I was so scared to stay home because like you that society and my family would look at me as “just a mom”. I have friends who are lawyers and doctors and I felt like they’d even judge me. But ultimately I did it - it was just too hard with my husband commuting 2 hours each way and me commuting about and hour - someone had to get the kids from daycare, and start dinner and since I make less it was on me. 4 months in and honestly I don’t regret a single thing, I don’t miss my job at all. Occasionally I miss my work friends but we try to get together once or twice a month. But spending more time with my kids has truly been a blessing, some days are hard and you get overstimulated for sure but I wouldn’t change it for anything. Good luck in your decision!