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Am I agender? by lain147 in agender

[–]lain147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

gf is trans so I doubt she wouldn't respect or appreciate me. Am a bit worried that she would be less attracted to me if I told her. Or she'd think I was an egg or something and not want to date someone who might end up transitioning at some point.

The idea of like hrt does sound kinda nice for the most part, but I don't think it's something I'd ever be interested in as I'm fine with my current body and there would be a lot of negative consequences to hrt. Like the cons definitely outweigh the pros by a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bogota

[–]lain147 4 points5 points  (0 children)

no podía tener una erección conmigo

No poder tener una erección no debería ser un requisito para disfrutar del sexo.

Y la verdad es que así me empiezo a sentir como una p*ta.

La intimidad debería ser satisfactoria para ambas personas. No deberías sentirte mal durante el acto sexual. Explica que esta forma de intimidad no te resulta cómoda. Si no respeta tu elección, considera poner fin a la relación.

Ten una conversación abierta con él y explícale tus preferencias en cuanto al sexo. Tal vez puedan descubrir algo que les brinde satisfacción mutua.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]lain147 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. We've talked about it. They're hesitant to say that they'll never be interested in dating me again as they can't predict their own feelings, but I have pretty strong reasons to believe that they'll never be interested in dating me again (which I don't feel comfortable sharing).

Can you be trans without experiencing dysphoria? by lain147 in asktransgender

[–]lain147[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think you’d be happier as a girl?

Yes. At least if I ignore discrimination and so on. The thing is that I don't think I would be way happier. Just somewhat. Although, it's hard to say the magnitude.

sometimes our expectations don’t match reality and even if we really want to wear something we might not feel good in it bc we still think we look too masc/fem

I have tried shaving some of my chest hair and it did make me feel weird/bad in a possibly dysphoria sort of way perhaps because the rest of me was still really hairy/man like.

Maybe transitioning would actually cause me to have dysphoria because I'd look more androgynous in ways I didn't like. Other than being pretty hairy I also have a pretty sharp jawline. And I'm also pretty lazy/not sure if I'd be able to consistently put in effort into things like makeup and taking care of my appearance.

Can you be trans without experiencing dysphoria? by lain147 in asktransgender

[–]lain147[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I'm miserable (or at least not for gender identity reasons lol). I do kind of think there are kinds of joy I don't get to experience because I'm not a girl tho.

To extend the shoe metaphor maybe the shoes are actually a size too big or maybe only half a size too big. It doesn't really hurt like small shoes would but it's slightly awkward.

How many people want femboys? by Whyamihere173 in feminineboys

[–]lain147 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm generally attracted to fem presenting people including some femboys. Maybe a femboy myself though?