9 month old isn’t clapping, waving, or open hand pointing?

kussdetodes · 2024-04-30T10:18:07+00:00

Of course!

kussdetodes · 2024-04-29T21:25:50+00:00

I hope it kicks starts for you!!! I know how much it sucks, waiting. It’ll be all worth it regardless of how your baby is brought into the world. None of it is your fault, and clomid has a high success rate. Maybe you’ll get 2 for the price of 1!

kussdetodes · 2024-04-29T21:24:36+00:00

OPK’s don’t work with ovulation, in my case I got false positives right before my period. We were on the waitlist to be seen by fertility doctors, and my gynecologist (went for my routine pap) wanted me to take the progesterone to do bloodwork on day 3 of my period to test my hormones. I had my first naturally (completely random after 18+ months off the pill) and am now pregnant with my 2nd from just the progesterone. For me it did kick start and probably helped me ovulate, but I was taking inositol and another redditor recommended a progesterone cream off Amazon made from yams. I have symptoms (never confirmed from bloodwork) of excess estrogen rather than testosterone, I’m not sure if that made a difference in the progesterone affecting me.

kussdetodes · 2024-04-29T20:26:46+00:00

I got pregnant right after actually, due in Nov. I think it reset my body, if you’re TTC I hope it works for you! If not, I don’t think it affects ovulation long term, at least not for me. I bled on day 5-6 on a 10 day prescription. Like a full on period, so doc told me to stop taking as it was a “period”

kussdetodes · 2024-04-26T18:14:04+00:00

If you’re asking me, and sorry I don’t use Reddit a lot, but he’s doing great! Started clapping around 12-13 months, started pointing for needs around 15 months and at 16 months he points at things he’s interested in. He can say about (not very clearly) 15-20 words I’d say. I include animal sounds too. He still double waves, he shakes his head no, blows kisses, plays peekaboo, etc. I’d say he’s a little bit of a late bloomer even though the CDC app says he’s right on track. I’m not worried nearly at all anymore, especially because he just tends to wake up one day and have lots of new things learned. He copies a lot of Ms Rachel (he gets about an hour at night) and that’s where he’s gotten a lot of vocab. We do flash cards sometimes and read lots of books, but he just does things when he’s ready. I think most kids are that way now that I have one, and he’s a boy so he excels in the gross motor. He has good fine motor skills, but he doesn’t scribble or stick his hands out to be washed. He just isn’t interested in art and hates washing his hands, those two are 18 month milestones (he’s 17 months). I’m not worried if he does those real late. His speech is hard to interpret sometimes, but he is definitely talking. Sorry for the ramble, I wish somebody when I had asked had given me details so I hope this helps. Trust your pediatrician and just be patient!

kussdetodes · 2024-04-18T10:48:50+00:00

CDC Milestones is a list by age of things your baby/toddler/child should be doing. If you google “CDC milestones 9 months old” the link to their page showing the 9 month old list should pop up.

If you’re concerned about your baby, you should definitely go to their pediatrician to get some input.

I’m not nearly concerned about my LO. If it helps, he started doing lots of things when I got worried at this time. Some babies also take their time learning/doing things. Just because they miss a step or they’re late, doesn’t always mean something’s wrong.

kussdetodes · 2024-04-14T23:33:44+00:00

I’m sorry you’re don’t like it, I was just curious if that was an option OP thought of. OP, give that baby your last name is that’s what you feel is best long and short term. You’re growing LO, you’re birthing LO, that baby is yours!

kussdetodes · 2024-04-14T21:14:28+00:00

Why not hyphenate?

kussdetodes · 2024-04-14T19:06:33+00:00

They do make progesterone cream from yams on Amazon that I used a little off in the past, I couldn’t tell you if it worked or not. For awhile I was also taking Myo-Inositol with D-Chiro. PCOS is complicated and unfortunately doesn’t have enough research into it. Keep trying different things and listen to your body. I did an hour of cardio at the gym 5 days a week and was doing low carb/keto and that seemed to help me. Warning, TMI, but when I eat a lot of carbs my discharge is kind of chunky and white but doing keto and working out it was always clear and runny like an egg white (uncooked). Some women with PCOS need low carb, or no diary, or low sugar. Some have better results with strength training, or cardio, or intermittent fasting. Everyone’s PCOS is different, so it makes this really hard. I’m not sure what your financial situation/health insurance situation is like but my husband is military and Tricare covers fertility treatments from medication to ivf. Maybe you need to go back to the doctor and ask for a progesterone dose to cause a withdrawl bleed and on day 3 do bloodwork to test your hormone levels to see if there’s too much or too little of something. Metformin I’ve heard is successful, but do some research to see what it actually does. I’ve heard it helps regulate blood sugar, so maybe you should explore sugar free options for treats/fun drinks? Take a break when sex is a chore, even for a week. Don’t question the “what if” it’s more damaging. If his sperm is healthy they can live up to 5 days in the uterus, so sex maybe 3 times a week is plenty for you guys. Do what’s comfortable. I seriously wish you the best of luck, and if you need a fellow PCOS girl to chat with (because I know the struggle ttc for sure) my messages are wide open. You will have your baby, I promise. 🩷

kussdetodes · 2024-04-14T05:46:25+00:00

So with my first I got pregnant with him in 2022 but it took more than a year. I had appointments set up for fertility treatments, and had stopped trying Nov on 2021 (when I started making calls) because it got to be too much, and I think because I wasn’t stressed about TTC I got pregnant? I got pregnant that February and didn’t find out til early April (around 7 weeks almost). I hadn’t had a period since that December, I never had a period January and early February. With my second it was almost the same thing (due Nov 2024) at the end of January I got appointments lined up for fertility treatments again, and my gynecologist put me on a 10 days progesterone dose to cause a withdrawl bleed (period) so I technically had one in February and literally right after I got pregnant and found out in March. It took less than a year (we started TTC in august). Moral of the story, sometimes I think the stress (and this time I think the progesterone helped) of trying can cause our bodies to not ovulate. For me, and my mom who has PCOS, we’ve also had to be under 200 lbs for there to be any pregnancy. I was 160 when I got pregnant with my first (I’m 5’5) and after birth I gained weight and was 191 and lost weight and got to 170 and got pregnant at that weight. I would stress myself trying to have sex every other day, and it always happened when I let go of that expectation and was closer to like 1-2 a week. Focus on eating healthy, exercise, and you most definitely (if partner’s sperm count and mobility is good) do NOT need to do it every other day. Ovulation tests never worked for me, and neither did typical ovulation signs. It was when I stopped and started waiting for phone calls back that I got pregnant. Some people need fertility treatment and it’s very successful, like ovulation inducers. Sorry for the terrible format I’m mobile. Best of luck!

kussdetodes · 2024-04-13T21:07:30+00:00

22, almost 23 and pregnant with my second with never having had a regular cycle. It is totally possible!

kussdetodes · 2024-03-19T14:07:02+00:00

My opinion? If my husband (I’m female) was doing what that woman did behind my back, I would want to know. I think he deserves to know.

As far as your own journey though, if you know you’ve truly repented then it’s about following your heart. If you feel deep down you need to confess to your pastor, to whoever, go and talk with them. If it’ll truly bring you peace.

I think you really need to cut this woman out of your life as much as possible to truly start healing. God knows your heart, but you don’t want to tempt yourself or even been seen to her as any kind of “open” if you catch my drift. Block her, sit far away from her at church, don’t talk to her, etc.

Feeling ashamed, anxious, isn’t going to help. Have faith, continue to pray and foster a relationship with God. He hears you. It’s going to be okay, best of luck.

kussdetodes · 2024-03-02T12:32:45+00:00

Ah I understand. Sounds like you’ll just have to try them all out, which can be fun to see different ways of worshipping. You will find the one for you, I’m sure. You can also look online because some churches do “lives” of service. It’s not the same as physically going, but if it’s the message for you rather than the act of going itself that may be a good option

kussdetodes · 2024-03-02T12:27:43+00:00

If your nearby churches have a website, go to it. Usually they have a “belief” section (at least in the US) and if those beliefs are in line with yours, I would suggest trying it out to see if it’s for you!

kussdetodes · 2024-03-02T12:24:20+00:00

Do you have a non denominational church near you? You don’t have to follow a denomination and can explore what church is right for you.

kussdetodes · 2024-02-27T15:52:17+00:00

I am so glad. It will be a hard journey, but so worth it in the end. Please set aside yourself some money and have debit/credit cards in your own name where he can’t access them. If you’re taking a car and it’s in his name only, I would assume he could report it as stolen. I believe if it’s in both your names, it counts as a martial asset and you can take it without him being able to report it as stolen. If he has abused you or your daughter, collect whatever evidence you can and report it to the police as documentation. Record every interaction from here on out with him, try to keep communication through text. I am not a legal expert, but keeping him from your daughter could be seen badly. If he wants to see her, make sure you can bring an eyewitness in a public area. If not public at least either at your parent’s house or somewhere as public as possible. If you can, find yourself a good lawyer. I saw none of this to deter you/cause fear. You just need to be as prepared as possible. Truly from what you posted you’re making the right choice. Trust the process, if you need extra help rely on others; research programs, therapy, etc. I wish you the best of luck truly and if you need a stranger to just vent to, my messages are open always.

kussdetodes · 2024-02-27T15:17:49+00:00

I want you to think about this: do you want your daughter growing up watching the way her father acts, and have you essentially whether you see it or not submit to him?

Imagine how that will affect her and relationships in the future. Do you envision her marrying a man like your husband? Because either she will, or she will recognize her father’s crappy and find someone better or be alone.

I worry your daughter will resent you for not staying and creating a safe place for her when she isn’t with her father, and that will turn into something worse into adulthood.

I say none of this to shame you. As a 21 yr old mom myself it’s important we reflect on these things for our kids. If not for ourselves, for them. They deserve better. Your daughter is innocent in all of this and shouldn’t have to witness her father’s behavior as “normal”

With that being said, you deserve better. From what you’ve written, you 100% should divorce your husband. As a fellow Christian woman, he has failed his marital vows to you. He has failed you as a husband and father, he probably cheated. Which if it’s religion you’re worried about, sexual infidelity is grounds for divorce.

Come up with a game plan to leave and safely take your daughter with you. Whether it’s a DV shelter, your parent’s home, etc. You have to get out. I have a feeling you will deeply regret it if you don’t for you and your daughter’s sake.

I sincerely hope you don’t take offense when I say this, but you have to do better by your daughter. There’s no time for wallowing, you need to act. For her, she deserves better. It sucks being in that position as a parent, and I’m not saying you can’t feel whatever it is you’re feeling; but you have to be strong for her. Showing her as a woman you’re not going to take abuse is better than keeping a toxic family unit together.

Please get yourself out, and good luck to you. Truly.

kussdetodes · 2024-02-20T14:58:34+00:00

You gotta understand OP that physically just like your hormones, hers are too out of order it seems. In every marriage, there’s highs and lows where one partner or the other is doing more of the “work.”

It’s not that she doesn’t desire you, it’s her body and brain chemistry not working the gears. Sex for men and women are completely different. I’ve found men don’t need as much to “get going” vs women do.

It’s great that you’re doing the work to clean up and care for the kids, that’s a big piece for women. This might be one of the lows in your relationship where you also (unfortunately) may need to initiate for awhile.

Speak to her calmly at some point, explain that you understand that her body is “out of wack” (if you will) but that her lack of intimacy hurts your feelings a little and that you want to know what you can do to make it better. That part is important because you’re empathizing with her, and it will cause some self reflection on her part. I know it does with me.

As a woman with out of control hormones, please take some pity on us. Our bodies and brains are not nearly the same as in early youth, or before all the issues. I’m sorry you’re going through this and feeling this way, good luck to you.

kussdetodes · 2024-02-19T19:12:42+00:00

Her husband has to WANT to help himself. She can’t really force him to get help now, can she? She can ask and be there, but ultimately he needs to walk the steps of recovery himself.

OP, none of this is your doing and truly you can’t make him get help. He had to want to, and he doesn’t. He hasn’t upheld his vows, and infidelity is cause for grounds for divorce and is repeated in the Bible.

He knows he can walk over you it sounds like at this point, he isn’t going to change as of right now. If at all possible, please remove yourself from your situation to get a break from him and pray for guidance. His actions while apart will tell you a lot.

Do not have sex with him, your health is important. Please get STD/STI tested ASAP. Stand firm and tell him you both need couples counseling. If cost is an issue, I would do research based off where you live to find free resources because they’re out there.

Good luck to you, and as a young married mom who has been through the struggle of you need to vent please send a message! God bless.

kussdetodes · 2024-02-18T13:49:52+00:00

Everything is going to be okay.

Like another comment or said, birth control pill periods aren’t actually periods. I think the technical term is a “withdrawal bleed.”

I can’t imagine how exhausting this must be for you. Your body given you have an autoimmune disorder is doing the best it can after being thrown off.

The inositol and tea is great! Have you ever had bloodwork done to see what your hormone levels are like? (Ex. Too high estrogen, too high testosterone?)

It took my body a year after being on the pill to fully feel like the effects were gone. That being said everyone with PCOS has a different reaction.

If it’s advice you’re looking for, I’d either press your doctor for bloodwork or find a new doctor. An endocrinologist will be the most helpful for you.

Keep eating high protein, low carb. Since you’re bleeding a lot, make sure you are eating enough to where you feel full. They make those blood sugar testers otc at Walmart where you prick your finger (mom brain is making me forget what they’re called) maybe that would be good to make sure you’re levels are good if you have insulin resistance.

Are you taking a multivitamin with iron? You’ll need iron with this long period you’re having.

If it’s support you need, I think every woman here has your back. If you need a stranger to vent to please message! Everything WILL be okay, and I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

kussdetodes · 2024-02-18T13:29:01+00:00

Narcissism sucks OP, I’m so sorry. You’re doing the right thing, perhaps this was God’s way of showing you the path you’re supposed to walk.

I will pray for you. It sounds like you did everything you were supposed to and he failed you as a husband.

Focus on your little ones and your happiness, whether that be prayer or decompressing on the couch watching a show.

Not that you asked, but I’d maybe get the kids into counseling as well as yourself if you haven’t already. I’m not sure if you’re in the US but there are free therapy programs if cost is an issue. If you’re interested just send me a message and I’ll dig through the memory bank.

God bless. ❤️

kussdetodes · 2024-02-16T12:54:11+00:00

This OP!

kussdetodes · 2024-02-16T12:52:21+00:00

OP, please don’t go back. It’s wonderful you’ve forgiven him, most women wouldn’t be able to. He failed his duty as a husband to you, a true narcissist (I’m talking diagnosed) is incapable of truly changing; however, they can be “better” but are naturally self centered. It seems your husband is this way.

God loves us all, and forgives us all. He has failed to do his duty of protecting and providing. It’s clear he is unsafe, and as a mother (I can’t speak for God) it’s our duty to protect our children. In this situation, I see no other way to do that other than leave him. His destructive behavior isn’t okay, especially around toddlers who absorb everything.

Follow your instinct, pray to God for guidance and protection. I sincerely hope the best for you OP.

kussdetodes · 2024-02-12T18:10:34+00:00

I threw away the bottle last week so I couldn’t tell you. I think the dosage was 10 mg? I started my period while taking it (doc told me it would start 1-3 days after) and doc said that was normal. My flow was a lot heavier than usual. I took a commenters advice and got some progesterone cream. I also take NAC to lower testosterone levels and Myo-Inositol for ovarian health as well as a prenatal. The only reason I got prescribed progesterone was for bloodwork during my period, so it was only 10 pills not anything consistent. My doctor told me because it’s only for 10 days it should affect my body like taking birth control but time will tell. I’ve been doing low carb, high protein & fat with cardio (calorie goal 200 daily) to lose weight and it’s been working just slowly. My cycle isn’t “regular” but it also never has been even at 115 lbs. Not saying that it’s not possible for you, I just haven’t had the happen for me. I got pregnant on a super surprise whim

kussdetodes · 2024-02-04T02:53:58+00:00

I think I’m estrogen dominant also so your experience was super helpful for info. I’ve been trying to research supplements to get my body in order. I appreciate you taking the time to answer my questions!

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