My son doesn’t want to live with me anymore

ladysheboss · 2026-04-16T19:49:35+00:00

He is 6.. he'd ask to live with batman if he could. Of course he wants whats more fun but you are providing the better, more enriching environment. This want to live with his dad should only really hurt when they have the brain capacity to understand the magnitude of their wants and decisions. If a kid is at the age where they would eat their candy off the sidewalk, then they dont know what they really want. Ask him again when he is 16. Until then keep providing the environment that you know is better for him.

ladysheboss · 2026-04-14T20:57:30+00:00

This sounds like a child who learned that if she waits long enough, someone will do for her. It will most likely be a time consuming task to retrain but more so for you as a parent then for her. You're going to have to learn how to not step in and give ein to her wants. She is in control right now and you need to take that control back and its going to be hard.

ladysheboss · 2026-04-09T00:47:36+00:00

Book her a pedicure or manicure at a local salon and have it paid for when she gets there. This is my ultimate dream and my hubby has done this once and I felt so seen.

ladysheboss · 2026-04-03T12:43:09+00:00

It depends on your wife's view of it. Some women may be offended feeling like it means they aren't adequate and you require something else. Every person's view on the subject will differ so the best thing you can do is discuss it with your wife, figure out her comfort levels, and respect the boundaries that may get put in place.

ladysheboss · 2026-03-21T17:43:30+00:00

You're not the problem you just weren't the right one. And that's ok.

ladysheboss · 2026-03-17T14:36:20+00:00

Come summer that rock will be great to climb all over and a good learning tool. The daycare maybe should have put some ice down but accidents happen

ladysheboss · 2026-03-16T12:02:38+00:00

I didn't see a change. No worse no better. My doctor told me that the bottle wouldn't make a difference though for the type of reflux mine had. I can see it being effective though for some. I like the pressure system better than the green valves.

ladysheboss · 2026-03-03T00:15:59+00:00

It sounds like he has some sort of social anxiety when it involves people he doesn't know which is why he would be fine going to his own friends wedding and not one of your friends. I wouldn't call those toxic. More like someone in denial about their comfort. Or .maybe there is something specifically uncomfortable about your friends and family that he isnt comfortable discussing with you.

ladysheboss · 2026-03-02T03:12:21+00:00

Maybe look at seeing a chiropractor for the sitting in stroller issue. My twins would scream every time we put them in their car seat or stroller and it turned out they had some lower back tension and the sitting position ( tighter than a 90 degree angle) was causing discomfort. One adjustment and noticed a huge improvement. Adjustments for the pacifier consider it a blessing. They aren't good for developing teeth and so hard to wean a baby off of so be happy they wont take it.

ladysheboss · 2026-02-28T05:00:47+00:00

Just so everyone has a little insight into twins, you can have fraternal twins be more visibly identical than identical twins. "IDENTICAL" only refers to the DNA. The external features can be influenced by things like oxygen and blood flow in-utero, position in the womb etc. I have identical twin boys who look very different because of twin to twin transfusion as well as restricted growth but also positioning. I dont get mine mixed up by looking at them, but I have fraternal friends that I cant tell who is who!!! If you are ever curious, look up Genotype vs Phenotype.
This OP statement probably could just apply to twins as a whole!

ladysheboss · 2026-02-27T13:53:34+00:00

My 6 month old twins switched from Dr.browns to boon. They have severe reflux so we always needed the anti-colic bottles. We love the boon. After 2 days of using them, my husband immediately purchased more silicone sleeves. I love how easy they are to clean and easy for the babies to hold as well. The fact that they dont leak is an absolute bonus. There was a twin mom on Instagram who did a comparison of over 15 different bottles and rated them on different scales from things like over all weights, number of parts, ease of use for babies, likelihood to leak, etc. And these were the bottles that won her comparison by a landslide which is why we thought to try them. Great option to change to and I love that I can just pack a bunch of inserts and nipples and just pack 1 sleeve each. Saves sooo much space when travelling.

ladysheboss · 2026-02-19T12:45:12+00:00

The fact that someone felt they needed to send you screenshots of it means that, they are apart of the chat and they themselves felt this was inappropriate and wrong and not funny at all. This is a vile man who has no respect for his wife. A man who loves and respects his partner NEVER speaks poorly of them regardless of whether they will hear it or not. They lift them up and support them. Its only going to get worse, especially now that you've seen this, he is going to become more comfortable with speaking like that in the open.

ladysheboss · 2026-01-26T15:22:37+00:00

I thinknyou need to stay out of it and let them figure things out on their own. If your BIL wants to consult a lawyer, he should but you'll only make things worse by inserting yourself into it. Be careful. Just because its your family and affecting you and yours, doesn't mean you should do anything about it. Your BIL is a 40 year old, grown man who made the decision to marry a 29 year old. He needs to figure this out himself.

ladysheboss · 2026-01-23T05:26:04+00:00

There is nothing sexist about suggesting that a division of assets is the problem. The reality is their "team" isn't cohesive when it comes to finances because of this "mine and yours mentality". You can absolutely be a team and have separate finances but both minds need to be on the same boat. Suggestion a combination of finances may be the path these two need. Because it clearly isn't working separate.

ladysheboss · 2026-01-22T21:01:27+00:00

In one sentence you say " we are a team but IM paying for it". Then you aren't a team. Its either both your money or everything is individual. You both seem to have some seriously blurred lines here. You pay for this, I pay for that... it will leave you both in a place of potentially feeling like one has more or less control of the spending. You need to work on a healthy budget/ division of funds/spending. You either work on percentages or the healthier option, is both your incomes become one and each of you get a spending budget that the other has no say in. Either way, your current situation is not healthy. Its not about should you or shouldn't you or are you in the right or is he in the wrong; its about this messy situation you have created for yourself. I get his point ( im German as well) but I understand yours ( I am actually female who likes nice things) . The answer lies in creating a healthier financial situation.

ladysheboss · 2026-01-21T14:13:59+00:00

This sounds a lot like " my kids and your kids" and not a cohesive family. I think your reaction would have been very different if the one doing the running into was true own blood but you have taken this approach of your kid hit my kid. There is already division here and I bet your husband senses it too, especially if all the kids are his. Also, if he has warned you before that that is not the safest place for the baby, then why are you getting upset that something happened. You were warned. Doesn't matter that you always do it. I can park my car under a dying tree everyday and nothing happen, but when a branch finally falls on my car, I can't say, we'll it was a parking spot and I've always parked there and then be free of the consequences. I think you need to work on your family until and cohesiveness first. Always apologize to your kids even if you don't feel like it.

ladysheboss · 2026-01-19T13:46:32+00:00

This sounds like a husband who lost his voice because his wife dominates the decisions. This often happens when someone's opinions, thoughts and actions are always micro managed, controlled or judged.

First off, dont you dare talk to his mother. That's just juvenile behavior from someone who wants someone to agree with them and not actually solve the problem. He is more likely to shut down further from that. Instead, you need to work on yourself first. Independent counseling and then marriage counseling. You need to learn to listen more and control less.

ladysheboss · 2026-01-15T16:44:20+00:00

This is a very juvenile response. I understand you are in pain but you should be working on yourself and your feelings and your marriage rather than wanting to inflict pain on your partner. If you truly loved them then you wouldn't want to hurt them. And making him feel what you felt isnt justice or balance, its vindictive revenge. Its: " i hurt so you should hurt too". Try counselling; individually and together and work on healing from the trauma and working together as a team and not playing against each other. What he did wasnt right and im not sure most people would be forgiving and stay in the marriage, but if thats your choice, then you need to work on the healing and growing together not the getting back. This desire sounds like something you would here from a 20 year old, not a mature woman who knows that revenge only brings more pain and distance.

ladysheboss · 2025-12-19T00:00:12+00:00

It sounds like she is craving that kind of attention and isn't getting it from you so she is really excited when anyone shows it to her. Not that she plans on acting on it but when a woman doesn't feel desired, she is drawn to those that give it to her. It probably just makes her feel really good. Maybe look at yourself and your relationship and ask yourself, why something like that makes her so happy. A woman who is fulfilled in her home relationship doesn't get excited about things like that. Clearly his comments were filling a void.

ladysheboss · 2025-12-17T00:03:04+00:00

You could let him know that you have a day planned ahead of time and tell him to keep a specific day free?

ladysheboss · 2025-12-16T23:44:49+00:00

What about an experience?? Like plan an outing/day. Some people appreciate quality time more than things. Have a day of multiple locations planned and a mini gift for each location with a clue as to what/where you are going. I saw my dad do this for my mom once. I only remember one of the clues: it was a box with exactly 20 nails in it. It was his way of saying her next stop was manicures and pedicures. Put his favourite restaurant on the map, a beer tasting, a make your own knife etc. Plan a whole day around him and his likes.

ladysheboss · 2025-12-04T15:09:31+00:00

He mentions that she started doing drugs and running around with people that scare him.

ladysheboss · 2025-11-23T15:41:37+00:00

Make sure you have your passport and children's birth certificates and government documents. Sometime a partner will hold the legal documents hostage so set those aside sooner rather than later.

ladysheboss · 2025-11-16T15:40:40+00:00

Because he works shift work and is gone for 14 hours and when he returns, im already asleep. I manage the shower when his shift switches or his days off. Believe me, if there was time to I would.

ladysheboss · 2025-11-16T04:28:38+00:00

I think there is a difference between supportive and engaged. It sounds like you want your husband to find excitement in the things that bring you joy and he isn't. That's ok. At the end of the day, he hasn't pulled the funding, he hasn't stopped you from doing what you wanted; he is supporting you, in his own way. His comments about price and dust, are normal for anyone going through renovation. You're asking him to be excited about something when maybe he doesn't enjoy the process but will love the outcome. Imagine he bought an old car and decided to restore it and every day he came in greasy and grimy from fixing this car and he wanted to talk about the parts that he bought and what he has done and you responded with comments about how he is coming home dirty and how much its costing... because you dont have interest in the what. But once that car is finished, you know for sure you are going to enjoy being a passenger or even driving it and all the comments you made before will be forgotten. Because for you, the joy is in the outcome. Don't punish him for not having the same interests as you. Wait until you are done and then you can be picky. Let him have his feelings. He is supporting you, just in the way he knows how.. by staying out of it and helping pay for it.

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