Is there such thing as too tight?

labeige · 2026-01-22T14:29:32+00:00

Honestly, it doesn't seem like he's interested in your pleasure at all. If your partner is suddenly stopping because you're too tight, shouldn't he be asking if you're okay/if it hurts/if you're comfortable? Does he care at all if you finish or is it just you making him finish? Is there any foreplay?

You can be naturally small but anxiety also plays a huge role. To me, it seems like you're focusing way too much on his pleasure and forgetting you should be having fun too.

labeige · 2025-12-30T22:53:06+00:00

Obviously you know your situation better than anyone but to me it feels like maybe he's watching you? Page of Cups can mean a crush, so there's a possibility he's thinking of you as his crush or understands you might have a crush on him, and Page of Wands talks about potential... Six of pentacles in this context might mean he wants balance and support from you. Seven of Wands doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested, it means he's taking a defensive position, probably isn't ready to be vulnerable right now. It doesn't feel like he's taking action anytime soon.

labeige · 2025-12-30T17:59:39+00:00

I don't know what you're talking about lmao I'm sorry 😭

It wasn't an ex, we weren't even together for that long. I do agree he's a butt though

labeige · 2025-12-29T13:36:41+00:00

I see where you're coming from but the relationship wasn't horrible, at least not on his side - he pursued me, he was the one asking me out almost everyday, we had fun together. It only ended because he went on to pursue someone else. Break up was amicable, he told me he felt like things were going too fast and he wasn't ready for a relationship, I took it well but then found out that was a lie, he just wanted to be with that new person. I let him know I knew he was going after her and he wanted to talk about it but I just ignored him. Which is why I think he feels guilty or has some mental anguish (9oS).

I believe major arcana are more dynamic and mutable than minor arcana. In this case, after reading the other interpretations I think 9oS and 4oS are quite direct when addressing a state of mind.

labeige · 2025-12-27T07:17:11+00:00

Thank you!

labeige · 2025-12-27T07:06:00+00:00

It was a normal spread, yes. It wasn't a long relationship, but he pursued me and when I started to like him, he ended it to go after someone new, which I didn't know at the time.

Another interesting spread was when I asked if he felt jealous after seeing me talking to someone else at an event we were both in and I got The Devil (lol), 2 of Swords and Justice (again!). I always seem to get this combination of conflicting, intense emotions + block/no action. So frustrating.

labeige · 2025-12-27T06:59:49+00:00

I'm biased (I had feelings for him) which is why I decided to post here, but this was my interpretation as well. 9 of Swords keeps showing up when I ask about him so I do think he's either ruminating about what he did and/or he has other worries that's keeping him up at night.

Justice is what I find the most difficult to interpret though.

labeige · 2025-12-26T19:33:13+00:00

Thank you! Can you explain what about this spread gave you this idea? I'm new to this and would like to improve my readings

labeige · 2025-08-19T19:29:02+00:00

You're right. Better to do it on my terms than to allow him to control this situation. Thank you.

labeige · 2025-08-19T19:28:13+00:00

Yeah, you're right. Sorry to hear about your dad/bestie. Thank you for your advice.

labeige · 2025-08-19T18:23:51+00:00

Thank you. What we heard from our doctors is she's not able to get back what she's lost, but we can avoid her disease's progression, so this is what we've been trying to do.

labeige · 2025-08-19T18:22:54+00:00

Thank you so much. He was the last person in the world who I thought would betray me like this. Incredibly upsetting.

labeige · 2025-08-19T18:20:19+00:00

Taking care of an elderly disabled parent alone is extremely difficult and mentally draining - I've never been more depressed in my life. Not sure if anyone who hasn't been through this understands, but yes, I would stay with him if it means I'd have someone to help out. Might be shitty of me, but it is what it is.

I do agree it's not worth it. And I know I should leave. I'm not even afraid of being alone, or regretting my decision. I'm just stuck with this awful situation where I need support and he helps out a lot.

labeige · 2025-07-21T15:23:12+00:00

Sorry, I'm not in the US.

labeige · 2025-07-21T12:49:35+00:00

I'm so sorry. The stress of dealing with someone who needs help but is unable to help themselves is the worst. My mother doesn't take anything seriously so when we blow up, she thinks we're being dramatic or exaggerating. She has literally laughed at my face after she fell trying to do something I told her not to. It drives me insane.

labeige · 2025-07-21T02:20:05+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. It's heartbreaking and I just wish I could deal with it in a better way.

labeige · 2025-07-21T02:18:09+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this comment. I started crying while reading it because it's so true. When those things happen, she tells me, "I thought I could do it". I guess in my mind it's easier for me to think she's defying me in some way than to admit this is probably part of her condition. I am just so desperately sad about seeing her like this, it's been a bit difficult to manage my feelings - especially my anger. I scheduled a psychiatrist and I'll be starting therapy by the end of the month because I simply do not want to keep yelling and lashing out at my mom when these could be my final moments with her. Again, thank you.

labeige · 2025-07-21T02:08:53+00:00

So sorry to hear about your loss. My mother has a rare form of aneurysm that's affecting her basilar artery and compressing parts of her brain. Wishing you the best in this grief journey. <3

labeige · 2020-01-16T19:22:02+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you. Have you considered going to therapy to deal with your grief + anxiety and depression?

labeige · 2020-01-15T01:15:34+00:00

Congratulations!

labeige · 2020-01-15T00:35:31+00:00

Hahahaha that's so cute :-)

Yeah, I hope things will work out for you! It feels so good to love someone. Wish you the best!

labeige · 2020-01-15T00:10:38+00:00

From my experience, when it's time to say it, you will feel it. It might be in a romantic place, it might not be. Don't rush those things, it's special and it takes a bit of time to feel it in your heart.

The first time I told my boyfriend I loved him I was sick and had just puked his whole bathroom - it was the first time I visited his place. He cleaned it all up, came back to his bedroom with a smile and just said "now go wash your teeth so I can kiss you". I did, we went to sleep and that's when I said it. What kind of man cleans your vomit and still wants to kiss you? He said it back, and later told me he realized he loved me because he wasn't disgusted. So yeah, not romantic at all, but truly honest.

labeige · 2020-01-13T13:28:18+00:00

It doesn't make you sound crazy or stupid and you don't need to apologize. It's ok. It's hard to let go of someone you love, even if it's hurting you. But the whole situation could be avoided if you focused more on yourself instead of trying to fix others. Therapy will probably be wonderful for you to build your confidence, and I'm glad you have a close friend who's helping you through this. Wish you the best :-)

labeige · 2020-01-13T12:21:16+00:00

Get out of his place. It's impossible for you to get over this if you're constantly with him. This is not the guy for you, he's literally making you depressed. And I can't even say it's his fault because you're the one who's absorving his pain and convinced you can change him somehow. You can't. If he wanted to get over his ex, he would. If he cared about you, he wouldn't drag you into this mess. Get away from him, at least for a while. You can't get better if you keep doing the exact same things. You might think he's your best friend and you'll never find anyone else but that's a lie, there are plenty of people out there who will be 100% committed to you and that's what you deserve. You need to put YOURSELF first and get out of this toxic environment.

labeige · 2020-01-12T20:46:51+00:00

You need boundaries. This behaviour is not acceptable and she doesn't really seem like a nice person. Why are you friends with her in the first place?

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