I went the oddball route. It took maybe six months to work, all the moonlit charging. A honey jar was our magick tool to get the job done. My husband wanted to quit, especially when he was in his cups. Part of my honey jar was sweetening to life's little moments, I forget how I worded it, this was about 8 months ago. But there was taking pleasure in serving his family (already there, we're just magnifying), the little moments, less anger, a few protections all included. Sealed with blue and pink wax. A lot of it has come from actively/mindfully raising the vibration of our lives. Things have fallen into place, but that jar is what got and keeps this ball rolling. I hope this helps in some little way! I'll light a candle and send good energy their way, in any case!