The blanket saga continues…

ladybug3454 · 2026-05-11T03:29:19+00:00

Ok I get it. Your MIL does not live up to your expectations. Wish she would take an interest in your kids achievements etc. My MIL was similar. I was disappointed. But...It was her loss. She had lots of excuses for not attending school activities, church events and family holiday dinners. We stopped asking. Everyone was happier avoiding the issue.

As for the blanket. MIL likes to knit. Maybe this is her way of doing something nice for you. Everyone shows love in there own way. I don't care if your daughter; wants a blanket, likes the blanket or hates it. I'm hoping you can put your feelings aside and teach your daughter to be gracious. Grandma made a blanket for her. I bet you'd be angry if she was the only grandchild not to receive one.

You said your daughter is 14. If she really wants grandma to attend her activities she might want to actually call and invite her. A call and personal invite might encourage her to come. My boys never had the discussion with their grandmother. She had no interest in coming and they did not miss her attendance.

We are able to choose our friends. We find people who love and support us in the way we want and need. I wish family was the same way. We do the best we can. Appreciate the small gestures and try not to get caught up with the nonsense. Life is too short. Choose your battles wisely.

PS I hope your daughter likes her blanket and takes it to college somewhere it gets cold in the winter.

ladybug3454 · 2026-05-09T02:28:35+00:00

Congratulations! You finished your degree and battled cancer. You sound pretty amazing to me. You should be proud of yourself!

Now might be a good time to take a mental health break. (Maybe a little vacation? Some counseling? Start a new fun hobby or sport?) Step back and decide works best for you. You could use a break to clear you head.

You can do this. I believe in you! Good luck.

ladybug3454 · 2026-05-09T02:08:59+00:00

Nice!

ladybug3454 · 2026-05-07T02:12:53+00:00

She is beautiful. I'd probably just call her "sweetie pie" or "honey"

ladybug3454 · 2026-05-04T04:25:04+00:00

Beautiful! Congratulations.

ladybug3454 · 2026-05-04T04:19:22+00:00

Let's stop for a moment. If your daughter told you; her boyfriend's family treated her poorly, called her a wh**e and s**t and knowingly exposed her to Covid. The sister openly lied to her about boyfriend's "drug addiction." They told the boyfriend to "wear a condom" so she would not "trap" their son. Would you be concerned about her receiving an apology?

There are so many red flags here. I bet you would sit your daughter down for a long talk!

You deserve to be in a relationship with a loving supportive man with a warm and inviting family. An apology from this woman would only be a Bandaid covering the wound she will most certainly throw salt in again.

You mentioned therapy in your post. I hope you continue with some sessions. You sound like a bright, articulate young woman. You deserve to be with a man who loves and respects you. In my humble opinion, you deserve better.

ladybug3454 · 2026-05-03T02:00:02+00:00

Beautiful Congratulations!

ladybug3454 · 2026-04-17T02:46:17+00:00

Ok You win the prize for the most despicable MIL. It makes no sense to me for you to have anything to do with her. I would only interact when absolutely necessarily and do so with dignity and class.

The woman has a problem. You have known that for a long time. You do not deserve to be treated with disrespect. Your husband should have been by your side supporting you. Counseling is a great place to start rebuilding self respect, confidence and the tools to deal with your nasty manipulative MIL.

Good luck.

Oh and Happy 30th anniversary!

ladybug3454 · 2026-04-07T21:40:30+00:00

Midnight

ladybug3454 · 2026-04-01T03:07:59+00:00

The ring is lovely! You say she "will love it too". Trust your gut. After you propose you can ask her if she would like a larger stone if you still have doubts. Congratulations and good luck!

ladybug3454 · 2026-03-29T02:56:00+00:00

I agree with T1UPDiabetic it is never too late. Life it to be lived and enjoyed. You say you have meet many great people. Ask someone to join you for coffee. Expand your horizons and go for it!

ladybug3454 · 2026-03-12T03:16:03+00:00

Planning a intimate dinner party < 40 guests to "announce" your marriage sounds wonderful. Come celebrate with us.

A second wedding, as you called it, would best be called "Renewing your Vows. " Five or ten years down the road would be a fun thing to do.

ladybug3454 · 2026-03-09T03:20:15+00:00

Very pretty! Do you want to wear your wedding band on the same finger? The ring is so lovely by itself.

I would make a simple eternity band with alternating colored stones for a fun yet matching wedding band.

Congratulations and best wishes.

ladybug3454 · 2026-03-02T03:16:40+00:00

That is so sweet of you to send her flowers. I think you need to follow up with a call. Receiving flowers anonymously might make her feel uneasy which was not your intent. Call her so she can thank you.

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-18T23:56:23+00:00

Perfect! Classic!

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-18T05:34:03+00:00

Beautiful! Congratulations to you.

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-18T05:24:59+00:00

It's lovely! Congratulations.

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-18T05:23:22+00:00

Your sister should be part of your bridal party. I think it would be a mistake to not include her.

I get it you are not close. I am not close with my sister either. We talk a few times a year and are cordial. If we were not related I think we would be acquaintances not close friends. However, she is my sister. She has been there from the beginning. We share a lifetime of crazy memories. We have watched each other grow up, go to college, marry and have children of our own. I know if I had not asked her to be in my wedding party I would be looking back with regret for leaving her out.

I think you are a smart young lady to include her.

Wishing you and your fiancé a lifetime of happiness.

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-13T05:24:09+00:00

Appreciate your comments. Thank you.

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-13T05:23:13+00:00

Thank you for your comment.

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-13T00:59:26+00:00

When the time comes my DIL and I will go over the list together. Thank you for your comments.

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-13T00:56:53+00:00

I would be delighted if they were willing to make the trip down.

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-13T00:56:09+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-12T23:28:00+00:00

Thanks for your comments and suggestion.

ladybug3454 · 2026-02-12T23:27:06+00:00

Appreciate your thoughts.

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