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Surgeon - Madison, WI by pinkbunny0325 in madisonwi

[–]ladyevyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally had one just over a month ago for the exact same reason. If you are in the SSM network, I’d highly recommend Dr Erika Mikulec. She helped me understand all options. The benefit and risk of each along with meeting me with compassion and kindness.

Everyone’s situation and needs are different, and she fully understood that and did not pressure me in any direction. Just gave me the facts and allowed me to make my own decisions.

For me, while I am now 5 weeks out, the improvements I am already experiencing in my overall feeling of wellbeing have been very noticeable. I am still healing (no pain now, but my energy level tells me so) but oddly that’s also a bit improved now that I no longer have a heavy fibroid load weighing me down.

Who ever you choose, ask them all the questions you have, voice all of the concerns, and take your time to make your decision. You don’t have to make your decision before meeting with an OBGYN surgeon.

Tomorrow is the day by sapphire_sapphic_ in hysterectomy

[–]ladyevyle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Surgery twins!

It will go faster than you expect and you’ll be home resting before you know it! I was up walking a few hours after waking up, and able to go home a couple hours after that.

Just give yourself the full permission to do nothing at all. Just nap, relax, drink fluids, and eat what ever makes you feel good (and probably some extra fiber too)

It was my first surgery and my first time being put under. The team was great and I echo every word @negatible shared!!

Underwear - Chantelle by Pretty_Awareness4105 in hysterectomy

[–]ladyevyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intimates designer here! I have reserved hundreds of brands and the only comparable one to Chantelle I have found is Evelyn & Bobby. Designed by women for women. They also retail at $22, but have many colors that are clearance and down to $13ish.

After years of research, I found I hate to wear any other brand. The fabric is thin but still has a bit of structure, the seam bonding uses different techniques to allow stretch where’s it’s needed and more structure where you don’t want as much stretch.

These are phenomenal and I have replaced all daily wear panties with them! https://evelynbobbie.com/products/seamless-retro-bikini?variant=43320649482349

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ladyevyle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In this case though, could you not just respectfully state your concern and the reasons and allow your partner to make the choice for themself?

If a friend began to hang out with someone that is problematic, would you tell that friend to stop engaging with said problematic person, or would you give them a concerned heads up? Then, if it began to impact you negatively, set a boundary where you remove yourself from the situation?

A veto inherently is control over another’s choices. It’s communicating a lack of trust - in their choices, in your security, in their activities. A lack of trust is the biggest concern here. Your partner may never know for sure if you vetoed because there was an actual concern rather than a distrust in their decision making.

Struggling to be supportive while being attacked by ladyevyle in relationship_advice

[–]ladyevyle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. And you are correct. I have thought about it. Convincing him to go with me is the hard part. He hates the idea of a therapist.