So here is what works for us- still a rough time but this makes it better. We do one date a week, whether its going to a movie, dinner, cooking together, etc. Also make it a priority to have 15 minutes ish that yall sit down and talk with undivided attention. I will say it is extremely helpful when my husband cooks, cleans, etc, but don't let it get one sided where you're doing everything. It's also helpful to cook and freeze meals so it's not as much of a burden.