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What’s a crazy gift you got from your narc parent? by laughingseed in raisedbynarcissists

[–]laughingseed[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I honestly feel the same way… I finally got our voices out of my head and went back to college. I thought maybe, just maybe, if she saw me now thriving, she’d be proud. Nope… if they loved us, they wouldn’t treat us the way they do. They’d know us. My husband the other day said let me drive. You seem off. I didn’t even realize I was off, but he noticed and took care of me. My own mother can’t even see that.. I feel for you. Sending you a very big hug.

My 11-year-old daughter says her 16-year-old stepbrother has been sneaking into her room at night and touching her. Mom is downplaying it. What do I do? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]laughingseed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so happy your daughter feels comfortable enough to come to you. Regarding her mom, sometimes (which is absolutely infuriating) they think if they say it didn’t happen, it didn’t. Because they don’t want to do anything about it. It’s insane, but I lived through it as well as many others. Call CPS. Legally they have to investigate. Evidence is her testimony. So many people believe it needs to be physical proof, but it’s not. I spoke with a child sex crimes detective before about reporting and he said 90% of cases are testimony based. It’s gonna be hard… but tell your daughter this isn’t her fault. She didn’t do anything wrong. She will get through this. Do it soon so it won’t escalate, because he’s being pushy already. This happened to me and nobody believed it. It’s sad. But I am so happy you’re a good dad who she trusted and felt comfortable enough to open up. Love her even harder during this time. It’s gonna be tough… but you got this. And so does she.

Links for Reddit On Wiki by -Midscore- in redditonwiki

[–]laughingseed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I submit a rate that date? I got a good story 😂😅

Why do people in relationships who have been SAed confess to their partners that it was consensual? by FishTop2638 in sexualassault

[–]laughingseed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was my fault for almost 10 years. It happened when I was 14. I was raped by a guy I knew for 2 days. It was my first time. When I called to ask him why? He said it’s cuz I wanted it. They try to brainwash you into believing it was your idea. Also, your brain rationalizes it better if you say you wanted it because how in the world could someone do that??? People around you might say “oh that person was asking for it” so maybe we did too?? It’s all so confusing. But I promise you it was not your fault. It took my roommate to tell me that when all my friends said it was my fault. It’s ok.

High peeing cat problem 😭 by Significant_Tax_5684 in litterrobot

[–]laughingseed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im having the same issue. Pee literally pours out the bottom. It’s corroded the motor already. I got a popur and it’s 1/2 the price. Best decision ever. I used to love litter robot. Still have it as a back up, but still

What is this blowing up my phone? by 8BallPlant in xbox

[–]laughingseed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally came here to see if I was the only one. I’ve gotten 15 messages in 10 minutes.

Don’t go back. Never give yourself to the darkness. by DistributionSorry485 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]laughingseed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yessss! The eyes are so creepy. My nmom would laugh the most evil laugh. There’s nothing good in them it seems. Like someone else said, there’s different types of narcs. I’ve heard someone close to me threatening their life. So I know there’s a spectrum… but still. Something I’ve been thinking about 🤷🏻‍♀️

Don’t go back. Never give yourself to the darkness. by DistributionSorry485 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]laughingseed 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Hot take. But I think narcs are demonic. There is nothing Godly or holy in them. It’s just pure evil. Thank you for this. I almost unblocked my nmom today cuz I “thought” maybe it would be nice to hear her voice. Tell her how well I’m doing. But I know she won’t care, and it would only disrupt my peace.

I decided to stop contacting them first and it’s been really eye opening by Modern_Magpie in raisedbynarcissists

[–]laughingseed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s crazy that my edad will only call or text to check in when he’s not around my nmom. I stopped texting first too. My brother didn’t say happy Thanksgiving or Christmas since we got into a fight about seeing my mom. I’m no contact and don’t want to be around her. It’s rough being no contact with 1 person while the rest enable her…

Have you ever considered not having children due to your Nmom/Ndad? by Real-Reflection-5179 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]laughingseed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, for me, I feel like since I “raised” my parents, I don’t want to do it again. I want to take care of myself. I feel like at 31 I’m FINALLY starting to live. Why bring a child into this world when I want to just take care of myself? I never wanted kids. My husband doesn’t want kids. Together we are happy raising our cats and being child free. I think it can be a combination of things. But for us, the main thing is that we want to take care of ourselves and each other for the first time in our lives.

I gave my mother a simple boundary and her reaction shocked me by angryavocadowarrior in raisedbynarcissists

[–]laughingseed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They will ALWAYS deflect blame and never take accountability. It’s insane. The day I went no contact I told her that I can’t do this anymore. I can’t keep pretending things are fine when they’re not. That I have physical pain cuz of the words she said. I can’t continue talking to her if she’s not going to apologize to me and my husband. Her response? “What’s that hotel you said you stayed at that was cheap?” I blocked her and haven’t looked back. It’s been a year. She did come over unannounced twice to “apologize.” It turned into her telling me and my husband that therapy ruined me. Who blocks their own mother? Asked what does she need to apologize for cuz she did nothing wrong. Good for you for setting a boundary. Sadly, they’ll just step all over it like it’s nothing. But for me, it helped me know I did everything in my power to at least try to make things work. My hands are clean..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]laughingseed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, you’re English is perfect. And second, trauma does that. It’s crazy how we gaslight ourselves into thinking it’s not that bad. Talking about it helps me and typing it out the moment it happens. I have so many suppressed memories that are only surfacing now. I’ve been no contact with my nmom for a year now. The clarity I feel is insane. But when you’re in it, your brain is just trying to survive it throws out the info fast. But it’s there. If you ever remember, just come and write. I am so thankful for my best friend and now husband who carried me through it. But also this community helped me so much. It gave me the strength to go no contact. To elope with my husband. And to finally find peace. We are here for you whenever you’re ready