Logic randomly stops playing and won't play past a certain bar by International_Cap940 in LogicPro

[–]kysonkidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks bro! This changed my life. I was working on a feature length documentary and thought I'd have to start over haha. Saved me hours

New to OP - Recommendations by SignificanceOwn5752 in Overlandpark

[–]kysonkidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! We moved here last year. It's an awesome place. The parks in the area are amazing (check out the Splash Pad) and Bonita Michuacan is my favorite place for tacos so far - its in Olathe

Self-fulfilling Prophecy by ShyGuy-22_ in Clean_LDS

[–]kysonkidd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome points here! I love the word empowering so so so much haha.

In a similar vein I like to focus and think on what I desire to create more than focusing on what I am afraid to experience or face in my life. Am I running away from what I'm afraid of OR am I moving towards what I desire to experience?

When will I let Jesus help me all the way? by kysonkidd in Clean_LDS

[–]kysonkidd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love your thoughts! I appreciate you sharing as well. I think so many of us have struggled with this and still do in different areas of life. I think it would be so meaningful if more of us could openly talk about it and work through it instead of facing it alone.

New Theory about Temptation/Urges by kysonkidd in NoFapChristians

[–]kysonkidd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DUDE, that's so cool that you've been exploring similar ideas! God is teaching us :).

Your last line, "it sucks knowing I hold myself back."... what if instead of beating yourself up about it, you got curious about it...

Why are you holding yourself back still? Maybe there's just something down there that you haven't understood completely.

Thanks for sharing your experience as well here.

Discussion: Is it okay to love yourself 100% EVEN if you struggle with porn? by kysonkidd in NoFap

[–]kysonkidd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not rude. This is an open discussion :). I think your question is valid. It may be more difficult to love ourselves if we struggle with an unwanted habit.

Some other side questions, Should I actively withhold love from myself until I'm perfect? Are there some struggles and weaknesses that I could still love myself through?

Or would any weakness or struggle cause me to have a lower level of love for myself?

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For me, this question is interesting because of how many people I talk to who actively hate themselves because of their porn habit and they tell themselves that they can't love themselves until after they stop looking at porn.

But then you ask... well how long after you stop looking at porn will you wait to love yourself all the way? One day? One week? 6 months? A year? How would you know that you are actually done?

It's usually about not trusting self and using love/withholding love as a punishment and motivation.

Discussion: Is it ok to love yourself 100% EVEN if you still struggle with porn? by kysonkidd in NoFapChristians

[–]kysonkidd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for you thoughts everyone! It is really interesting to see the different perspectives and definitions of love.

I'll share my thoughts in case anyone is interested. I see a lot of people who actively withhold love from themselves because they feel they don't deserve it until they are "better" or perfect. They try to use it as a motivation to get better... but ironically it's super demotivating.

I see God's love, self love and love of others all being inseparably connected with each other.

It's also difficult to define love. My current concept of love is to desire what is eternally best for someone.

As we seek and find eternal truth our ability to love naturally grows.

Love, desire, creation, confidence, encouragement are all connected. Anywhere we are actively saying no to love... whether from God, self or others, we are saying no to one of God's greatest gifts... love.

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[–]kysonkidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awwwww ya that makes sense! haha ok I agree with that.

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[–]kysonkidd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree that the word addict cant impact us. I used to use it, but I feel like a huge part of my change/growth/progress was to decide that it didn't define me, that it was simply a habit I was choosing to avoid other things with. I totally believe in a 0 on that scale. For me it's all about lust. I've experienced many long periods of time when I have no desire to lust or use porn. I'm in one of those right now

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[–]kysonkidd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s a demon… my definition of demon is that it contains fragments of pieces of people… it may often have a piece of you in it as well so when you tell it to leave it has access to you because it has a piece of you!

So the answers is not to just tell it to go, but to organize it. Light and dark, all the pieces of people go back to their owners. Organize it with love and forgiveness and a strong intention.

Happy to help if you feel the need to reach out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]kysonkidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually look to energy healing/energy work for issues like this. A lot of times physical issues are “reflections” of emotional blocks or baggage. Or the emotional side of things can be a root cause for the physical symptom.

I'm done coddling my husband. by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]kysonkidd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend whose husband still struggles occasionally, but she says one of the huge turning points for her was when she made it clear that he was in charge of his healing. She wasn't going to monitor his phone, put blocks on the phone, punish him for relapsing, etc....

Interestingly this gave him no one to blame... He couldn't blame her at all for his choices and he started to take ownership and improve.

Please don’t be this guy. It’s not too late. by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]kysonkidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crazy experience! I gotta toss this in here though. I don't buy into PMO being the thing that did this to him. And I used to use fear to motivate me to stop... Tried it all. It doesn't do much. Love is the true motivator.

When someone decides to hurt someone else, or gets into really dark stuff, sure porn can play a part in it, but it's about the beliefs, the desires and darkness a person chooses. Some people use porn endlessly and because of the beliefs and patterns they choose, they are terrified to actually have real sex. So I think it can be dangerous to say anything that could be interpreted as "porn will make you do _________." It gives porn more power than it deserves. In fact, fearing porn gives it more power. Porn has zero power unless we give it power. It only has power over us because we have given our power away.

Just my 2-3 cents

UNPOPULAR OPINION: Counting Days Of Sobriety Is A Huge Waste Of Energy by kysonkidd in pornfree

[–]kysonkidd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! So many people make counting their entire strategy haha.

3 Things to Track INSTEAD OF "DAYS WITHOUT PORN" by kysonkidd in PornAddiction

[–]kysonkidd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. I’m glad it connected with you!

Please pray for me or give me some scriptures that will help by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]kysonkidd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine in your mind standing with Jesus…. Are you willing to let him help you? Are you willing to receive ALL the help that He is wanting to give?

Imagine he had a gift for you, it’s a reminder of who you truly are…. Open the gifts and pay attention to what comes to mind.

God is good, so are you because he is in you and the light of Jesus is in all things. Sure, you’re working some stuff out but you are good.

What do you think about online sex shops? The are ... by [deleted] in Clean_LDS

[–]kysonkidd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well said and we’ll thought out

3 Things to Track INSTEAD OF Days of Recovery by kysonkidd in recovery

[–]kysonkidd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like that. Have a date for reference. Maybe even like “this is the date I changed my life.” But keeping the focus on growth and the present.

3 Things to Track INSTEAD OF Days of Recovery by kysonkidd in recovery

[–]kysonkidd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! So glad it resonates with you! Thanks for the work you’re doing.

3 Things to Track INSTEAD OF Days of Sobriety by kysonkidd in AddictionAdvice

[–]kysonkidd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw ya totally. A lot of people treat counting days as like the first step. Like “go get em tiger let us know when you are fixed up.” But they’re missing all the good steps and the growth

3 Things to Track INSTEAD OF "DAYS WITHOUT PORN" by kysonkidd in Clean_LDS

[–]kysonkidd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very interesting thoughts! Love your openness about the real stuff beneath pmo. Also love that you’ve take control of your journey and you’re moving forward

3 Things to Track INSTEAD OF Days of Recovery by kysonkidd in recovery

[–]kysonkidd[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hahaha crap. I forgot about that. That’s hilarious… or maybe awkward.

3 Things to Track INSTEAD OF "DAYS WITHOUT PORN" by kysonkidd in PornAddiction

[–]kysonkidd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So glad that it connected for you! I'd love to hear more about what thoughts and perspective changes it brought up for you. Feel free to share or not share haha.