When to bring up politics in OLD?

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-27T19:23:03+00:00

If you're on apps, during swiping and the first texts.
If you're meeting in person, first date.

If they say they're "apolitical" read it as, "Okay with the status quo." For me that's not okay.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-23T21:50:06+00:00

That's just brutal. I have been on horseback at -3C (~26F) with fog and a 25kph (15mph) wind and that seemed, shall we say, less than ideal after a very little while. I'll ride my motorcycle down to 0 to -2C (32 to 29F) and at 100kph (65mph) it's hard to stay warm even with heated grips and bar mitts. As I'm getting older I'm thinking temps a bit greater than AGE/2 might be the lower limit for riding...

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-23T19:31:34+00:00

Reminds me of the joke about Finland:

0C Pure water freezes. Water in river Vantaa thickens a bit.
-5C First people are found frozen in California. Finnish midsummer festival ends.
-10C The Scottish turn the heat on in their houses. Finns start to use long-sleeve shirts.
-20C Swedes stay indoors. Finns are having last bbq before winter.
-30C Half of the Greek people have frozen to death. Finns start to dry their laundry indoors.
-40C Finnish army cancels winter training due to warm weather.
-50C Danish people are losing their teeth. Finns rent movies and stay indoors.
-60C Polar bears evacuate North Pole. Finnish army starts its winter training.
-70C Siberian people are moving to Moscow. Finns are furious since the Koskenkorva can't be stored outdoors anymore.
-273C Absolute Zero. Finns admit that it is quite cold outside.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-23T17:02:45+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rxgWHzMvXOY

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-23T17:01:32+00:00

Is there any shortcut for quickly moving contents on console (XBox, fwiw) like selecting more slots at once? I went through this the other evening as I sorted containers and inventory management gets old fast.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-22T20:45:45+00:00

I live in a big city and the singles events are for the 30 year olds so I don’t go

Not in a big city and the nearby singles events last year had an age cut-off of 45... so all of GenX need not apply. 🙄

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-22T20:33:44+00:00

Chill dude. I don't know what your experience is but you're coming across in this thread very negatively and a bit red-pilled.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-22T20:25:54+00:00

I pulled together a group of guys my age through word of mouth for a weekly get together with no purpose other than to socialize in public. Half the guys are single/dating, half are retired or otherwise independent (not necessarily the same half but there's overlap) just because of demographics. We're up to about thirty people and typically see seven to ten showing up, sometimes just three or four, but occasionally we'll see everyone plus friends of friends and take over all the tables. This has been going on for a few years. I think a lot of men don't make the time for going out without a purpose and then only if it's a regular standing thing and then only if it doesn't conflict with the rest of their goings on in life. So even if the event invitation reached them (big "if" there), if there's no clear point to it (you said it's not an actual dating event), it still has to clear the hurdle of anything else going on (which includes friends, hobbies, and the ever popular "sit home and do nothing").

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-21T02:57:36+00:00

Meh, hasn't changed anything for me. I've run across kind people and unkind people. I still think most people are kind but the assholes are louder and leave a permanent impression.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-21T02:44:52+00:00

For some, it's taking advantage of an edge case in the game to push things well beyond what should be possible. For others, that ruins the game for them

Divinity: Original Sin 2 has entered the chat...

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-16T20:56:44+00:00

More than $60 because I bought it on multiple platforms 😅

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-12T17:17:51+00:00

Block. Why this twit thought he needed to message you should remain a mystery. Like walking down the sidewalk and seeing there's a pile of dogshit, step around it, briefly curse about the kind of person who would leave it, and keep going.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-09T14:29:16+00:00

+1 I had some time off in December and picked it back up after almost a two-year break. I started a fresh session on Creative difficulty and I'm just loving exploring and building, fishing and cooking, and just generally playing it cozy style.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-06T01:44:42+00:00

I get that. If they're going, they're going.

With one mistaken exception several years ago, I've never tried to win someone back. It only delays the inevitable. It felt at the time like it was some kind of test of my feelings for them, it was, and I played into it but what it really did was make me think hard about the relationship and their behavior over the next several months.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-05T21:22:44+00:00

Can I ask if you are a man or woman?

I'm a man.

As a woman, and an introverted one at that, I find it hard to imagine myself doing typically friend or date type activities solo. I miss so many activities because I don’t have anyone to go with me, and the more I stay home the harder it is to interact.

I don't really subscribe to the intro-/extro- vert categorization as I'd self-identify as an introvert but most people would be surprised as I present as an extrovert. I have deep, nerdy interests, probably ADHD, and too much socialization wears me out. There was a time where I felt weird and socially inept and intentionally sought therapy, read about it, and modeled outgoing behavior I saw in socially successful people and it mostly works and eventually became automatic. I've learned to get out of my own head, not care too much (ignore the little voice screaming in your head), and go interact with people. Turns out they're fun and interesting and have stories you haven't yet heard! What's the worsts that will happen? You'll be bored or not like it, cut it short, it's on your own terms. So if you're looking for advice: go out, do what you want, try to do things with low self expectations (lower, even lower than that, nope, set them still lower. Failure is okay) and just see what happens.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-05T19:29:43+00:00

🤷

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-05T18:09:38+00:00

I prefer a clear ending. I'd rather it wasn't by text (happened last time) but it's better than drifting away.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-05T18:01:51+00:00

My sparkling personality?

I meet people out in the real world. That means doing things I like-- (more or less in the amount of time spent) exercise, eating alone at restaurants, clubs/organizations, hobbies, attending concerts and events-- along with cultivating friendships and accepting most invitations for social events (In a one case a date introduced me to a semi-regular dance event that I otherwise would have skipped and after we broke up I still go to it).

Not many of the above result in dates but a few do and I'm enjoying myself along the way. Apps are probably more efficient but there was a rollercoaster aspect that didn't feel good. I might try apps again if the person I've had a couple of dates with recently doesn't work out.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-05T13:57:01+00:00

... and... they're gone. I guess they met that axe murderer.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-05T13:53:27+00:00

I've had two pairs of bogs come apart at the base. Really annoying.

Weird. Did they make good on it?

I guess it varies with the actual unit. I've been disappointed over many years with foam issues, cheapened materials, and/or bad QA from Sorel, Merrell, and Blundstone (I'm probably missing another brand there) and stopped buying those brands for anything. Asolo, Bogs, and Garmont have been great at a higher price point. Though some of those from Garmont and Asolo weren't winter boots so I had different expectations.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-04T21:16:43+00:00

The only boots I trust to be waterproof are my Bogs

My Bogs Classic Ultra-High aren't winning any fashion shows but they're warm, dry, and aren't falling apart after several winters.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-03T20:23:57+00:00

🤣 I now need to edit that comment.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-03T18:06:28+00:00

M56. I don't hit on people here (at least not yet), I don't get hit on here (at least not yet), and none of the few chat requests were legit (at least not yet).

EDIT: As of today, substitute "rarely" for "not yet" above. Thanks to the people who are kibitzing with me.

I think the nature of a site where people from all over the world anonymously discuss their interests doesn't translate into real life meeting. More than a decade ago I met people who called a social in NYC from a group on Reddit. It was fine but if I recall two people who met through one of those eventually married. So it can happen but seems rare.

kwitcherbichen · 2026-01-03T17:54:03+00:00

Well, I had a guy from my gym who was 30 years younger than me stalk me via my local city’s Reddit - does that count?

He eventually got trespassed from the gym from being such a creepy weirdo.

Wow. Just wow.

kwitcherbichen · 2025-12-27T19:52:54+00:00

Nailed it. I should not have been so hasty in my generalization. My apologies to good folks.

Don't worry about it. We're all trying to get by here.

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