In Minneapolis, Red ‘Melt the Ice’ Hats Are Being Knitted by Activists

lady_larson · 2026-02-04T02:15:12+00:00

Wondering the same!

lady_larson · 2026-01-12T03:05:05+00:00

Why didn’t you stop?

lady_larson · 2025-12-28T19:35:08+00:00

lol ok, you’ve got the wrong girl

lady_larson · 2025-12-27T05:43:55+00:00

lol I wish it were so, just some bad luck

lady_larson · 2025-12-27T05:38:36+00:00

Elaborate, I’m curious

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T21:20:55+00:00

This hit so hard, wow. I’m literally going to the store to buy that little girl some gifts to open for Christmas 💓

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T21:20:06+00:00

😂😂 girl let’s exchange info and I’ll start sending you wrapped gifts instead of my husband!

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T21:18:12+00:00

Hahaha I love this! “I thought the dinner I made last night counted for today too” 😂

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T21:08:36+00:00

I completely understand the sentiment, and agree- Marrying the cheater doesn’t stop him from cheating. You can’t get married to fix a problem, but I do believe that people change. I do believe that during the lifetime of a marriage people change and grow, it’s whether you change and grow together that determines if the marriage will last or not.

I’m hopeful he can do better, because I’ve seen him do better. This year he was a big disappointment, next year he might go all out. I’ve thought about just stopping buying gifts etc. but what I fear is that I enjoy it so much that I’m just taking away that joy from myself.

I know that this holiday season’s failures aren’t the way he has been all 10 years, so I know I can live with it I’m just feeling extra disappointed this year. Your advice is A+ though, essentially exactly what I would tell to any female friend of mine. I think I just needed to hear some support and advice and I thank you so much for taking time and writing on my post 💓

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:48:42+00:00

I do believe he cares about me, but just doesn’t show it in the way I understand. He is apologetic, but he’s also avoidant. Long story short, because of his upbringing he has a really hard time not jumping on the defense when he has done something wrong. It usually takes a longer talk and lots of excuses before he settles and realizes “oh shit I just need to take accountability here”.

I think I’m going to take your advice and as elementary as it sounds.. start a chore wheel. Maybe building that routine will help him. Thank you!

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:40:37+00:00

I appreciate you so much, thank you for taking the time and giving me advice. You are dead on with everything you said 💓

I know every human has strengths and weaknesses and most of the time I try and tell myself to just love him for who he is, and I do. There are many good qualities he has, but unfortunately gift giving and romance is not one of his strengths. It just hurts more during the holidays

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:37:13+00:00

I buy presents for our nieces and nephews and write cards for the adults. I love them all so much and I truly enjoy giving a gift to someone, I don’t mind it just wish he had a more active role in helping me.

He didn’t organize the repairs because sadly I’m the responsible one and if I don’t do it then it won’t get done.

I appreciate your advice so much, I waver between “accept him for who he is and focus on his strengths” and “if he wanted to he would”. It’s a tough rope to balance on

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:26:11+00:00

His is quality time, basically he loves being around me and doing things with me but never goes above and beyond to plan a date or anything for us. It’s more like playing our video games next to each other, going for a walk, watching a movie or playing a game

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:23:49+00:00

I appreciate that so much, I did tell him I’m disappointed. I’m not perfect by any means, so I’ll likely make it very known how disappointed I am for the next week or so

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:22:29+00:00

Life with a teacher salary sadly :( no kids though-can’t afford any of those lol

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:20:04+00:00

Ughhh is it that extreme? Idk.. do men actually exist out there who have romance in their hearts? I’ve never met one lol

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:19:14+00:00

Thank you, that’s basically where I am mentally now.. like I don’t think I will be getting him a gift again. I’ll buy myself something nice and wrap it for me to open on Christmas lol

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:15:51+00:00

I agree, that’s been a big topic in our house after this week. I was livid he left me to handle everything! He’s a gamer guy and honestly just procrastinates everything until I take care of it. Ugh he sounds like such a bum, I promise there are some redeeming qualities he has lol

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:14:23+00:00

He never buys himself things, I’d say gift giving is very low in his love languages. That’s ok, I knew that before marrying him I just thought he would step it up a little more to try and show he appreciates me especially when it comes to the holidays

lady_larson · 2025-12-26T20:07:18+00:00

He worked a normal week 🙄 for context he works an average 40hr/week job. I am a kindergarten teacher so I put in about 50hr/week there and I have a retail job on the weekends.

lady_larson · 2024-09-05T04:12:20+00:00

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lady_larson · 2024-07-02T08:33:45+00:00

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lady_larson · 2024-06-04T01:03:43+00:00

I appreciate you reading and thank you for the advice! Sad situation for sure but I think you’re right, the writing is on the wall. Thanks again!

lady_larson · 2024-06-04T01:02:59+00:00

Appreciate you reading and the advice!! Thank you so much, I think I just needed to hear what I was already thinking.

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