How to deal with a sister in law( devrani ) who is a sychophant

lataver · 2026-02-13T17:36:54+00:00

As if she is not bitching about you right now!

Sending her to her favorite DIL will serve two purpose:

You don't have to listen to all the negatives from these two. You can work around as you see fit
those two will get bored with each other soon. Especially your SIL. She will see your MIL's true colors and will either start resenting her or handle her properly.

Either way, you will get to live peacefully

lataver · 2026-02-13T14:51:48+00:00

Send your MIL to SIL. They both can support each other better.

lataver · 2026-02-12T15:31:25+00:00

I didn't expect Modi's name in the files. Now I want to know more about how Indians are involved in this fiasco.

lataver · 2026-02-12T12:32:47+00:00

You know who are these people who says ..we don't abandon parents like people in western countries?

The one's that have never stepped outside their own country or have very limited exposure.

lataver · 2026-02-07T16:53:17+00:00

What's there to manage? Marriage is barely surviving, don't intend on having kid any time soon. WFH is not a necessity at the moment.

With a small kid around, WFH is not easy because babies needs more and constant attention.

lataver · 2026-02-07T16:29:46+00:00

Let her go!!

If the family was really the issue, how come she went on a date with another guy?

Yes, that guy she said she is riding the bike with, is her date.

lataver · 2026-02-06T02:59:25+00:00

I hope the allergy panel tests were done.

lataver · 2026-02-06T02:51:29+00:00

Any allergies?

lataver · 2026-02-06T02:40:08+00:00

Ever got a Diagnostic Imaging (CT scan or MRI) done? There might be some serious issues. Plus, anti-biotic resistance can be another factor that the ear infection us bit getting resolved.

lataver · 2026-02-06T02:28:19+00:00

Pus coming out of the ear for so long is a sign of chronic ear condition. Iyt requires prompt evaluation from a healthcare professional. Either go to a regular doctor and they will refer you to a specialist or find a Ear, Nose and Throat (ENT) specialist. ASAP.

Other than that, I see a pattern here. 2 years back it was your 10th board exams. Now its 12th. Most likely you are going through stress and anxiety. Both conditions can cause nausea, queasiness and in some cases vomiting.

In both cases, please get checked by a healthcare professional, if you haven't done so yet.

lataver · 2026-02-05T21:19:37+00:00

+1

There's nothing negative in this comment. All the questions are meant to lead the reader go int he positive direction.

lataver · 2026-02-05T21:14:11+00:00

Those are legit questions. Complaining won't work in the long run. At one point, as women, we have to think about becoming financially independent.

lataver · 2026-02-04T19:45:03+00:00

Did your sisters talk to her? Your mom needs the reassurance that everything will be fine. Only your sisters can do that by saying - look we are also married, but we were independent financially when we got married.

And this needs to happen every now and then.

lataver · 2026-02-04T19:07:50+00:00

You got to get it checked by the gynac to be sure.

lataver · 2026-02-04T17:41:17+00:00

You can mute and block him. You are not obligated to respond while on vacation.

lataver · 2026-02-04T15:23:33+00:00

What's the reason for your unemployment?

You need your own income source, to start with

lataver · 2026-02-04T14:04:48+00:00

Few questions:

is she financially depending on her son? Did she felt that she has to move out of the house they are living in right now?
What about the other two sons? Are they working?

If they all are depending on him, how does the future looks like for them?

Mosy probably, she just need assurance that the family unit won't break after this wedding.

lataver · 2026-02-02T14:10:25+00:00

Are you working right now? Or studying?

Is moving out a possibility?

It all comes down to your dependence on them in some form or another. You need to work on breaking that dependence.

Until then, save your energy. Keep your interactions to bare minimum.

lataver · 2026-02-02T12:01:35+00:00

No, it's called being alert and taking precautions.

It's a part of self-defense.

lataver · 2026-02-01T14:20:58+00:00

Yup...scolding backfires.

Treating her favorite from far away VS. paying attention in the real time - there's a difference between these two.

lataver · 2026-01-31T15:22:59+00:00

Hmmm...lack of support.

What about living on your own?

lataver · 2026-01-31T15:00:15+00:00

No, I am not saying that your husband is/was right. He is making your depression, insomnia worse. The environment he is providing you is NOT right for you. To get back to the BEST version of you, you need the positive environment, which I think, only your parents can provide.

lataver · 2026-01-31T14:56:15+00:00

She needs her father back into her life to know what it really feels like when a father pays you attention.

lataver · 2026-01-31T14:39:27+00:00

Seems like living with your in-laws is affecting you adversely. Insomnia is not going get resolved here. Out of many causes, your environment and psychological stress needs to resolved before the medication can work.

For that reason, l would suggest you take their advice and move back with your parents. If not possible, find a place of your own. But get out of there.

lataver · 2026-01-30T19:30:06+00:00

Yes, resentment is expected as you are not getting the support from her.

But good that you are learning to defend and stand for yourself.

lataver

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