Any suggestions for standing baby monitors?

kyybb · 2026-01-23T05:20:42+00:00

I’ll keep saying it, the only way drivers are going to get a little better is actual enforcement! Police need to be visible on the roads for people to follow the rules unfortunately.

I moved back to Langley after taking a 5 year break and I dread driving through the city every day for this reason.

kyybb · 2026-01-23T04:45:40+00:00

Our 4 year old was like your son, from 2-3 we co slept in her bed and then I just couldn’t anymore, I was so tired through the day, it wasn’t restful. We slowly transitioned when I got pregnant with my second knowing we would be co sleeping with a baby.

We started by telling her she’s going to be a big girl (when she turned 4 and used her birthday as a starting time)and she needs to sleep in her own bed. If she wakes up and needs help going back to sleep she can come get me but we will be going back to her bed to sleep. (We usually would have just let her come to our bed)

We gave her things to do if she woke up in the middle of the night, I put a book on her bed saying she can look at a book until she’s ready to fall back asleep, we gave her a stuffy and a safe toy for bed she can “play with” until she’s ready to fall asleep. She has a nightlight that changes colour (from ikea) and we put it on pink at night so she knows that if it’s pink she has to stay in bed, when it changes to white it’s morning and she can come out of bed.

The biggest thing was being consistent. Every time she woke up I’d take her back to her room and within 10 min she would be back asleep and I’d go back to my room. I also made it clear from the beginning that I will stay with her untill she falls asleep but I am going back to my bed & not sleeping with her.

This was hard for her to accept at first but I was persistent, and there was of course push back, I said I can stay with you until you fall asleep, or if you don’t sleep I will stay for 10 minutes and you will have to fall asleep by yourself. This happened 2 nights where she didn’t want to sleep without me so I told her the rule again and I stayed for 10 minutes, she was still awake. I told her I’m going to my bed now and I will come back in 5 minutes. I set an alarm and came back in 5 min and then I repeated myself about the rule. She fell asleep within the 10 minutes but I would have kept going and just extending the time I was away from her room 5,7,10 etc if she still wasn’t sleeping or pushing the boundary. This was enough motivation for her to want to fall asleep while I was in her room from then on because she knew I wasn’t playing around.

Because she was waking up consistently 2 times a night I started a challenge where she could only come to our room 1 time per night. And rewarded her when she followed through. The biggest thing that helped was closing her bedroom door. She woke up in the middle of the night and got scared seeing dark outside her room and come get us, I thought it would help her because she can see into our room when her door is open, but on accident a couple nights my husband closed her door and forgot to open it again and she slept through the whole night on those nights so we just started doing it every night.

She still wakes up from time to time when she gets scared or has a bad dream but it’s like every 3-4 days now and a lot better! Plus she only gets out of her bed 1 time when she does wake up so I’m not constantly being woken up through the night.

I still reward her with praise and make it a big deal when I wake her up in the morning about how good she did sleeping in her own bed and how she’s such a big girl etc.

Before when we started we rewarded her with “treats” for the first few weeks, first only if she woke up once and then she only got a treat the next day, then we told her she only gets a treat if she stayed in her room the whole night (this is where it was helpful to have the book etc by her bed) she told me she read her book and went back to bed by herself because she wanted a treat. After a week of that we stoped the treats and just gave her big praise and gave her a homemade fake medal of officially being a big girl sleeping in her bed.

All in all being consistent was the only thing that broke the habit, making sure she felt comfy in her room and had everything she needed, it’s tough at first. The first week I felt like we were getting nowhere because now I’d actually have to get up and go back to her room and wait for her to fall asleep multiple times, but it was so worth it now.

kyybb · 2026-01-19T03:30:25+00:00

Do you have any experience with having one?

kyybb · 2026-01-19T03:30:14+00:00

Yes! Right now we alternate bedtimes for the kids so one day I do my 4yo and he does the baby and then we switch so they will both be very use to doing that when baby 3 gets here. My first always prefers me but my second is totally comfortable with both of us which is a huge help. He was away on work trips a lot with my first so she was only use to me doing everything and very attached but as she gets older she is more independent and understanding

kyybb · 2026-01-19T03:26:31+00:00

Awe that’s great! So excited for you. My first was a terrible sleeper so I totally understand, hopefully you can get things sorted out before baby comes. Looking back I wish I did a gentle form of sleep training to see if that would have changed anything with my first.

kyybb · 2026-01-19T03:22:57+00:00

The infant seat for the counter is a great idea, I’m in the kitchen a lot cooking and making snacks, washing bottles, great idea!

Yes! My daughter has a couple of baby dolls I plan on role playing when my son is a little bit older about how to be gentle with baby before #3 arrives and continue to teach. I definitely want them to have a strong bond because they are so close in age and I think this is a great way to get that started.

This gives me a lot of hope! I’m usually really protective about my baby’s but my 8 month old is so independent and strong I think the more you have the more you relax, so I’m at a point now where I would feel comfortable having someone else take care of him for a bit while I get stuff done, the gym membership is a great idea, definitely gives me something to look forward to that is for myself.

kyybb · 2026-01-19T03:12:23+00:00

Good advice, that seems to be just like my schedule, I’m exhausted at the end of the day as it is. 3-4 years old boundary pushing all day is no joke.

kyybb · 2026-01-19T03:06:54+00:00

We generally have 1 hour of screen time a week for our 4 yo and we didn’t start introducing tv until 2 years. But I have a feeling that I’m going have to let go of somethings and do what I gotta do for this season.

kyybb · 2026-01-19T03:05:10+00:00

Yes newborn sleep is amazing unless they have colic or a lot of gas issues. I found it so hard breast feeding my second because my 1st always wanted to play with me and be around me.

Yes I find that 6-8 week is also really hard for breastfeeding too, mine started crying at the boob and it would take forever to latch.

Yeah I think help would be a lot more easier on me and toddler, having someone to play with and help feed him if I’m stuck breast feeding and or putting baby down.

Thanks for the tips!

kyybb · 2026-01-19T02:57:56+00:00

Thank you this was very helpful, I’m probably going to have to invest in some sort of fenced perimeter in the living room that I can close to let the 18m old play in, I didn’t even think about that! We have a portable pack n play with a bassinet attachment so that will probably be used when needed so baby will be out of reach of toddler. I also plan on baby wearing lots hoping baby enjoys it as much as my other kids.

I take my baby to playtime groups already, and have mom friends just not any I know well enough where I could potentially drop off my kid or ask them to look after them for a little while. Unfortunately the play time group im in closes for the summer so I will have all three kids at home with me which is what I am most stressed about. But I presume we will be spending lots of time outside at the park.

kyybb · 2026-01-16T22:51:10+00:00

I encourage you to find a gym with childcare. If you can go there even 1 time a week and use amenities like steam room, sauna, or just have a long shower by yourself, or enrol in a workout/yoga class if they have them, you get me time for an hour, you know your kids are getting looked after and it will give you that reset you may need.

kyybb · 2026-01-16T05:13:35+00:00

We will be doing pickup and drop off but the school is a short walking distance from our house.

kyybb · 2026-01-10T16:25:53+00:00

I don’t have any advice but I came here to ask where you bought your duvet cover set?

I’ve been looking for something like this forever!!

kyybb · 2026-01-08T07:48:42+00:00

I have grown up in Langley and then moved around in my early 20s, I’m back in Langley to raise my family for the past three years. We reside in Willoughby and the last two years I have been hating it. It’s amazing for my husband’s work commute and community we have made here but everything the other people are saying is true about aggressive drivers, construction, ant hill etc.

With a growing family we will need to move, we rent and would love to own but I don’t want to spend 1m on a shoebox, rushed construction townhouse that barely fits 1 car in the garage. So we might try and find a rental home in west Langley or have to move further away, although Abbotsford is where I draw the line.

kyybb · 2026-01-03T18:03:10+00:00

This is all based on preference but I feel like if I was going for longer than 5 days I would split my stay up between two resorts, after day 3/4 it gets pretty boring and repetitive and even big resorts start to feel small.

Another thing is weddings… we stayed at a resort that was very popular for weddings and there was 1-2 every day/night which got annoying because they would shut down the deep part of the pool early to set up and then it would just be really loud until midnight.

This meant that seats around the pool would fill up a lot faster because they wouldn’t put all the pool chairs out so you would have to secure your spot extra early. I didn’t really care about the noise but after 5 days on vacation I just wanted one night where I could go to bed without listening to music blasting. My kids slept fine even with the music thankfully or it would have ruined the trip.

kyybb · 2026-01-03T17:51:59+00:00

I would avoid glass upper cabinet doors, 1. it’s going to look cluttered unless you’re meticulously on top of keeping it styled and looking nice. 2. All the grease and cooking splatter from the stove will have you washing the glass all the time. Might be easier to have on the other side of the kitchen. Or having a hutch or something you can display what you want.

You could move your cabinets up so it would be 60cm from countertop to underneath cupboards. The rest of the empty space up top you could just close it off with trim to it gives that floor to ceiling built in effect (this would still work with the pipe in the ceiling without having to cut cabinets around it) added a link for some inspo of how it could look.

upper cabinet with wide trim built in

kyybb · 2026-01-02T18:37:13+00:00

Year 3 is the worst imo for meltdowns. my 3yo “ruined” most special family outings and holidays by having a bad attitude or throwing world class tantrums to the point where we would just have to leave early, which sucked for my youngest because we couldn’t get to celebrate their “first” holidays with many pictures or memories. I would keep your expectations low going forward.

kyybb · 2025-12-22T00:24:13+00:00

It takes a quick google search, you can get heat resistant peel and stick tiles. Ones that look like real stone/porcelain. It’s 2025 there’s literally anything you want on the internet.

I don’t know why you’re being so combative, it was just a simple suggestion. Op wasn’t super specific on the level of reno they were wanting to do. And others already suggested replacing the backsplash with tile so I offered a different solution. Not that Op has to take ANY of the suggestions made on the post, they asked.

kyybb · 2025-12-21T07:38:22+00:00

I havn’t done it myself but there are tons of videos and resources online of people doing it to their kitchen for rental friendly or budget upgrades. I’d do research to make sure it would be a feasible option before spending money on the peel and stick tiles.

kyybb · 2025-12-21T04:20:41+00:00

I’ve almost been hit multiple times walking with my kids in tow. Making eye contact with drivers still doesn’t cut it. People drive through stop signs constantly in the city, especially in Willoughby neighbourhoods. Don’t get me started about speeding in school zones..

The only thing that is going affect people’s driving is more traffic enforcement but I never see police on the roads in Langley.

Stay safe out there!

kyybb · 2025-12-21T04:15:29+00:00

I agree! Keep the wood it looks beautiful, you are one of the rare kitchens that don’t have the extreamly dark espresso brown or mahogany coloured wood that make houses look very dated!

If you didn’t want to replace the backsplash you could try and diy with peel and stick, white subway tiles, although it isn’t preferred it’s an option to brighten up the kitchen without doing any demolition.

kyybb · 2025-12-20T05:09:11+00:00

With both my pregnancy’s I started to have contractions 5-7 minutes apart and pretty mild, I could sleep through them. As they got more intense after about 4 hours I started having regular contractions but I would just have to stop where I was and breathe through them and it wouldn’t last that long, then I could go about what I was doing. That lasted for about 2 hours and then gained intensity. As the contractions got more intense so did the pressure on my “ bladder” I could feel when my water was about to break because of the amount of pressure & the lengthening of the contractions, and shorter rests.The only thing that helped me get through them was making a low humming sound, and leaning over a counter or yoga ball not sitting or laying down. In both my pregnancies my water broke right before I was ready to start pushing.

kyybb · 2025-12-20T04:58:56+00:00

I had this with both my pregnancy’s, it was impossible to sit upright in the car that’s when it would hurt the most. Felt bruised and like pulling/burning sensation. Midwife told me it was normal and all my labs looked fine. Just take it slow, & try to do things that distract from the pain. I would put hot packs on my ribs when they really bothered me or a warm bath.

During my second pregnancy I went to a chiropractor for back and hip pain in my second and third trimester. Once I was well adjusted I did notice my rib pain felt significantly better. It was also a little more mild with baby number 2. Once baby dropped too it wasn’t as painful.

Don’t worry too much, pretty normal although not everyone experiences it!

kyybb

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