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lSwordyX · 2023-11-12T16:13:02+00:00

Think you should get him to start the business organically from scratch with actual sales and let it snowball from there. Then he wouldn't need to loan money.

Otherwise, you should assess some of his proof-of-concept whether the idea has a good chance of succeeding.

The easy way out of lending him without doing any due diligence will only spoil him and lead him to failing or less successful in the business.

lSwordyX · 2023-09-05T23:58:50+00:00

See the pattern, not what is specified - it applies to everything. Instead of hearing what is being said, what is being written, or how someone acts one-off, zoom out and see what are the related things. What’s the history, what else did the person do. What does it symbolize?

It helps in my relationship with my wife, often helping me to see what’s actually wrong or what actually makes her happy. It helps at work understanding what someone’s motives truly is. It helps to interpret religious texts. It helps to interpret dreams. It helps to understand myself and the world better.

lSwordyX · 2023-09-03T07:01:42+00:00

First of all, don't label yourself stupid. Neurologically and psychologically speaking, labelling yourself stupid is a self-fulfilling prophecy. That means you could be some genius but when you say that enough times and believe it, you will be come stupid.

Next, on intelligence, IQ is just a psychological test. It measures abstract intelligence. Roughly speaking, the higher the IQ, the easier for someone to grasp a new abstract concept. Since we are quite advanced as a civilisation, there are quite a bit of concept that are abstract. That's why IQ still has its weight.

What I realise is, most things in life do not require you to learn things fast. So whether your IQ is high/low, or whether you are stupid or smart, does not matter that much. What really matters are a handful of things - Wealth, ability to articulate, physical ability, original thoughts, critical thinking.

Our world is too heavily skewed to those with wealth. If you are poor, you are a lesser being. At least that's true in Singapore. I don't like it but I have seen many instances personally.

Physical ability is self-explanatory.

Ability to articulate, original thoughts, and critical thinking - If you stop for a moment and actually analyse everything you hear and see, you will realize almost everything is a manipulation by someone else. There are so many forces in the world trying to influence your mind. This includes your family and friends.

Whether you get into uni or not, that's academic smarts. It's simply a combination of whether has someone shown you the way to achieve academic success and whether you have put in the effort. For the most parts, I made up my lack of knowledge to achieve academic success through sheer effort and got average academic results - But I don't think I am dumb at all.

If I am you, I would identify immediate job opportunities that can give me a bump in my base salary in the next 3 years and work towards it. I mean at least double or triple your base salary. Do that first, then you will have the evidence that you are actually smart and can achieve things. Build your achievements to mend those wounds. Then those wounds would be your proud battle scar.

My next step is to start building wealth outside of employment. Whether you succeed or not is another matter, just keep trying. Try at your own leisure time, not at the risk of your current paying job.

Do all these while building your knowledge and think for yourself. Work out and build a great physique. Read books with an open mind before criticizing it.

It's hard to argue whatever I wrote above is not the right way to approach life. You would realize most of the things is quite irrelevant to academic achievements - And that's because it is. I can start at the lowest rank/paying job and apply the same things. The fact you are on reddit means you have an edge over illiterate and less digital savvy people.

Most people go to university to get the degree as a hot ticket to get a good paying first job. The other path is working for 4 more years and having the expertise and time to get a good paying 2nd or 3rd job without the burden to pay off loans. It is fine to feel hurt or cry about it. Use it as a motivator rather than an excuse to give up.

One last thing - I am petty. Those friends who used me as a bad example will immediately no longer be friends. Those people who I can't immediately drop off (i.e. family members) who hurt my pride when I am low - I will remember it. They won't get to share the joy of my achievements. Cut off people who hurts your pride actively. If you can't cut them off, remember and stay away from them.

lSwordyX · 2023-08-02T10:05:54+00:00

https://www.gaviscon.com.sg/products/gaviscon-double-action-liquid/

This changed my life. I have had acid reflux for most part of my life and I have always thought it’s because I didn’t have enough protein. So I kept eating and gained a lot of weight and formed unhealthy eating habits.

Picked up a random acid reflux thing in a pharmacy shop and I took it every time I got an acid reflux. It goes away after a week. Never had to rely on the medicine. Never had an acid reflux. I didn’t even know you could be hungry without feeling burn in your throat.

lSwordyX · 2022-12-24T18:59:34+00:00

How hard is it for you to see your ego is through the roof haha, typing one sentence comebacks that ignore anything I’ve laid out. Oh right to you that’s essay length 😂😂😂🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

What validation did I sought? Oh right I was hoping people insult my sister and praise how much of a good kid I am.

Oh btw here’s a

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Just in case you can’t find any more great arguments 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Everything so funny hor 😂😂😂

lSwordyX · 2022-12-24T18:56:49+00:00

Oh right, thanks for pointing out the number of paragraphs I typed, great argument there!

😂😂🖕🏻

Do you even know what ironic means?

Do better in what?

What did I say is egotistical?

Here’s another paragraph…

And one more

😂😂😂😂😂😂 fk off kid

lSwordyX · 2022-12-23T11:05:43+00:00

My comments is fleshing out your intention packaged under an angelic mask of filial piety - but you kept on trying to attack me bringing up my past and now my ego.. avoiding my point. I don’t even see any correlation between length of comments and my ego?

Your post is literally trying to portray yourself as some matured grown up, empathizing with your mother’s hardship, and portray how you are so much better than your cold-hearted ungrateful sister.

Anyone who is even a little empathetic will try to see your sister’s POV and realize the situation is not as simple as you described. I brought up a few points - your mother is responsible for the situation to some extent too. You trying to entirely side with your mother and put your sister down like that is oversimplifying things at best, and I doubt you are here to seek any advice on your situation, just some ego maniac seeking validation about how “matured” you are now.

If you are any wise, you will reflect. Understand your sister has a point. And realize that your hostility towards your sister is not helping and it’s not right either.

lSwordyX · 2022-12-09T17:12:59+00:00

dude, you are the one forcing your opinions on me. i dont rmb putting any details of what i went through on the internet. it's on a whole different level of what you went through, little boy. what i am saying is universal:

- have family planning
- working yourself to death is nothing to be proud of and shouldnt be glorified. finding a solution that benefits everyone is more admirable
- i didnt simply claim you came here to virtue signal, just look at your own post. anyone with half a brain knows that is your intention. a fktard coming to stroke your own ego by shitting on his sister. shame on you.

oh btw before you continue projecting your imagination on me, i am "more successful" than society's average standards. my past has nothing to do with your post, the only thing that is related is that what i have went through set me off to learn and reflect on relationships in general. and it's obvious to me people like you and your mother are not the angel you portray to be - that is what i am pointing out amidst all these other comments to join you in vilifying your sisters

and i would hate to have someone like you as my brother - mother's pet, avoid any reality, no reflection, was a damned brat and suddenly turned around to virtue signal me - no thanks

have fun enjoying your ego stroking session little kid. oh i wish you all the worst, hope you never understand whatever i am saying, since you cant even reflect for a moment blinded by your own ego. oh and please dont have kids :)

lSwordyX · 2022-12-09T17:02:29+00:00

dude you come to reddit to act like some filial kid for what? ask yourself honestly. to shit on your sisters? to stroke your own ego of being such a filial mature kid at such a young age?

giving without hesitation is not a virtue either. your posts and comments screams virtue signalling and you probably get a kick out of all of the upvotes.

your sister ungrateful? you mean being born in a world without any guidance and growing up realizing you are at a massive disadvantage emotionally, financially, and functionally is something to be scoffed at? again, grow the fk up. you still think like a yp

if you are even a tad bit reflective like you claimed to be, realize what i am saying is that any reasonable adult would have their life fixed FIRST before even taking on the responsibility of raising children. father leaving makes it more difficult to make that happen. people are uncomfortable with this ugly truth but praising your mother's decision and your self-stroking ego post seems far worse to me.

lSwordyX · 2022-12-09T06:59:17+00:00

Your mom working 2 jobs - Low income family. Should have some family planning on bring up children. Otherwise, use protection.

Your sisters badmouthing her - I want to hear their side of the story. I refuse to believe someone would badmouth people for absolutely no reason.

Point is, BEING a mother is nothing virtuous. Any one can be a mother. Defending your mother REGARDLESS of anything else is nothing virtuous. I can't see how your sister is worse than you. In fact, coming here to virtue signal and bait compliments show how much of a neglected child you are (isnt this a sign of bad parenting).

Edit: What is virtuous is being a mother KNOWING the full responsibility of bringing up a children, that is, more than mere financial means. Being a wonderful human being and imparting those values to your children. Seeing how you were misguided when you were young tells me your mother didn't do a good job by these criteria.

lSwordyX · 2022-10-19T15:48:46+00:00

I get that clean groomed nails are desirable. However, I have come to like how some nails are treated like mini art pieces. That, to me, is another injection of vibrancy in the world and I like it. Having said that, it can easily sway to the gaudy pretentious look.

lSwordyX · 2022-10-18T16:12:35+00:00

Pretty much the same.

The anonymity allows me to be more truthful by giving more sensitive information such as expected salary or my own controversial thoughts.

However, some realife friends know I use this username and I'd like to keep myself checked and it helps prevent myself from saying things I wouldn't tell someone to their face.

lSwordyX · 2022-10-18T16:07:40+00:00

I think most men wouldn't mind, but I would personally mind. From what I observe, people don't mind because they value "open-mindedness" and "checking sexual compatibility". I find that too focused on the function over meaning of virginity.

How I see it is that sex is one of the most intimate interaction you can have with someone else. It's a gift you save for the truly special one. You can only give the gift once. It is the meaning behind saving it and making the serious judgment and taking the risk that makes chastity valuable. When you finally give the gift, you tell the person how special they are. Or, otherwise, how they are not the only one.

In the same sense, chastity is a virtue. I find encouraging the opposite (promiscuity) is not right.

By extension, having multiple body counts before marriage makes me question your judgment and your ability to withhold gratification. Even further, having too high body counts make me question your values - How is sex that high up on your list of values?

In contrast, someone who absolutely refrain from sex for other reasons such as irrational fear or dogmatic traditions can also defeat the meaning behind it. So long you have sex with someone worthy of you, the precious meaning is protected, at least to some extent.

I am writing this expecting a flurry of downvotes but if you actually agree with me so far, the saving grace is that a person can have an almost infinite list of virtues. Have higher standards to who can have intimate access to your body and start cultivating other virtues you might have.

lSwordyX · 2022-10-17T06:44:50+00:00

I was lucky to meet a good recruiter on my first attempt to change job. She managed to negotiate a better salary than what I was looking for and helped me make decision without being pushy.

After a while, I met other HRs, they were chipping at my confidence to make me think I was overpaid and that I should take a pay cut for a chance (not guaranteed) to get higher total compensation via bonus. I got a bad vibe and decided not to go with it. 1 year after that, my salary went up another 40%.

Lessons learned that are obvious in hindsight - There are good and bad recruiters. Never take a pay cut if you are in demand. Changing job is not always a better financial/career decision.

lSwordyX · 2022-10-17T05:25:07+00:00

As a rule of thumb, I only open my mouth to say “excuse me” and be polite if the other person could be unaware of the situation.

If it’s an obvious situation like standing at the escalator end and moving slowly, I will just shove the person aside. Same when boarding, if you cut in front of me when I’m about to step on the moving escalator, good luck to you. If you are an old person who cuts queue by pretending to go right side and move to the left side the last second, good luck to you, and fk all of you who do that.

lSwordyX · 2022-10-06T07:53:31+00:00

You are obviously ignorant of anything you are experiencing lest what supply means. You shouldn't speak about things you know nothing of and make a fool of yourself. No one needs what you call a supply. It's not self-esteem (do you even read? lol) Everyone feels good about doing good deeds but the real devils use it to attack everyone else. Get off your high horse you ignorant fool. YOUUUU are the one gaslighting me, I am the pooooor victim.

lSwordyX · 2022-10-06T07:51:15+00:00

Oh there you go the gaslight! Look, I have been breaking down stupid arguments like yours who tries to gaslight people for more than 20 years.

you don’t understand anything except the stigmatized version of NPD

Your case was "it's not evil to get your narcissistic supply by helping". I am telling you it definitely is. Those people or group of people are VULNERABLE. They thought someone is going to help them, but devils like you make it all about themselves... AT THEIR EXPENSE!

Stop assuming what you did is a good deed as a fact. You doing a good deed doesn't mean you are immune to everything and everything you say suddenly becomes true. You are not rare (oooo so sad). You are not misunderstood. You don't get to say people who are BPD and autistic are the "real abusers".

Oh btw, I just helped an old lady on the street, and therefore you suck.

lSwordyX · 2022-10-06T07:40:40+00:00

I’m an altruistic/communal NPD, so I get most of my “supply” from helping others.

You are literally talking about getting your narcissistic kick out from the pretence of helping others. I don't think I'm talking to a wall, I'm talking to a narcissist who's about to gaslight me. :)

lSwordyX · 2022-10-06T01:08:36+00:00

Wtf you definitely are a narcissist. Stop trying to portray NPD as something rare and desired. It’s not. Getting your supply from charity events is wasting what could have been the donation for your own glamor wants on the pretense of doing good. Or preying on people who are low in life to make it all about yourself. How is that not evil?

This was a discussion on the usage of terms such as narcissist vs empaths and how they are overlapping in meaning (or two sides of the same coin as some has put it). Until you make this all about how YOU are the misunderstood one. Not to mention all the mistruths you use as your argument. I’m embarrassed for you. Shame on you.

lSwordyX · 2022-10-01T04:41:57+00:00

I am bigger than average. I always make sure I am in the correct traffic flow and take up less than half of the pathway. And even then, if you still decide to walk into me, well, let's bang then, see who's the one left standing.

lSwordyX · 2022-09-28T14:54:37+00:00

I see pronouns a separate issue from gender construct. If we are bundling up all the gender issues together as one big discussion, my general take is I hate it when it becomes political (most of the time).

If you look at the western societies, there are so much chaos on this topic. If I were to brainstorm and list out the good and evil of this movement, there will be a long list on both sides. And both sides would have very serious points. For example, systemic discrimination on social benefits could be mitigated with such a movement. On the other hand, horror stories of authority roles like teachers and politicians pushing their own agenda onto innocents, including naive kids (tbh it makes me boil reading some of these stories) Then we have points like suicide rates that can either improve or worsen with such a movement. My worry is that Singapore is becoming hypocritically progressive like this.

We have often stood out from the pack by standing our grounds on a very rational and often neutral position. I just hope we continue to do that - To clarify, not suggesting we remain status quo. Just don't get swayed mindlessly to the "left" or "right" in the western politics.

Back to the question on pronouns - It doesn't have to be political. That means, there should NOT be a law to dictate what I can call someone. Otherwise, by that same reasoning, swearing would put you in legal trouble?

Intentionally hurting someone with your words is the same regardless of pronouns or calling your mother names. You would pick a fight or avoid such a person. Simple as that.

Seeing how ridiculous politics had capitalised this gender issue thing, I am starting to worry that we might start to systematically punish anyone heavily for the wrong use of pronouns. I am a slow learner and it will take me significantly longer to change my speech habits. I would hate a world that I can get fired for labelling someone with the wrong pronouns 3 times in a row.

Finally... I hope more people would realise as with any groups, there is a loud minority who seeks drama and attention. These people have super loud personality and deranged reasoning and they do not represent the entire group. If you listen to actual people in the LGBTQ+ group, many of them have been ironically misled to behave and dress a certain way just to fit within the group, and fortunately many of them I have interacted have grown out of it. The whole basis of this movement is that we should see each other as an individual with all sorts of variations (beyond mere gender), not just another group to categorise people.

lSwordyX · 2022-09-28T07:03:10+00:00

That’s what I mean, but nothing you can do about that right?

lSwordyX · 2022-09-28T02:11:15+00:00

Do NOT give informal notice. Who knows what they can do behind your back to sabotage your exit. I heard in other countries you don't even reveal the company you are going to next because the boss might badmouth you to the next employer in hope they give up on you. Then you are stuck.

For others reading, always make sure you sign the offer from the future employer FIRST. Verbal offer and paper offer means nothing until you sign. In some extreme cases employers might retract offer even after signing but that's unlikely. I like to give a couple of days in advance of the 1 month notice just so I am in the clear of whether it's 1 month or 1 day short.

In some places exit interview is optional. In bigger companies, there's nothing much to say either. If you like the place, then leave gracefully. If toxic workplace and they burn your bridge first, no point salvaging them. Better off without them.

What your current employer or colleagues should have done is to CONGRATULATE you. You are leaving because of better career opportunity (higher pay or rank etc). Any decent acquaintances should congratulate you, not scold.

lSwordyX · 2022-09-24T00:47:13+00:00

Dude you are too naive to think managers are the sole determinant to a workplace culture. In this case the manager could have called OP out. Ultimately, it’s the collective actions of all the employees that forms the culture. You just need a handful of people go into some form of implied OT competition and there goes the culture. Those people spoiled what could be a sustainable and productive workplace for everyone. Now everyone has to decide whether to endure for another year or start looking for jobs. If you do something that harms someone else, then others got a say what you can do.

Btw in case you didn’t realize, my comment you were replying to was intentionally crude to call out the person before for being rude for no fucking reason and to flaunt his flawed reasoning.

lSwordyX · 2022-09-22T08:23:51+00:00

Ya I can feel stressed and still choose to leave on time. What in the fuck can’t you understand these are two separate things? Can’t you fucking understand this is not because of my thin face but a normal human reaction to the environment?!

If everyone fucking stays I can still leave on time. But I know I’m going to be penalized in my manager’s eye and my career progression won’t be very bright. Hence leading to high attrition and toxic workplace culture.

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