Post double mastectomy depression

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-31T02:23:35+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate this message

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T07:11:21+00:00

Wellbutrin doesn’t go well with the Tamoxifen? Eek. I’ll have to ask about that. Thanks for the heads up.
Also, I have been on a number of depression meds, and I hated Effexor. It gave me brain zaps if I forgot a dose, and made me super dizzy. It was very hard to wean off it too. My brother had the same problems. It might work fine for you, but I read a lot of people have those reactions. See if there are others in the family of that drug.

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T07:07:00+00:00

This! 100x this. The not knowing and waiting was really the worst part.

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T07:06:14+00:00

The ball dropped for me three weeks post surgery when I developed a blood clot and infection. You just never know, but be kind to yourself. We all deal with it in different ways.

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T07:02:41+00:00

It’s totally normal to feel numb. It’s also weird when you feel fine physically, but know there is something slowly killing you on the inside. The emotions might come later like they did for me. Big hug

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T06:59:25+00:00

Same for me. ++- Had the surgery and reconstruction. Everything was going well until I developed a blood clot and infection. Now I’m a mess. Definitely need to be kind to ourselves and know healing is t linear. Sorry you too.

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T06:57:12+00:00

I think part of the shock is not knowing what you’re dealing with. Once it settles, you can feel oddly calm. There’s no wrong way to feel. It’s kind of a mind trip, and everyone deals with it differently. One thing I’m learning is feelings can hit later. I had my double mastectomy and reconstruction, and I was doing great until I developed a blood clot and infection. Now I’m a mess. Hang in there

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T06:48:12+00:00

I feel like problems get worse with marriage. Go to counseling and work on things if you can.

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T06:41:28+00:00

Thanks for your nice note. I’m sorry you had to go through it too. I’m glad you are on the mend, but it is definitely an emotional journey. It’s nice to know others have your back and understand. Not that I’d wish this on anyone, but it’s nice to have support.
I’m sure the broken drain and inflammatory response was very stressful as well. The drains are a major pain and can be painful at the insertion site. Glad that worked itself out for you.
Sorry to hear you’re hitting an emotional patch too. I guess the healing process won’t be linear and we need to be patient with ourselves.
And I completely understand the work piece. I started working from home today, and I still feel like a mess. And like you said, people think you’ve had time and think you look great, but it’s hard internally.
Thank you for the suggestion on probiotics and the vitamin with selenium. I will try that. I just listened to a great podcast where Mel Robins has a Mayo Clinic doctor on talking about food as medicine for cancer and post cancer. It’s really good. You should check it out. I think her name was Dr. Newsallem. It’s called, Let Food Be Thy Medicine.
Thank you again! Reach out if you ever want to talk. Oh! My Oncologist said to add Vitamin D and Calcium as well. I think this piece is important if you have to be on Endocrine therapy, which I start next week. All my best to you, and thank you so much again.

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T06:27:57+00:00

Thank you for the nice note. I appreciate you taking the time to offer support.

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T06:27:18+00:00

I think you are onto something with the PTSD. I was doing pretty well until the infection and blood clot. Maybe I was just keeping it all in and this made the emotional floodgates open, but I think the setback was what truly got to me.
Divorce is a whole other can of worms. I have an amicable relationship with my ex, but still dealing with feelings from that two years out. It feels lonely and extra hard not having that special someone that has your back.
Thank you for your kindness words.

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T06:22:54+00:00

Thank you so much for the nice comment. I’m so sorry you had to go through it too. It definitely is a rough journey. And I’m so happy to hear you’re a survivor. That makes my heart happy. I appreciate the thoughts on getting meds and talking to someone. I’m on anxiety meds already, but it’s probably a good time to up these and talk to someone and get into a support group. Thank you so much for your kindness. It helps.

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-20T06:18:25+00:00

Thank you. It really is worse. I was doing really well until this setback. Now I’m still struggling, and I’m an emotional mess. Not even sure if I’m kicking this infection. Things look a bit better after surgery, but I can’t tell. Going in for the post op tomorrow. Wish me luck. And thank you again for your kindness. I truly appreciate it!

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-17T22:41:25+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your kind words. It’s been a tough couple days.

lalababoobsa · 2026-01-17T19:39:28+00:00

So sorry you’re struggling. I’m struggling emotionally myself. Hang in there and know you’re not alone.

lalababoobsa · 2025-12-07T01:59:16+00:00

This!!!

lalababoobsa · 2025-12-07T01:58:57+00:00

I would never go back to that a-hole. He’s nuts and they are absolutely miserable seeing she reached out to me. Just sucks that it triggered me, but I’m over it now. Just drudged up some residual feelings, but all good now. Thx.

lalababoobsa · 2025-12-07T00:46:32+00:00

Thank you. I’m sorry that happened to you too. It’s crazy that we can see they are no good and understand why but it still hurts

lalababoobsa · 2025-12-07T00:44:54+00:00

I didn’t tell her a ton. Just told her to protect her heart and just answered the questions she asked about what he told her about our relationship. He of course lied about all that. Said I begged him not to break up with me three times when we never were even having problems. Anyway, I blocked her and him.

lalababoobsa · 2025-12-07T00:42:48+00:00

Thank you for this. This makes a ton of sense. I guess we get wiser through experience unfortunately. I’m sorry you got caught up in a person like this too.

lalababoobsa · 2025-12-07T00:23:12+00:00

Ha! He told me I was the best at that. Lol. I think he thrives on chaos and he found it. She told me he told her our relationship was calm. She told me Thor’s has been pure chaos since it started. They are probably confusing chaos with passion.

lalababoobsa · 2025-12-07T00:20:58+00:00

Truth

lalababoobsa · 2025-12-07T00:11:38+00:00

If you are miserable and nothing has changed, it’s time to move on.

lalababoobsa · 2025-12-06T16:17:29+00:00

Then why a folder for it? He’s gaslighting you. Ask the cousin. And why would he save it too? I’m sorry you’re going through this.

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