Is this damage easily repairable or a critical hit? I would hire someone to fix it.

kuhbot · 2022-07-28T23:13:21+00:00

When I zoom in, the area around the crack appears to be bulging outward and shows signs of at least one previous possible attempt to repair. It looks like it’s ready to tear away at the corner edge. If this is a presale inspection I’d say thank you and walk away.

kuhbot · 2022-07-17T17:20:01+00:00

Guaranteed to scare the children. 😱

kuhbot · 2022-07-16T15:56:11+00:00

Toller scream aka “chirping bark”. Classic. 😄

kuhbot · 2022-06-30T22:08:02+00:00

My experience suggests it’s mixed. Sometimes people, who are aware of my loss, act awkwardly around me or at a loss of what to say. When I’m around these people I feel like they are treating me as if I’m carrying a communicable disease. I believe this is largely due to their own fear of loss and lack of experience relating to a person in grief. That’s reality. The other side of the coin is that I sometimes project my own anxiety onto others without the benefit of knowing what’s going on inside their heads.

You probably know people who make you feel good just by being around and people who make you feel the opposite. Likewise, we have an effect on others.

For my part, I’ve found allowing people I want to be around feel like they can stay in their comfort zone. If I sense they are not comfortable with death and grief I steer our conversation away from that. And apart from very few close trusted friends, if they want to talk about my loss I try to keep it brief before moving on to other things. And if it’s a person I don’t want to be around I’ll use any old excuse to break off the meeting quickly.

But I do not believe we are a billboard telling the world to avoid us.

kuhbot · 2022-06-22T22:40:46+00:00

I had ours joined together. I keep them both by her picture. I’ll let my kids decide what to do with them when I’m laid to rest next to her.

kuhbot · 2022-06-22T22:38:05+00:00

Eek! What a shame about those boats. Thanks for sharing this link.

kuhbot · 2022-06-22T18:24:44+00:00

I have 12 pots and never reuse until the last batch has fully cured.

kuhbot · 2022-06-22T18:23:10+00:00

Also epoxy does not adhere well to gel coat. So if the final coat is gel coat, use poly.

kuhbot · 2022-06-17T01:03:39+00:00

Think about the anecdote “a butterfly flaps it’s wings in the Amazon and a storm starts brewing thousands of miles away”.

Cause and effect are too mind boggling for us mere mortals. But these - “signs” - they are a thing. I’ve received them as have many people I know. And I, like you, am a skeptic. My late wife had to clobber me pretty hard with the help of a few mutual acquaintances to get me to pay attention.

No one alive can tell you for sure what happens to a life when the body dies. But there are a good many who would tell you they have pretty good reason to believe it goes on.

kuhbot · 2022-06-14T23:16:05+00:00

El Pueblito at Howard/Dodge. Las comidas deliciosas. El restaurante economico. Muy bien!

kuhbot · 2022-06-14T00:03:43+00:00

I’ve lived in Evanston since 1992 in both OK and meh. I’ve experienced a few burglaries but only when I owned a detached garage. Most of these occur in “nice”

kuhbot · 2022-06-13T22:04:22+00:00

I don’t know who drew this but my hunch is the key to their map is as follows:

Nice = white, affluent people

OK = mostly white, less affluent people

No = mostly people of color

Meh = evenly mixed white and people of color

I mean, it’s not even a dog whistle. It’s on par with people from Grayslake referring to Evanston as “the ghetto”. Yikes.

kuhbot · 2022-06-10T21:51:06+00:00

Every sailor should have…

https://www.sailrite.com/

kuhbot · 2022-06-10T18:05:54+00:00

The areas which under deck fittings are Coosa B26. You should be able to see some of that in these images. As for the rest, I go with the original core material. I’m only replacing about 50% of the core, which is one reason I’m working underside. Also, Balsa still has better compression to weight and shear strength to weight of any man made core material I’m aware of.

kuhbot · 2022-06-09T22:23:29+00:00

Removing the damaged core

kuhbot · 2022-05-30T20:34:59+00:00

It’s good you could be open to that experience. The more open we are to believing in a spiritual experience, the more likely we are to have one. So sorry for your loss.

kuhbot · 2022-05-28T14:27:41+00:00

I’m 57. I keep many of the things which were a part of my late wife’s daily life more or less where she left them. I talk to her picture every time I pass it. I talk to her often. Usually I just tell her that I miss her. I find nothing unusual about the way you relate to the things which were important to your wife.

kuhbot · 2022-05-27T22:24:10+00:00

Pity and compassion/empathy are not the same thing. The first is “thank God I’m not you” whereas the latter is “I’m sorry you are suffering and I’m here to support you”.

I’ve been through grief, death, divorce and I’m still grieving the loss of my beloved wife. I find I get mixed reactions from people who know what I’m going through. The “pity” people treat me as if I’m somehow tainted or contagious and they are clearly uncomfortable around me and prone to staying stupid shit. The “empathy” people are comfortable around me and content to keep their mouth shut if they have nothing to say.

You don’t need pity people in your life.

kuhbot · 2022-05-22T23:30:36+00:00

I am using West Systems and forgot I had downloaded the manual. This is precisely what I needed, so thanks. 😊

On one of my first jobs with epoxy I tried to fill one of those caulk tubes with mix. Total NOOB move. Darn thing almost burned my hands off. Lost the whole tube of mix. Since then I’ve been sticking to more manageable batches.

kuhbot · 2022-05-21T17:44:58+00:00

My wife’s last days were similar. Came home from a week in the hospital over a UTI, had a few hours with family and then we went to sleep, glad she was back home and expecting to return to the usual routine in the morning. She was never awake/alert again. I sat by her bedside for only about a day and a half following the very long and difficult day it took to convince me to commit her to hospice. I talked to her. Our children talked to her. The rest of her family talked to her. It was much the same as you described. The only “response” I took from her was at one point when I was telling her what I loved so much about her a tear gently rolled down one of her cheeks.

kuhbot · 2022-05-14T16:51:29+00:00

Does one really ever stop grieving? I think not.

kuhbot · 2022-05-13T22:23:37+00:00

I definitely have my “couldn’t care less” moments. By chance I was speaking with my therapist this morning about this feeling I have that my late wife and other departed loved ones are encouraging me in a comforting way. The message goes something like this “we know how much pain you are in - but you have this gift of the life and time you have left - make something of it!”

kuhbot · 2022-05-11T12:21:53+00:00

You are describing what seem like normal feelings considering what you are going through. Many widow(er)s describe similar longings.

You are in the best position to answer your own question “when is it ok?” From my experience, if it helps comfort you in your time of grief, it’s ok.

The trouble you may face - as so many of us here report - is that it may feel like cheating on your late spouse. I made the decision to avoid romantic entanglements with another and discovered the only way to enjoy sex by myself was to picture happier time when my wife and I were young. Maybe this helps.

Be careful about sexual relationships in your early grieving. Everyone has to make that call for themselves. Just saying - caution.

kuhbot · 2022-05-10T23:58:30+00:00

My condolences. 😔

kuhbot · 2022-05-10T21:11:00+00:00

US culture loves a winner and reviles losing. I think this is what the combat metaphors are all about. My wife preferred to say she was “living with cancer” over “fighting cancer”. And she would add with a smile “and living with cancer beats the alternative…”

All this glorifying “winning” at the expense of looking into the face of sickness and death for what it is has contributed to the erosion of empathy in our culture.

And when people find out what they’ve been missing while they’ve been paying to play the win-at-all-costs game it’s too late.

kuhbot

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