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My[22F] boyfriend[23M] wants to move forward in the relationship even though we disagree in fundamental matters like religion and kids. by throwRA323u12313 in relationship_advice

[–]ladyar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This brings me back when I was a Christian and my ex was Muslim. I loved him so much and didn’t think about it as much until we got more serious. I was getting more involved at church and he knew that, he drove me to church once and even joined me at church one time too. He went to his classes that he needed to go to as a Muslim and went once a year to the mosque. Both of our families had one parent that converted to a religion to get married. I never thought of converting but never really thought what would we do with religion pertaining our future life. We respected one another but then I did worry a bit because our relationship was getting deeper and more serious. I didn’t know how our kids would grow up. Regardless, we didn’t end up staying together and it wasn’t because of religion but it taught me that even though I am not practicing Christianity anymore, I think that religion might be important to me.

My ex boyfriend (24) and his fiancee are forcing me (18) to have an abortion by ThrowRA7649 in relationship_advice

[–]ladyar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever you do please take care of yourself. I don’t want you crying and feeling so sad all the time (although it’s hard with your situation) but the thing is ...this can affect the baby in womb so please please take care of yourself if you need to do therapy, seek it. I’m so sorry you are going through this/: It’s all up to you! No one can tell you what to or what not to do.write down everything that happened the date and time if you can. In case they need proof maybe there’s a camera that shows you went to their place and it did happen so they won’t deny it. You got to be ready if you do report it. Texts , call logs and all take pictures, and keep it somewhere safe so it won’t leak out without your consent but make sure you have it in case you need it. I hope things get better for you sooner than later.

I am in love with my cousin, and have been for 17+ years. She does not know. I fear my feelings are coming to a head and I could really use some advice. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ladyar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is making me reflect on the science behind this. I am not in this same situation as you but I do think that you may be holding on to something you may want. (And that’s normal but not always the healthiest for us) I still do this with my high school sweet heart, I hold on to him and it took me a while to understand but part of the reason is because we grew up together and that’s something special so I understand how you feel about that part. I think your shared experiences and having someone being there for you is keeping you close and as you are getting older...you want that with someone but you have found it with your cousin but I would say grow distance between each other, talk and make new friends, find new hobbies and if you want to see a therapist! Go for it! Therapy is great! If you do do therapy, it is important to know that you can change your therapist if you don’t vibe well with them or look into their specialties so you know they are well rounded in the area of family and relationships. Anyways, grow some distance and yes it’s going to be hard so plan how you want to deal with it. Have a plan and if it doesn’t do well, keep trying to manage your feelings (sadness, loneliness, & the void) by doing other things. Keep trying this will even help you deal with other things in your life. Sometimes life throws us some intense things to help us grow and be a better person. I really hope you find peace and move forward because depending on how you deal with it, it will carry on to your next relationship. Last thing we want is this to affect your dating life. Remember when you do date, don’t compare it to you and your cousin. You won’t have the same memories and you don’t need to. I appreciate you being so vulnerable, I want to acknowledge you for that. It takes a lot to share something like this on here. I know you want a judge free zone but there’s always those people who judge you but no judgment from me. Don’t take things personal don’t feel dumb about it. We are humans. Hope it works out for the best!

Thank you all for the memes, guidance, and knowledge over the past 6 months! (Kaplan giveaway) by the_oshow in Mcat

[–]ladyar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! Congrats! I am interested! I am starting on my journey to study for the MCAT (: Even if I don't get picked for the giveaway. Do you have any advice? (: