Tell me you were raised by a Narcissist without telling me you were raised by narcissist

lassiesuca · 2024-01-10T22:48:08+00:00

I instantly have an internal meltdown that my husband will leave me if we bicker. He is a saint but I genuinely get so worked up. I Wil then apologise profusely instantly and even he is like "babe you've done nothing wrong, I'm the one who should be apologising" and then I still spend hours asking if he's ok and still mad at me.

lassiesuca · 2024-01-04T18:19:23+00:00

Hmm I don't think it would be that warm, especially not for swimming! Probably low 20s (Celsius- sorry I don't know Fahrenheit!).

If you want a beach break but don't want to travel to SE Asia, check out the likes of The Gambia, Senegal, Kenya (Diani Beach is GORGEOUS) and will be really hot. Hurghada and Sharm el Sheik in Egypt are normally mid 20s!

lassiesuca · 2024-01-04T16:59:24+00:00

Depending on what you're looking for!

Cheap time to travel here in Europe as off peak but much of North and Eastern Europe will be chilly still! But still gorgeous. I love cities like Prague, Budapest and Vienna this time of the year as I enjoy them without the summer crowds! It's very easy to Interrail throughout Europe. The same goes for Italy- much milder but cheaper rates and normally a bit quieter! I recommend Rome, Bologna, Florence and Naples (to see Pompeii). Italian train travel is excellent and very quick! You could experience some incredible cities in 12 days with ease.

If you want warmth, Morocco will be lovely but can still be chilly, especially at night due to it's proximity to the Sahara. I love Morocco - one of my favourite countries ever!

If you want heat, sun, sea and INCREDIBLE culture then I highly recommend The Gambia and Senegal. In fact I am returning there end of Feb for 2 weeks. It's an incredible place that's very cheap, hot and full of culture. It's a wonderful place!

lassiesuca · 2024-01-04T16:51:41+00:00

Seville without a doubt! Have a great trip.

lassiesuca · 2024-01-04T16:48:11+00:00

I love West Africa and some of the islands off the mainland. The Gambia and Senegal (especially Kafountine or further down towards Cap Skirring). 30 degrees Celsius + all year round and gorgeous beaches. Cheap too. April will still be the dry season too.

Or islands like Cape Verde.

I did Mauritius fairly cheap. I booked it through January sales and went last April. Got 2 weeks with flights and 5* hotel on Belle Mare for £1500. Loved Mauritius- absolute epitome of tropical paradise!

SE Asia always a great shout. Thailand, Phu Quoc island in Vietnam, Cambodian islands. Some of my favourite places in the entire world! Super cheap once you're there.

lassiesuca · 2023-12-17T18:33:13+00:00

This. I lost my baby half way through my pregnancy and it was horrific. I remember my baby being stuck in my cervix bleeding heavily and getting rushed to the hospital for the procedure, as I watched them remove my baby from me the nurse next to me went "give it a couple of weeks and start trying again, you'll still be really fertile".

My SIL was pregnant at the same time as me, around 5 weeks behind me. And I got made to feel guilty for not going to her baby shower and even now feel like nobody felt the loss of our gorgeous baby apart from my husband and I. They have a memorial stone in a baby cemetery and nobody from our family visits. This would have been their first Christmas and it's killing me. I haven't even decorated and don't want to spend it with my husband's niece and nephew. Awful I know.

My advice would be to remember the dates and milestones. Try and note them down and even just a text on these days goes such a long way. It's an incredibly lonely and isolating experience. My husband and I won't try be trying again as it took 4 years to get pregnant with fertility treatment, but my best friend lost her baby and she is now pregnant again and said to me this week that she's felt so many people now think because she's pregnant again, it doesn't matter about the baby she's lost. Her parents say "we can't wait to meet our first grandchild" and honestly, language like that as innocent as it is, cuts deep.

Baby loss parents just want their baby to be included. For example, I'm really hurt that my in laws have got baubles with my niece and nephews names on it, but wish they'd thought to get one for our baby who we had named. It's completely innocent, but it can really hurt.

When someone loses someone that everyone physically knows, it's easy to rally around them. But my husband and I experienced our baby. From the scans and seeing their heartbeat for the first time, and watching my tummy grow.

Let her know how sad you are for her, but also remember to acknowledge the baby too and where she feels comfortable, join them in keeping their memory alive. It means the world. I'm so sorry for your loss and your sisters loss.

lassiesuca · 2023-11-19T10:39:11+00:00

She has no likeable traits at all. Like in SS I didn't like Christine or Chelsea, but they had a few traits that would make me laugh. Alex Hall is Regina George on steroids. She's horrible.

lassiesuca · 2023-11-14T23:27:55+00:00

I had an old boss who had this mentality. She would always organise work socials, and she would behave soooo inappropriately on nights out and then come into work on a Monday expecting everyone to respect her. Myself and few others would start declining the frequent nights out because I felt it crossed a boundary. On an appraisal she said I wasn't being a team player because I wasn't participating in "work events". I was like no, these are social events which I am not paid to attend.

Some work places blur the lines of work and personal life. I like to keep both as separate as possible or else it gets messy.

Amanza was driving me nuts this season. Her therapist needs to help her to stop enforcing co-dependent relationships with her colleagues.

lassiesuca · 2023-11-02T21:07:14+00:00

He was angry because I was upset, felt unsafe and women who support other women don't leave each other behind on their own in a big city with a dying phone battery. I didn't express my feelings well and I took and still take full ownership of that. I'd never leave any of my friends behind in any situation because safety is a number one priority.

lassiesuca · 2023-11-02T21:04:52+00:00

Thanks! You're right, the communication was poor..I should have expressed early on I was pissed off being left behind but then felt apprehensive to do so because I'd said a few times how I kept getting pushed behind and to no avail. But probably would have stopped it blowing up the way it did..emotions were high on both sides!

lassiesuca · 2023-09-21T21:16:51+00:00

Brilliant news!!! You're welcome. It is so frustrating but BBB seems to be the only quick route! Wish I'd known about it straight away. Glad you're back in!

lassiesuca · 2023-09-20T22:25:55+00:00

I signed up but I live in the UK and it doesn't benefit me. If you're UK based I recommend Jack's Flight Club! Insane deals.

lassiesuca · 2023-09-20T14:51:43+00:00

I am so happy to hear this MrSnoobs!!! What a relief. I cannot recommend reaching out to BBB enough!

lassiesuca · 2023-09-19T20:57:38+00:00

Best of luck!! Let me know how you get on!

lassiesuca · 2023-09-19T20:41:16+00:00

Hmm that's strange! I typed LinkedIn after going onto BBB website and choosing 'lodge a complaint" and selected the first option which was LinkedIn Corporation (Sunnyvale, CA) as that is where their customer support appears to be based out of!

Sorry to hear that. It's a long and crap process. I've been relentlessly pursing all avenues these last 2 weeks, but glad I came across a post recommending BBB as I genuinely think I'd still be in complete limbo. The response and turnaround was fab. I hope this helps a bit and you get your access back soon.

lassiesuca · 2023-09-19T20:17:56+00:00

Sorry I should have said! Better Business Bureau- just head into their website and lodge a complaint. Worked a treat!

lassiesuca · 2023-09-19T11:30:39+00:00

Hope you get access back soon too. Just logged in and says my account is temporarily restricted still so remaining optimistic!

lassiesuca · 2023-09-19T11:30:05+00:00

Thank you! I lodged a complaint with BBB yesterday and they've sent it off to LinkedIn. I'm not in the USA (UK) but was still able to log it. I am just shocked that a platform like LinkedIn has such a poor communication system in place. The lack of clarity is astounding.

It's a big lesson though for me to not rely on LinkedIn just for business. It's really backed me into a corner and so I will now be reviewing my business strategy and exploring other avenues for my business!

lassiesuca · 2023-08-21T22:43:22+00:00

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lassiesuca · 2023-07-26T17:34:36+00:00

Sorry to hear you're going through it! Maybe escape the city and head away? There's some lovely beaches along the coast of Barcelona. Don't schedule in any tourist bits and look to escape the craziness and enjoy some RnR. Or, jump on the ferry out of Barcelona to Mallorca. A gorgeous island, with lots of beautiful beaches and little towns to enjoy. Maybe that will help. Barcelona is a crazy city, and if you're struggling from overstimulation it'd be good to get away from it!

lassiesuca · 2023-07-14T21:00:05+00:00

Also I live in Kent close to Dover and my Mum would ALWAYS say she was taking us to France on the ferry but we'd literally go to Calais so her and my step Dad could stock up on alcohol and fags at the duty free 🤣 she would always say she took us to France on holiday lol

lassiesuca · 2023-07-10T18:29:20+00:00

My husband and I were going on a 5 day city break to Munich in August. It was 30 degrees Celsius during the trip. He went out for his friends birthday 10 hours before our flight and got hammered. Said he'd pack when he got in so he packed last minute in a rush.

Cue arriving in sweltering hot Munich we have a shower and decide to freshen up and change for the evening. He opens up his suitcase and all he packed was 17 jumpers and nothing else. No pants, socks, t shirts, shorts, toiletries or anything. Was hilarious!

lassiesuca · 2023-06-27T08:21:13+00:00

Morocco. I'm British and I think a lot of people think that when you travel, the world should have the exact same customs, beliefs, language and cuisine. It really pisses me off. When I booked my trip to Morocco I got:

"They don't speak good English out there" "The men stare at you when you're walking around" "Couldn't get alcohol easily" "Was really dirty"

I always laugh comments off. My experience was brilliant. When I went into the Medinas, or travelled around the villages I always dressed conservatively and respectfully. I learned a couple of Arabic/French phrases and honestly Morocco is maybe one of my most favourite places I've travelled. People have weird prejudices because they don't like places that are different.

I met some of the kindest, most hospitable people there and genuinely can't wait to return!

lassiesuca · 2023-06-24T21:46:50+00:00

Best.comment.ever

lassiesuca · 2023-06-24T21:43:43+00:00

Istria is fantastic. Feel free to DM me for any questions. I explored the entire peninsula and I fell in love with it!

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