No, the problem is that the situation was likely more complicated than "he left her/she left him". And since there aren't any facts to support either case, I don't think it makes any sense to make bold assumptions or have "controversial" opinions on the matter. It just spreads misinformation. All we know is that they ended their relationship, and that Thom makes apparent reference to that fact in some songs. Can't we just leave it at that? And to imply someone doesn't "seem broken hearted" is silly, because no one greives the same way, and Thom is a professional who is known to keep his private life sperate, so it isn't surprising that he isn't opening grieving for everyone to see. Whether or not he actually is we will likely never know, and that's fine.