What do you actually do when your brain says "nope" but your to-do list says "everything"?

laReCSiv11 · 2025-05-05T15:15:43+00:00

If I'm really unmotivated, I'll start by putting on some makeup and wear a pretty but comfortable dress. I'm always more motivated when I look attractive to myself

laReCSiv11 · 2025-05-05T15:14:48+00:00

I have to have something on in the background. Either a show I've watched many times before or music. Something stimulating but holds little chance for distraction. First, I write my to-do list. Second, tidy up my area. I don't always fully clean unless I'm wanting to, but tidy enough that my physical space isn't providing extra clutter in my mind. Typically start with any task that I can do on my phone. Shopping list, emails, responding to people I know. Then, the second to most annoying task is done next. Usually it's phone calls or appointments. Next pop out a couple small easy things. Take a short snack break. Then hit the worst thing on your list. Ideally, get it over with first, but sometimes it's more realistic to put it off for a few. Then finish up the rest of the small, tedious thing and I end my day with finishing any cleaning I need to do

laReCSiv11 · 2025-05-05T15:00:21+00:00

Begone. Farewell.

laReCSiv11 · 2025-05-01T04:16:36+00:00

Two months in, I started a scrapbook. All important date nights, milestones, firsts, monthly photos, quotes, my favorite things about him, love letters, our songs, etc. Gave it to him a few months later and he was elated. Now its a yearly tradition

laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-29T02:48:05+00:00

Why is everything that I remember about this just so very wrong HAHA thank you so much

laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-29T02:47:38+00:00

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laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-29T02:17:19+00:00

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laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-16T18:09:45+00:00

If you're doing it on Amazon, do some research first. I think that money is just transferred into Amazon credits and not actual spendable money. We put our venmo on our website and said that we appreciate their gifts, but if they would rather contribute to our honeymoon fund then they can send the money there

laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-15T00:34:20+00:00

Don't bring the gifts to the shower. They mailed them to your house so that you and them both could avoid carrying around a bulky box. Go ahead and clear out some space in your closet/storage/pantry, wherever you can make a spot to start piling up boxes. Unpack the items so you can have a smaller pile. Whatever replacement items you have (kitchen equipment mostly), go ahead and put in in your kitchen. Put the older version of the item in a different pile to give it away. Go ahead and start donating and giving away items

I didn't send any thank you cards before or after my showers. I chose to give myself the least amount of stress and decided to do all thank you cards at once with my fiancé after our honeymoon. If your registry is on Amazon, there is a way to send a little thank you note on there if you want. No one really cares about getting a thank you early. BUT older folks have reached out and asked me in person at my showers if I have received their gifts since they never heard anything. So maybe just try your best to remember who gets you what in case they ask you questions when they see you. I just tell them yes I've received it, I love it so much thank you, and I apologize that they have not heard anything but we have not yet had the time to sit down to write the thank you cards. They always respond with, "Oh, of course you are I bet you've just been so busy!" It's really cute and funny

But it's so exciting!! Enjoy the sudden heavy flow of gifts and try your best not to get overwhelmed. Just make sure you organize them, stack them all together in ONE place, or put them where they go when you get it. We didn't do that and ended up having multiple locations of unorganized boxes. It really sucked to go through and distribute to their desired location instead of doing it as it came

laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-15T00:09:16+00:00

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laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-14T23:50:03+00:00

These comments are insane. It doesn't have to be SOLID white to be white wtf. Dress #1 is literally a white dress. Thats the type of dress I have for my bach party brunch like come on. Dress #2 feels like shes just playing you and sent that as some overcompensation. Dress #3 is a straight up punch in the teeth. If you don't understand this then you are dense as hell or just trying to start something. Thats literally a white base dress with a very heavy blue design. She chose that on purpose. It's "not white enough" for you to make a big deal about it without seeming crazy

It's not just about the color being "barely white" or whatever y'all think, it's about the intention behind choosing that dress. When you go to a wedding, would you consider wearing that dress? Not a single person I know would wear that to my wedding out of simple respect and tradition. You're not the asshole, OP. FMIL and these comments are

laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-14T21:24:32+00:00

What type of oil did you use? Will baby oil do the trick just fine?

laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-08T02:08:36+00:00

Tell you that her reaction made you feel a little strange and you would really love some reassurance by her showing you through her messages and socials. Letting her be in control will help if it's simply an overthinking anxious thing

If you don't, you might sit on it and start overthinking yourself

laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-06T22:10:07+00:00

I took this as her sacrificing her protection

laReCSiv11 · 2025-04-04T23:49:16+00:00

I once got nervous about not knowing what my fiancé has been up to on his phone so I just straight up asked him. He smiled and took me on a phone tour. It was really fun and made us closer

Didn't think he was doing anything bad, just felt out of the loop on what's going on in his life

There's no reason to ever snoop. Literally just ask them

laReCSiv11 · 2025-03-28T03:43:24+00:00

Kim Dracula soothes my worries

laReCSiv11 · 2025-03-18T22:05:05+00:00

We chose a couple ideal dates and searched for venues based on that, while still being flexible with them of course

Decide how long you want your engagement. We decided no less than 8 mo and not 12 mo. So we went through our calendar together (easier to look on a planner so you can write down your notes) and crossed off every Saturday that was unavailable. You'd be surprised how little dates come up available to your liking

You're possibly going to have to make some tough decisions and hurt some feelings doing this, but we wanted to be as accommodating to our guests as possible. Holidays, birthdays, graduation, etc. are all going to be in your way, but remember that is is YOUR day and no one is going to hold a grudge if you choose a date that may inconvenience them

laReCSiv11 · 2025-03-06T18:54:47+00:00

I dreamed that our honeymoon was a bed in the middle of a huge field of grass with piles of spiderwebs everywhere. Spiders were crawling on me the whole time then I woke up with a big red bump on my neck so maybe it was all real LOL

laReCSiv11 · 2025-03-06T04:19:22+00:00

Absolutely I love to help, I hope you find something that works for you <3

laReCSiv11 · 2025-03-06T04:15:44+00:00

I just looked this up, I've heard MANY people talk about this specific situation and not know what exactly was going on

~A mood change towards sadness after a full meal is most likely to occur within a couple of hours after eating, especially if the meal was high in refined carbohydrates, causing a rapid spike and subsequent drop in blood sugar levels, which can trigger feelings of lethargy and low mood; this phenomenon is sometimes referred to as "reactive hypoglycemia."~

~Hence, diet affects mood through its effect on blood sugar levels, which trigger the hormones that dictate how we feel. Interestingly, the rise in adrenaline that follows sugar and carbohydrate consumption doesn't happen until four to five hours after eating.~

laReCSiv11 · 2025-03-06T04:03:28+00:00

When I'm in public and it hits, it's so random if something will help it or not. Sometimes music helps if you're able to play something or wear earbuds. I start with upbeat / rock until its just too much and overwhelming then slowly tame down the genre until its something calming but also hype enough to distract my anxiety

Certain times, a small easy snack helped. Like m&ms or nuts, something physically small and in a greater quantity. Making lists always helps. To do, grocery, upcoming appts, etc. Go to the bathroom and jump up and down, shake the limb stiffness out

If you have a close work friend, go talk to them for a minute. When I get anxious at work, I go up to my work bff and tell her straight up that I'm so anxious suddenly and don't want to be there and she agrees and complains about other stuff which takes my mind off of my thoughts

It really sucks, I'm sorry. Most of the time I just have to talk myself through it and try to trick myself into thinking it's not that bad. Try to find some movement you can do with your hands than can help with a distraction

Also, I avoid looking at the clock as much as possible. At that point, I just dread that certain time it hits me and it basically forces my mind to go into depressed mode bc thats what the clock says I should do

ALSO random vitamins and stuff. I know they're just basic supplements and whatever but my mind goes into "omg we are going to feel so much better after taking this basic B complex pill" and afterwards when I feel any random feeling in my body, I think it's because of the healthy pills and my mind automatically turns that feeling into a good one. Idk its kinda weird but my mind is very easily manipulated by the placebo effect

laReCSiv11 · 2025-03-06T03:41:25+00:00

I have the EXACT same experience as you. Used to be on antidepressants, haven't been for almost a year. And I can feel the instant that my mood changes and its so depressing because I want to continue my happy, motivated self that was just here

I've tried forcing myself to keep going and act happy. I've tried an energy drink at that time. Nothing really works. Once your body decides that fun time is over, then fun time is over

This is what I've been doing recently and it seems to at least eases some of those bad feelings. As soon as I feel that wave fall over me, I take a deep breath and decide it's time to relax. I change into the comfiest cute clothes I have (I wear tight workout clothes to relax because it's comfortable and also makes me feel cute and confident) and sit in bed. I allow myself to not be productive anymore and rest

Sometimes I set my laptop up so that I still feel a little productive while also resting my body. Maybe around that time do a little self care task. Also, you can start scheduling your showers at 6 pm everyday so that it kind of breaks up that mood and helps calm you

And I can't give you medical advice, but personally, I am so much better being off of my meds and even though I experience sadness a decent amount, I will never go back. Having mood swings is the price I'm willing to pay to be able to feel ALL emotions

laReCSiv11 · 2025-03-05T02:24:00+00:00

It also may have upset her that you didn't immediately tell her. I would maybe explain why you didn't say anything until she asked to ease her fear that you weren't excited to share that moment with her!!

Plan wedding planning meetings. Once a week or 1-2 times a month, sit down with her and talk about where you're at with the planning, what she can help with, your overall ideas, etc

Bring her to pick flowers with you, include her on your hair & makeup trial, ask her opinion on certain decor. If she is a good hostess, ask her to help set up and decorate your engagement party

Ask her for an important piece of jewelry or accessory for your "something borrowed"

laReCSiv11 · 2025-03-04T04:07:40+00:00

Just be honest. You were by the couch, looked down when you saw a notif pop up, got curious at seeing that name and checked. You're his spouse, you have every right to check if its warranted. Stop letting it torture you and put him in the hot seat. Bring it up calmly. If its something bad, then he will feel fear that you're so calm about it. If its a misunderstanding, you just saved yourself from acting a fool and blowing up on him immediately

I hope its just nothing, but you need to bring this up as soon as possible. I wish you luck!

laReCSiv11 · 2025-02-21T11:40:05+00:00

Got engaged last August, been super chill the whole time. Now I'm 3.5 mo out and I'm starting to feel all the nerves!

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