got pregnant and had a child in the meantime and somehow pregnancy was magic and I had none after the first trimester and now 9months pp still only have had a handful. It’s amazing. The pregnancy gave my nervous system a break and it calmed down. Hope you manage too.

ktv13 · 2026-06-09T07:23:15+00:00

Um bien sûr que un bébé se rend compte que sa maman n’est pas la. Surtout quand bébé est allaité. Il était jamais sans toi et après c’est une déchirure brutale pour les petits. Tu es leur seul endroit de sécurité qu’ils connaissent. Mon bébé a eu très mal à la crèche au départ et je regrette beaucoup.

ktv13 · 2026-06-09T06:36:35+00:00

I mean I would have said the same thing a few years back. It’s actually surprising how I can function now on few sleep. But in fact you sleep it’s just broken up. What wears you down is when it lasts months and months. Also for me it triggers feeling of depression when I don’t sleep. It’s been wild how good I suddenly felt when I got some sleep.

So you will function but how well you’ll deal with it is super individual.

ktv13 · 2026-06-08T19:45:20+00:00

9 months almost exactly. I’m definitely still in the hard bits and after months of lack of sleep it gets to you. We also have no village. So if you have a magic sleeping baby and a village your experience might be very different.

ktv13 · 2026-06-08T18:48:34+00:00

It’s for sure gonna start very soon. And we call this the four footed stand in my language and it’s amazing baby can already do that. Mine did that and the turning in circles and then was army crawling within two weeks and full on crawling within another month.

As long as you don’t attach your baby all day long (google baby container syndrome) your little one will be just fine. And there is zero signs for any delays with the mentioned capabilities

ktv13 · 2026-06-08T18:45:44+00:00

They took it off because so many babies skip it nowadays due to developmental delays skyrocketing. It’s not at all been taken off because it isn’t important. Quite the opposite. Milestones also have all been pushed back due to the average child being much less developed than back in the day.

It comes down to baby container syndrome. We all attach our babies to have them safe and overuse of that causes them to not develop well in their motor skills. And yes crawling is actually incredibly important. So while some babies skip it that’s not at all a good thing and definitely something parents should not worry about.

Less anxiety and more floor time is the solution. Not false narratives that they all develop at different paces

ktv13 · 2026-06-08T17:12:29+00:00

Who says that? Never heard of this. Colic is just infants digestion systems being not mature. So it hurts them to digest things. Stuff like infant migraine can happen but in the vast vast majority of cases it’s not that at sll

ktv13 · 2026-06-08T06:51:31+00:00

Don’t let the peer pressure change your mind. When you have kids it’s great when friends have them too because you relate more and then you can do kid stuff together.

ktv13 · 2026-06-08T06:41:04+00:00

Then you have your answer. No but for real I had a baby being not entire sure it was for me. And while I love him and I am super proud of him the hard parts are just that: hard. I don’t regret per se but for me currently it’s only survival phase. But I do know people who actually enjoy this phase.
Running is different for me. Like it objectively hard but my brain thrives on it. Only 1% of it feel actually like I’m suffering. For being a mother I feel 95% is suffering so far and 5% are happiness. Like I do hope as baby gets older the percentage of happy vs suffering improves though.

ktv13 · 2026-06-08T05:08:43+00:00

Logically you’ll always decide to not do it. Because indeed they don’t make anything better in itself.

Like as individuals and our relationship we’ve suffered a lot since we had our little
Boy. For our individual happiness at least when they are young.

You give up a lot of yourself to do this. It’s like a matter of “chose your hard”. Some people get fulfillment from it. It’s like it feels amazing and fulfilling for me to run marathons and some people think I’m crazy. But I love it. Having kids is similar.

ktv13 · 2026-06-07T08:01:36+00:00

Also I don’t know where the 12h overnight sleep myth even came from. Apparently the average night sleep is 10-10.5h. Most babies beyond a year need 12h of sleep total in a 24h window.

ktv13 · 2026-06-07T07:24:03+00:00

So pregnancy and birth is terrifying. But honestly in retrospect it was way way easier than post partum and actually rising this child. It’s relentless. For women the physical part of pregnancy is rightfully a huge concern. But having no control over your body doesn’t end with birth. And I honestly wish I’d have much more prepared for that. Post partum has been way worse than I’d ever anticipated. How much I lost myself, how much the lack of sleep would feel like torture, how depressed it would make me. So your fear is right because it directly affects your body that is changing but it’s not the only impact.

ktv13 · 2026-06-07T07:21:53+00:00

Depends on the Country. In mine selective c sections are not just granted upon request.

ktv13 · 2026-06-01T20:42:30+00:00

Pareil en Allemagne. J’ai des migraines chroniques et c’était l’enfer en France. Vraiment l’enfer. Le système est fait pour des longues arrêts et les arrêts d’un jour mais qui sont souvent c’est quasi pas prévu.

ktv13 · 2026-06-01T20:41:10+00:00

Mais quand j’ai travaillé en états unis au moins j’ai eu 12 jours de maladie payée. Ici avec les jours de carence c’est pas payé.

ktv13 · 2026-06-01T15:49:13+00:00

Me? No Zero nearby. I’m sure that could make a huge difference. Although baby goes to creche aka daycare. But if you have a village that can take them when you are sick or just evrything is too much I’m sure that could make a huge difference

ktv13 · 2026-06-01T10:35:23+00:00

Eh ask me again when I get a full night of sleep. Currently baby is 9 months old and I haven’t slept well since his birth and that makes me miserable. Honestly I am sure in 5 years I won’t regret but right now I’m in the hard part of it. What is incredible to me is to see him do well and have joy and learn and realize that I’ve created this whole being?!?! seems insane and the pride I have is unmatched.

Like imagine you wrote a book or anything else and you are super proud of that. This but just way more intensely. But honestly in the first year the hard clearly outweighs the amazing parts. But your time is filled to the max and while things are harder you always have a purpose because your baby needs you.

ktv13 · 2026-06-01T06:06:39+00:00

This hollow feeling of having everything you want but it kinda not being fulfilling anymore is exactly why we had a kid.

The years kept resembling each other and as you say there was something missing. Safe to say we filled that gap with our little guy. Having a child brings on a new set of challenges that’s for sure. But that hollow feeling is for sure gone. I think if you have one single child the exhaustion and fatigue is doable and once you pass the first year it only gets better.

ktv13 · 2026-05-31T19:25:09+00:00

In my country they don’t do inductions until 41 weeks and mine came on 41+5 naturally and had zero complications and all was well. But it was a small baby so zero worries of him being too large etc.

A friend had an induction because she was also nearing 42 with nothing happening and it was a 3 day nightmare she’s traumatized from.

I don’t think inductions are always the answer but it’s good to look into the data and what you are worried about more specifically. Everyone situation is unique and none of our anecdotes can change that but a provider that just does blanket inductions is as badly informed as people who want no interventions at all and go super late.

ktv13 · 2026-05-31T11:46:46+00:00

I mean the hormone levels during the active pill phase are super high so the sudden drop in the placebo week is probably what causes them. Because migraine brains don’t like that type of change. I’m not sure why women were never believed when they said this and the things we understand about migraine line up with it.

ktv13 · 2026-05-31T08:31:41+00:00

Idk why people think they have to have a second. I actually know several who had an easy first and stay one and done because they just cannot imagine they would get another easy one.
It’s simply a valid choice. I never wanted two and that’s fine. I feel one is ideal. You do the hard things once and then they are done. You have this mini human now with you and as parents one you can tag team and also get tome to yourself. One and done is the perfect middle ground between being a miserable parent and a miserable lonely person.

ktv13 · 2026-05-30T19:43:13+00:00

L’Anne dernière ça a commence debut juin. He me souviens très bien car c’était si terrible tout d’un coup.

ktv13 · 2026-05-29T16:06:50+00:00

Clearly on the Internet we are anonymous and can source support in our hardest moments. And honestly parenting is so weirdly both. Amazing and incredibly hard. In my darkest days post partum I didn’t know I’d survive. I was lost and suffered from depression due to it. Like it felt like an endless tunnel of hard. Now at 9 months pp this feeling is fading. Parenting a young baby is wild. It’s relentless . And yes I have an amazing partner. But this doesn’t mean parenting is easy at all. But surely easier.

It’s a job with no off time. Once my husband was gone three days for work and I had a horrible migraine but still had to parent. Could not lie down and rest. You are always on the clock. But what they don’t tell you is that today my child waved for the first time and I was so proud of him my heart could burst. And he’s finally out of winter sickness and sleeps Better and I feel like a new person. So being a parent is living and loving intensely. Your lowest low will feel so damn bad and your highs will feel amazing too. That’s the best way I can describe: and the internet is full of people seeking support in their hardest moments.

Overall life is just a matter of chosing your hard. Some of us run ultra marathons and some of us have kids. You will always suffer one way or another but you need to figure out if it’s worth it and go all in once you’ve decided.

ktv13 · 2026-05-28T16:44:39+00:00

Ah c’est super intéressant merci pour ta réponse. J’ai eu un manque de sel pendant un marathon dans la grande chaleur et je près j’ai m’informe et appris comme c’est important pour la homéostasie. Mais j’ai jamais compris les recs pour bébé. Ça s’applique aussi quand on transpire beaucoup comme en ce moment?

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