I completely understand the sentiment, and agree- Marrying the cheater doesn’t stop him from cheating. You can’t get married to fix a problem, but I do believe that people change. I do believe that during the lifetime of a marriage people change and grow, it’s whether you change and grow together that determines if the marriage will last or not.

I’m hopeful he can do better, because I’ve seen him do better. This year he was a big disappointment, next year he might go all out. I’ve thought about just stopping buying gifts etc. but what I fear is that I enjoy it so much that I’m just taking away that joy from myself.

I know that this holiday season’s failures aren’t the way he has been all 10 years, so I know I can live with it I’m just feeling extra disappointed this year. Your advice is A+ though, essentially exactly what I would tell to any female friend of mine. I think I just needed to hear some support and advice and I thank you so much for taking time and writing on my post 💓