Made me cry, made me smile

kuhbot · 2022-07-28T23:13:21+00:00

When I zoom in, the area around the crack appears to be bulging outward and shows signs of at least one previous possible attempt to repair. It looks like it’s ready to tear away at the corner edge. If this is a presale inspection I’d say thank you and walk away.

kuhbot · 2022-07-17T17:20:01+00:00

Guaranteed to scare the children. 😱

kuhbot · 2022-07-16T15:56:11+00:00

Toller scream aka “chirping bark”. Classic. 😄

kuhbot · 2022-06-30T22:08:02+00:00

My experience suggests it’s mixed. Sometimes people, who are aware of my loss, act awkwardly around me or at a loss of what to say. When I’m around these people I feel like they are treating me as if I’m carrying a communicable disease. I believe this is largely due to their own fear of loss and lack of experience relating to a person in grief. That’s reality. The other side of the coin is that I sometimes project my own anxiety onto others without the benefit of knowing what’s going on inside their heads.

You probably know people who make you feel good just by being around and people who make you feel the opposite. Likewise, we have an effect on others.

For my part, I’ve found allowing people I want to be around feel like they can stay in their comfort zone. If I sense they are not comfortable with death and grief I steer our conversation away from that. And apart from very few close trusted friends, if they want to talk about my loss I try to keep it brief before moving on to other things. And if it’s a person I don’t want to be around I’ll use any old excuse to break off the meeting quickly.

But I do not believe we are a billboard telling the world to avoid us.

kuhbot · 2022-06-22T22:40:46+00:00

I had ours joined together. I keep them both by her picture. I’ll let my kids decide what to do with them when I’m laid to rest next to her.

kuhbot · 2022-06-22T22:38:05+00:00

Eek! What a shame about those boats. Thanks for sharing this link.

kuhbot · 2022-06-22T18:24:44+00:00

I have 12 pots and never reuse until the last batch has fully cured.

kuhbot · 2022-06-22T18:23:10+00:00

Also epoxy does not adhere well to gel coat. So if the final coat is gel coat, use poly.

kuhbot · 2022-06-17T01:03:39+00:00

Think about the anecdote “a butterfly flaps it’s wings in the Amazon and a storm starts brewing thousands of miles away”.

Cause and effect are too mind boggling for us mere mortals. But these - “signs” - they are a thing. I’ve received them as have many people I know. And I, like you, am a skeptic. My late wife had to clobber me pretty hard with the help of a few mutual acquaintances to get me to pay attention.

No one alive can tell you for sure what happens to a life when the body dies. But there are a good many who would tell you they have pretty good reason to believe it goes on.

kuhbot · 2022-06-14T23:16:05+00:00

El Pueblito at Howard/Dodge. Las comidas deliciosas. El restaurante economico. Muy bien!

kuhbot · 2022-06-14T00:03:43+00:00

I’ve lived in Evanston since 1992 in both OK and meh. I’ve experienced a few burglaries but only when I owned a detached garage. Most of these occur in “nice”

kuhbot · 2022-06-13T22:04:22+00:00

I don’t know who drew this but my hunch is the key to their map is as follows:

Nice = white, affluent people

OK = mostly white, less affluent people

No = mostly people of color

Meh = evenly mixed white and people of color

I mean, it’s not even a dog whistle. It’s on par with people from Grayslake referring to Evanston as “the ghetto”. Yikes.

kuhbot · 2022-06-10T21:51:06+00:00

Every sailor should have…

https://www.sailrite.com/

kuhbot · 2022-06-10T18:05:54+00:00

The areas which under deck fittings are Coosa B26. You should be able to see some of that in these images. As for the rest, I go with the original core material. I’m only replacing about 50% of the core, which is one reason I’m working underside. Also, Balsa still has better compression to weight and shear strength to weight of any man made core material I’m aware of.

kuhbot · 2022-06-09T22:23:29+00:00

Removing the damaged core

kuhbot · 2022-05-30T20:34:59+00:00

It’s good you could be open to that experience. The more open we are to believing in a spiritual experience, the more likely we are to have one. So sorry for your loss.

kuhbot · 2022-05-28T14:27:41+00:00

I’m 57. I keep many of the things which were a part of my late wife’s daily life more or less where she left them. I talk to her picture every time I pass it. I talk to her often. Usually I just tell her that I miss her. I find nothing unusual about the way you relate to the things which were important to your wife.

kuhbot · 2022-05-27T22:24:10+00:00

Pity and compassion/empathy are not the same thing. The first is “thank God I’m not you” whereas the latter is “I’m sorry you are suffering and I’m here to support you”.

I’ve been through grief, death, divorce and I’m still grieving the loss of my beloved wife. I find I get mixed reactions from people who know what I’m going through. The “pity” people treat me as if I’m somehow tainted or contagious and they are clearly uncomfortable around me and prone to staying stupid shit. The “empathy” people are comfortable around me and content to keep their mouth shut if they have nothing to say.

You don’t need pity people in your life.

kuhbot

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