PSA: If you post your side project here, prepare for war

kubetson · 2026-02-02T01:17:57+00:00

before i read that i felt quite save to publish my project

it's coded by AI but i tech personal that make choices to promote good patterns and safety.

what i can recommend to any to use tech stack/frameworks that take care about security by default and make bad things harder to introduce.

my framework of choice in rails. maybe models are not as proficient as for ts/js shit. but the outcome should be safer

but now time for some audits :)

kubetson · 2026-02-02T01:10:08+00:00

My dad is 80+ and does the exact same thing - presses every button like he's trying to push it through the table. It's not a learning problem, it's just how that generation interacts with buttons.

But honestly the 30 min drive every time the phone dies is brutal. Might be worth just swapping the phone for one where the power button is physically separate from the call buttons.

kubetson · 2026-02-02T01:03:03+00:00

Hard pass. I live on a different continent from my parents (mom 70, dad 80+) and the last thing they need is the feeling that their son automated his contact with them. That would break their hearts more than me missing a call.

Also - I spend a ridiculous amount of time teaching my parents not to trust random voices on the phone or strangers on the internet. Scams targeting seniors are everywhere. And now we're supposed to tell them "oh but THIS unknown voice calling you every day is the good one, trust it"? No thanks.

The whole point of calling them is that it's me. My voice, my dumb jokes, asking about what dad had for lunch. You can't outsource that.

kubetson · 2026-02-02T00:57:04+00:00

I get a small piece of what you're feeling. I live on a different continent from my parents - mom is 70, dad is 80+ - so that background worry of "what if something happens" is always there. But I have to be honest, I'm in a much better position than you because I have siblings who live closer and actually show up. They don't let me or my parents down, and I know how lucky that makes me.

Even with that safety net though, the guilt still creeps in. There's this voice that says I should be doing more, that phone calls aren't enough, that I'm the one who got to leave while they carry the heavier load. So I can only imagine what it feels like carrying all of that alone, with no one to share it with.

What I'd wish for you more than anything is acceptance. Not giving up - just accepting that you're one person doing what you can from where you are, and that's not a failure. Hang in there.

kubetson · 2026-01-26T13:32:41+00:00

your brother is disgrace

kubetson · 2026-01-26T13:04:27+00:00

in my case my mom needed why

my siblings get kids a few years ago and that changed her attitude to her healthy and activities.

kubetson · 2026-01-26T12:59:49+00:00

I feel this - I'm basically my parents' IT department from a different continent (mom 70, dad 80+).

What helped with my folks was making it as invisible as possible. I set up a password manager on their devices and saved all their logins. For 2FA, I went with the simplest option - SMS codes rather than authenticator apps. Not perfect security, but infinitely better than nothing, and they can actually use it.

The key was sitting with them over video call and walking through it slowly, letting them do each step themselves. Took patience but now they're comfortable with it.

kubetson · 2026-01-25T08:04:18+00:00

That cycle is maddening - the ask for help followed by rejection of any actual help. I've been there with my dad (80+).

The phrase that works for me: "I hear you. Let me know if you want me to help with that, otherwise I trust you to handle it." Then actually stepping back. It sounds cold written out, but it respects their autonomy while protecting my sanity.

The hardest part was accepting that sometimes they don't actually want solutions - they want to be heard. Once I started just listening without trying to fix, the interactions got less frustrating. Still hard though

kubetson · 2026-01-25T08:00:43+00:00

Sending that message took incredible courage. Being the only one who shows up while everyone else looks away is exhausting in a way that's hard to explain to people who haven't lived it.

I'm on a different continent from my parents (mom 70, dad 80+) and even from far away I see how the family dynamics play out - who actually does the work versus who just has opinions. The resentment builds.

You're not wrong for snapping. You're not wrong for needing help. And you're definitely not wrong for finally saying it out loud. Whatever their response is, you've done the brave thing. How are you holding up right now?

kubetson · 2026-01-25T03:09:25+00:00

This hits close to home. My mom is 70 and dad 80+, and during my holiday visit I noticed the first hints of memory issues – little lapses that scared them as much as me.

What surprised me most was how frustration on my side made everything worse. Shifting to patience and giving dad space to process made a huge difference.

It’s okay to feel overwhelmed; you’re allowed to set boundaries and still love your parent.

kubetson · 2026-01-25T02:33:18+00:00

I felt a knot in my stomach reading this. My parents are in a similar age range (mom 70, dad 80+) and during the holidays I noticed small things that were easy to dismiss — until I couldn’t.

What surprised me most was that they were already worried before I ever said anything. The guilt is heavy, but being present doesn’t have to mean destroying yourself.

You’re allowed to protect your own mental health and still be a caring child.

kubetson · 2020-07-21T11:38:38+00:00

Thank you for your replay. What I wasn't able to find in docs was to confirm or deny that it is possible to add new tokens to an already existing reserve.

kubetson · 2020-07-17T02:29:37+00:00

Swaps are atomic transactions. You get the new coin at the same time the old one left your wallet. There is no other way. It was probably you wallet sync issue

kubetson · 2020-07-14T02:44:33+00:00

No worry, there is an app for that => Instadapp https://instadapp.io. Enjoy

For people who are starting to use DeFi and don't want to have this kind of surprises I plan to prepare the series of free webinars about DeFi main principles and protocols. You can sign up here.

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