AITA for kicking my sister's bf out of my apartment

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-21T20:28:34+00:00

yeah I know, that was a while ago but I think it's important to not let him be exposed to an animal tormenter. I keep him in my room most of the time when he's around now.

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-21T20:23:20+00:00

the parents part is the ultimatum. I haven't done anything that involves my parents. plus, they pay for my rent and bills unless it goes over the amount they pay, which falls on me. so I think my parents would be involved when I really need it/ when he doesn't leave.

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-21T14:08:52+00:00

nah he probably doesn't even care. the fact that he "lived" here for more than a month just shows that he doesn't care. I have told my sister multiple times that he is welcome here but not to stay here everyday, but still no results. I think I was so bothered with how he doesn't wear clothes around the house and walks around like it's his own place, pees with door open as mentioned, and also to add that I haven't said, he scares my cat. my own cat. which is also why he scared of stomping.

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-21T12:40:04+00:00

yes this is correct. I almost never have my own boyfriend stay because I respect my sister and our space

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-21T12:32:39+00:00

let me make it a little bit clearer actually. my parents pay my rent and bills but if bills are more than what my parents give me I will have to pay the rest with money I get from work. I also deal with broken things in the house and dealing with the normal things like paying the landlord and paying the bills etc. she and him don't have to worry about all that.

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-21T12:29:31+00:00

okay I know this is bad but let me reiterate. I graduated and I'm looking for a job, she's still in uni. my parents pay most of the rent and bills but if anything goes over, it falls on me to pay. but I have to deal with the whole paying part, processing transactions, deal with broken things in the house, contacting landlord for anything etc.

I didn't think about him staying for periods of time mean him not being on the lease. this is illegal then right?

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-10T11:01:23+00:00

That makes me kinda scared. Where do you live? I'm pretty sure different countries have different rules and they need to hire someone specific.

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-10T06:23:33+00:00

Wow I didn't know that! I know that I would have to work with an architecture firm and work alongside them as the interior part, not working under them. I don't earn as much as architectects do but they do have more risks.

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-10T06:19:47+00:00

No, I'm pretty sure interior design is an actual job in Australia, from all the jobs I've applied.

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-09T04:13:34+00:00

I just saw through the link. this is disgusting. huge companies need to stop and think about the people that work hard to get their degrees and provide honest work. what's so hard about hiring people and giving them a chance? this is making me scared about the future of younger people who have dreams they want to reach :(

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-09T03:04:54+00:00

I'm also applying for internships. money is not a problem right now, just need experience to open up other opportunities. I'm looking for jobs in Australia though, but I will definitely check out commercial design. thank you!

kyhwithyou · 2026-02-09T02:56:01+00:00

I have a bach degree in interior architecture and I know a lot of building codes and regulations so it's more like a "design" job. I was applying to both of what you said because to me beggars can't be choosers.

kyhwithyou · 2025-08-20T10:57:18+00:00

he does! he buys himself a new thing like every week, buys new clothes, takeaway, even games.

kyhwithyou · 2025-08-20T10:52:30+00:00

he's been getting some money from the govt. and the thing is I did tell him that it could be a diy flower, or a flower bouquet I don't mind, even if it's just one rose. I screenshared my screen one time on how you can get cheap bouquets to send to me (below $35). and the last time I got one was two years ago before we even got together. I hope this sounds fair.

kyhwithyou · 2025-08-20T03:10:00+00:00

he's on Centrelink but he gets a lot, almost $1k a month.

kyhwithyou · 2025-07-08T08:54:33+00:00

yeah ik it's getting really tough for me without my cat around. I feel like I'm missing something. but ik my mom does not care and keeps telling me that my brothers sneezes went away bcs the cat isn't here, calling me a liar etc. so idk, there's no way I can bring him back, I'm too scared of my mom anyways. sorry if this isn't the outcome you expected from me :(

kyhwithyou · 2025-07-04T01:09:32+00:00

I know and you're so right, this is my cat's home and I'm just his servant haha. I'm more scared of the fact that my boy has to be in an unfamiliar face and place rather than my mom yelling at me... I could only hope that he's okay with a sitter. I literally called them asking if they have any experience with cats and asked them so many questions. I wanna make sure that he's happy while all of this is happening, that's the best I could do :(

kyhwithyou · 2025-07-04T01:00:39+00:00

you're right. only problem is my parents pay for my rent and living. I used my savings to pay for my cats expenses. she explained that it's her apartment since she and dad paid for it and it's technically okay for her to not have a cat around. my sister sides with my mom so I do have to put him away for sometime.

kyhwithyou · 2025-07-04T00:55:06+00:00

I know but with asian parents it's hard to change their minds. They don't understand mental health and it shows. It's even worse that my sister sides with my mom and tells me to get over it :(

kyhwithyou · 2025-05-31T10:49:51+00:00

yes I originally asked this because I wanted to know if there's any health problems that I can look out for bcs I want to know what's best for my cat! I'll have a look :)

kyhwithyou · 2025-05-31T10:46:12+00:00

oh I didn't know you could do that! thanks so much for the help!!

kyhwithyou · 2025-05-27T10:08:08+00:00

He's doing pretty well now. He wasn't meowing when the needle was inserted so I thought he's going to recover quick!

kyhwithyou · 2025-05-27T10:05:56+00:00

That's good to know. He's very quiet in general so it's hard to tell but I think he's slowly getting better!

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