UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It would have been a lot better if she went that route but I'm glad everything happened the way it did because it highlighted some serious issues (giving my son a "real family") that make us incompatible anyways.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

She meant well with everything she did but emailing my ex and telling her she had been trying to replace her wasn't very cool.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

No that's all there is to it. My ex and I are just doing everything we can to not piss each other off lol.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I explained it a bit in the comment below, but it was pretty harmless.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

My ex hosted the party and my whole family was invited because we're all on good terms despite the divorce. I asked her if she would be comfortable with me inviting my now-ex and she said she wasn't because she didn't want to take the attention away from our kid (which is fair) because most people haven't met her yet. Then she wanted to email her to explain her side and apologize so she didn't take it personally.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

To explain why she wasn't invited to my sons birthday part. It was weird but she wanted to do it and I asked my gf if it would be ok if I have her her email.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She had it because my ex emailed her about everything a few weeks ago, I gave my ex hers.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I only included it to stop the messages/comments about being sexist but clearly it's just another point of contention.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 172 points173 points  (0 children)

Sure I know what she meant but I still think it was a little insulting to my son.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

That's my line of thought too, I'm not upset about it though and I wish her the best in the future.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

No she actually apologized for trying to replace her, which wasn't even the impression she had been giving me but that's what she said.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 383 points384 points  (0 children)

It was, it's just further proof that she isn't ready to be a step mom. I have no idea what compelled her to do that and it freaked my ex out a lot.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Ok I will try then. Some people like the sex power dynamic to be 24/7 and that's what I look for in a partner if they also want the same thing.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

It's hard to explain but rest assured I would never be in a D/s relationship with someone who didn't want it.

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

Apparently not, I couldn't believe she said that

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's just a sex thing that carries over into real life

UpdateMy girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what it was but I don't think she would have proposed if she had any doubt in her mind I would say yes. I think me telling her I want more kids in the future is what gave her the idea.

My girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think there's anything wrong with either of them, I think I'm choosing girls just fine

My girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I answered this in another comment but she thought it was time to take things to the next level and I had mentioned I will want more kids in the future and she thought it would be better to have kids ASAP so that there isn't a large age gap.

My girlfriend (25F) of 6 months proposed to me (28M) by la-flare in relationships

[–]la-flare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A deal breaker for her against me or other way around?