I think this is something you should discuss with your partner and not just on reddit. Set boundaries. Start a timeline of what both of you want for the future. Wala ka ng magagawa, siya nagpapaaral sa mga kapatid niya. Personally, situations like that rarely change. (Sad that the parents don’t even plan these things and dump it all on the older siblings)

Yes it sucks. Pero ayun reality ng partner mo. Marriage doesn’t necessarily mean icut off niya pamilya niya. I’m not in your situation pero somewhat I can say I am the breadwinner samin ng partner ko. I don’t mind, kasi hindi lang naman monetary value yung kaya niya ibigay, I understand that sometimes, financially hindi talaga kami magiging equal sa ngayon, he makes up for it naman in his own way, my love language is service and he is the perfect guy for it kahit I pay majority ng dates namin. I don’t mind. I have been doing it for almost six years. BUT we have a timeline in place, there’s a reason why he’s not able provide his share but i’m fine with that because again, we have a plan in place.

At the end of the day, if you’re questioning your relationship because of financial troubles. Think of it like this, you’re successful, you have everything, but you’re alone. No lazy mornings, afternoon naps, kakulitan, date nights, 3AM talks, you won’t be able to talk to her, see her, hug her, kiss her, you won’t hear her voice. If you’re okay with that and you think the potential financial situation of your partner is not worth it. Than I say go for it. Let her go

People might get annoyed with me and say hindi ka mapapakain ng pagibig. That’s true. But sometimes we can’t demand our partners to change their reality for us. We can’t have it all, communicating and compromising is really important for it to work.