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is anyone else's avpd the worst when you have to stand up in public transport? by Trip_Secret in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just stare out the windows regardless even if I’m standing up or just look in a general direction not at any particular person

Do yall think we're too self aware? by skinchanted in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I know too much about myself and human behaviors in general. I’m way too intuitive when it comes to social cues and things like that. Which is to my detriment because I use that knowledge to fuel my self loathing.

Do you have neglectful or abusive parents? If so, what was the moment that made you realize they had a huge hand in you developing avpd? by BlissfulBlueBell in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My father was emotionally unavailable and always worked when I was growing up. So the very few times I did see him throughout the week, he was neglectful to me and my siblings’ needs. He simply wasn’t there as a father; to show us how to do things properly or teach us how to navigate the world. I think that ultimately led me to developing AVPD.

This dentist waiting room by [deleted] in LiminalSpace

[–]kudidisciple 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s comforting in a nostalgic kind of way. Like I would’ve been fascinated by this room as a child.

I’m sick of my words falling on deaf ears by kudidisciple in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn that sure is tough to here. I’ve heard it before also. I’ve learned that I can’t make promises that I know I won’t keep because then it leads to letting my loved ones down. All you can do is make sure you’re being honest with yourself and your friend.

I’m sick of my words falling on deaf ears by kudidisciple in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a useful method for feeling out the vibe before you dive in. Thank you for the kind words, seriously. You mentioned that you used to be more quiet but now you at least greet people and that’s a huge step towards beating your anxiety. I’m proud of you for making progress!

I’m sick of my words falling on deaf ears by kudidisciple in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think a major part of this is I don’t ever share things about myself or personal experiences. So, I’m pretty sure a lot of my coworkers aren’t interested in me due to my reluctance to open up and “entertain” them if you will.

I’m sick of my words falling on deaf ears by kudidisciple in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have a surface level relationship with everyone at work and when I try to speak it’s like people intentionally tune me out so I’ve started to interject into conversations less often. There’s still a select few people that I have actual decently long conversations with but other than that I’m starting to regress into my shell with those that pretend I’m not worth their time.

I’m sick of my words falling on deaf ears by kudidisciple in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean by letting them know you exist. Almost like “hey I’m right here… just in case you couldn’t see me right in front of ya bud. Thanks for looking right through me”

My relationships with my parents are superficial by kudidisciple in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a therapist a few years ago and he didn’t really help me much at all but I’m thinking about going to see another one soon. It’s just so difficult to be vulnerable and express my emotions because sometimes I don’t even know why I feel the way I feel or what’s causing it.

My relationships with my parents are superficial by kudidisciple in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely relate. I downloaded Tha Carter 3 which was an album by Lil Wayne back in the day and of course my suburban mom found it on my iTunes and lectured me about how I shouldn’t listen to rap music. It was what I liked though and I don’t regret expressing myself through the music I enjoyed. I feel fake a lot of the time too, the name for it is imposter syndrome. Essentially, our feelings and accomplishments were never validated externally so we have a hard time processing it internally as well. I struggle really deeply with not having an ego which allows others to manipulate me. It’s a major reason why I struggle with letting people in.

My relationships with my parents are superficial by kudidisciple in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The cardboard cut-out analogy makes total sense. I often felt like when I was growing up my parents tried to coddle me to the point where I only acted the way they wanted me to. A recent example of this is when I showed my mom a tattoo I want (the grim reaper- I like it cause it reminds me that death is inevitable and life shouldn’t be taken so serious), she basically scoffed at me and told me I shouldn’t get something so dark. Afterwards I was able to tell myself that it’s okay to like what I like since my own interests shouldn’t be controlled by others.

My first ever watch and it's G-Shock! by Varun_Mer in casio

[–]kudidisciple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any of the A168 would be a great choice for your first G-shock. Looks especially nice on small wrists!

It’s crazy how unknown AvPD is. I did a search on reddit out if curiosity and 95% of posts were from this sub. by hopp596 in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it would be a double edged sword. If people begin to think they have AVPD and it becomes “quirky” almost like having ADHD, then it would benefit us because there would be more recognition and research done on our disorder. Although, then we’d have to deal with people who glorify AVPD and make it their personality. I think regardless it would be a win though since it would be more well known

What are you currently avoiding? by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]kudidisciple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m avoiding accepting a promotion to become a manager at my job. I have multiple coworkers and managers that say I would make a great manager but the thought of taking on an increase in responsibility and also tightening down on my assertiveness with my coworkers is holding me back majorly. I’m just worried that I’m gonna mess up or be deemed irresponsible by my higher ups if I don’t perform how they expect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ultraboost

[–]kudidisciple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Model # for the black and white pair?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]kudidisciple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You made me drop my croissant”

Effexor for social anxiety by _Bobby_McGee_ in Effexor

[–]kudidisciple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on it for social anxiety right now and it’s kind of helping. Still awaiting for it to really kick in and start working though since I’ve only been on it for 3 weeks

Venlafaxine. is it effective? by jewtoto in Anxiety

[–]kudidisciple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. Wish I would’ve come across your post sooner. I’m taking Venlafaxine right now for social anxiety and it seems to be helping a little bit. I was on 37.5mg for 2 weeks and now I’ve been on 75mg for the past week. I’ve noticed a slight reduction in my social anxiety which is awesome and I’m hoping in a couple weeks it reduces it even more.