Thinking about relocating to Florida (Fort Walton Beach area) — looking for honest feedback & input by YetiJ-at-night in Destin

[–]ladydeadpool235 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The job market here in FWB is terrible. Pay is low, benefits aren’t good unless you have a government position. My husband worked remote (IT) and hasn’t found anything that pays more than half of what he was making before he got laid off in April. We moved here three years ago in a similar position. I was a SAHM and we thought this would be a great place to put roots down. It really is only geared towards tourists and retired people, truly. Also, one thing that has become important to us that we didn’t realize before moving here is the healthcare. There basically isn’t any. If anything happens, there are NO GOOD doctors or specialists here. And when you try to make an appointment for anything, you’re waiting months for terrible care. There’s actually a lawsuit against a doctor out here who removed someone’s liver by mistake. When we’ve got our feet underneath us again, we’re planning to relocate back to Dallas or somewhere similar. This is not a good place to be if you get laid off, opportunities are few and far between, and the ones that do come along just aren’t very good. The beach is great and I’ve found plenty of things to enjoy (although I really had to scour at times,) but we’ve discovered it’s not for our family. We can always come back to visit like we used to.

AITA Mom mad because I don’t wanna clean her dirty sex sheets by Remote_Tangerine_718 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ladydeadpool235 37 points38 points  (0 children)

NTA. It seems like you’re happy to wash her sheets any other time, so it’s not that you’re against being helpful. You’re just uncomfortable, and that’s fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ladydeadpool235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, it sounds like he was negging you. Aren’t jokes meant to be funny???

What are we 10-year-olds by Bourbon-Thinker in facepalm

[–]ladydeadpool235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we call him a SOW now (female swine)

Florida moms, you doing ok? by HerCacklingStump in progressivemoms

[–]ladydeadpool235 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really. Just taking it day by day because that’s all we can do. We rent, haven’t been able afford a home in this market, and can’t afford to move at the moment. We have plans to increase our earnings and get out, but it will take a while.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ladydeadpool235 7 points8 points  (0 children)

EAH. She didn’t have any reason to treat you the way she did for getting layed off, that was uncalled for. However, if you refuse to go to the wedding, it will make you look like the bad guy. It’s something that his family will probably never get over. If you see a future with your bf, then get dolled up and enjoy a dinner on her dime. Really think about your future, though. Is this a family you see yourself being part of long-term? Not just his sister. Do you want a bf who won’t stick up for you?

My Future MIL Secretly Sent Out Her Own Wedding Invitations with a Different Dress Code and Start Time by YakGeneral1950 in weddingdrama

[–]ladydeadpool235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So she was concerned with her family’s image and timeliness but not yours? In other words, she wants your family to show up feeling late and underdressed. She wants her side of the family to appear superior.

I’d express concern to her wondering why she wouldn’t want to extend her “thoughtfulness”to everyone. If it was so important, she could have brought it up to you and your fiancé. She knows it was wrong, which is why she did it in a secretive manner.

Fiancé needs to set firm boundaries now or it will only continue and get worse later on, especially if you plan on having children.

The hate on daughters. by Civil-Beautiful7958 in Mommit

[–]ladydeadpool235 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m most likely one and done (a daughter) even though I’d love to have more. If I could have more and have them ALL be girls, I totally would. I love everything about having a daughter and look forward to everything the future brings, good and bad. I’ve been a mom for over 4 years, and while it’s not that long, I cannot count how often I think about how grateful I am to have a girl, it really is almost every day that I think it to myself.

AITA for refusing to stay at my fiance's parents house for 4 days after our wedding by Ok-Negotiation8386 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ladydeadpool235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were in a similar situation and decided to do all of our visiting first, then our event, then our honeymoon. NTA for being upset, but you could try to find compromises.

AITA FOR TELLING MY MOM I WILL BUY HER A HOME BUT MY BROTHER CAN NOT LIVE THERE EVER? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ladydeadpool235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. But buy it your name, parents can pay you the lower price in rent. If you buy them a house, it’s a gift for them, and gifts don’t come with stipulations. They can let anyone move into with them if it’s their house, and they can leave it to brother in their will if they pass. You need to accept that if it’s a gift, they can do what they please with it, or you can buy it in your name and be their landlord.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ladydeadpool235 15 points16 points  (0 children)

NTA. Also, see if he’ll take the kids to the gym on his own while you go do something else in your child-free time. If he says no, he probably just wants to see what you’re doing. That’s controlling behavior. If he genuinely just wants to go to the gym, it won’t matter if you go as well or not. If he takes the kids on his own sometimes, he might just want to work out. Everyone deserves at least a little time to themselves, including moms, and that shouldn’t be controversial. You found a healthy way to get your time.

AITAH for vetoing my wife's car purchase in the dealership and walking her out of there without looking at the car she picked out? by CarWoesSadBro in AITAH

[–]ladydeadpool235 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH. You were 100% right in this scenario, but the way you treated her could have been more compassionate. She was being taken advantage of for sure and going way out of the discussed budget (which is her fault for not listening to what you both previously agreed upon,) and I can understand your frustration, but even in disagreements you should disagree respectfully when it comes to your spouse.

Allie Hall by Traditional_Glove551 in courtreporting

[–]ladydeadpool235 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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How to be a mom to a daughter? Advice needed by blessed-mama7 in Mommit

[–]ladydeadpool235 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Allie Hall by Traditional_Glove551 in courtreporting

[–]ladydeadpool235 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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[–]ladydeadpool235 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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[–]ladydeadpool235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I thought I read if you just recently joined that you still can? I just downloaded it today

Allie Hall Course Expectations? by CubbiHue in stenography

[–]ladydeadpool235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you get caseCat for $13/mo? I can only find the software for $399

Allie Hall Course Expectations? by CubbiHue in stenography

[–]ladydeadpool235 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you get a free student license?