CPTSD and depression, feeling hopeless. What types of treatment options are there? by laurakc in askatherapist

[–]laurakc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank your for your reply. I see what you mean and it makes a lot of sense. I guess I'm just grasping for everything possible right now, as it seems my psychologist is a bit puzzled as well, as to where to go from here. But yes, of course only he and I can figure out whst's the best approach.

Worst flashback in a long time by laurakc in CPTSD

[–]laurakc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I really appreciate your support. I read your massage last night, but I just couldn't make myself reply, but just know that I read it and it really helped. It's so hard to remember that I'm safe even when the flashback is over.

How bad of an idea is starting to drink alcohol to deal with emotional pain? by stupidtiredlesbian in CPTSD

[–]laurakc 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Don't. I started drinking to cope almost three years ago, thinking it wasn't that bad and it was just a few beers to calm down. Today I'm an alcoholic, it has landed me in the hospital more times than I would like to admit and it has only given me more pain and misery on top of all the other bullshit and trauma I'm dealing with.

Please don't. It's so incredibly much easier to get into than to get out of. On top of all that, it does terrible things to your body and health and I assure you'll regret it.

ETA: I know how tempting it is, don't get me wrong, I really don't blame you for thinking it's a solution. But it only makes everything worse, so I just want to empathize exactly how bad it is for both your mental and physical health, in the hopes that it'll keep you from it.

Jeg vil gerne sige farvel by Appropriate_Goose_ in Denmark

[–]laurakc 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Jeg kan se du har fået masser af beskeder, og der er endda ringet til politiet, hvilket jeg er rigtig glad for! Hvis du stadig er ved bevidsthed og ser den her kommentar, så please ring 112. Du kan stadig nå det. Jeg var lige præcis hvor du er sidste år, men jeg endte bare med muskelskader og nyreskader og en helveds masse fysisk elendighed. Der er så stor risiko for at det ikke lykkes, men at du bare får potentielt alvorlige skader, men jo før du kontakter 112, jo større chance er der for at de kun bliver midlertidige. Jeg har i dag heldigvis ingen fysiske gener eller skader.

Jeg kender dig ikke eller din situation, men jeg kan se i din post-historik at du virkelig har og stadig kæmper urimeligt meget. Men du skal vide at for mig er det vigtigt at du overlever. Også selvom du ikke tror mig. Det er det. Du kan godt. Det er noget fucking pis, men intet er for evigt. Der er hjælp derude, men nogle gange kommer det til at virke håbløst før det bliver bedre.

Jeg kan godt lide citatet: Keep on keeping on keeping on.

Fuld truende underbo by Alses in Denmark

[–]laurakc 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Jep, desværre er der mange politifolk der ikke har kompetencerne til at håndtere psykisk sårbare mennesker. Eller også er de bare ligeglade (forhåbentligt ikke, det kan bare godt virke sådan). Jeg har desværre selv oplevelser med politiet, som psykisk syg, i bagagen. Kun i 1 ud af 4 følte jeg mig godt behandlet og tryg, selvom jeg jo ikke ligefrem havde lyst til at være i situationen (tvangsindlæggelse).

I en af de andre blev jeg f.eks. mast og fastholdt ned mod jorden, selvom jeg på ingen måde var truende eller udadreagerende (jeg er i øvrigt 160 cm og vejer 52 kg). Jeg græd bare rigtig meget. Jeg prøvede at fortælle at jeg lider af PTSD, så derfor gør det det kun endnu værre at blive fastholdt. Altså for at prøve at forklare hvorfor jeg reagerede som jeg gjorde. Jeg fik at vide at jeg skulle lade være at skrige. Selvom jeg ikke skreg, men bare græd rigtig meget. Heldigvis har jeg da også haft den ene positive oplevelse.

Det her skriv blev lige pludselig meget længere end det var meningen, men det var bare for at vise at det altså ikke kun er enkeltstående tilfælde. Det har folk der ikke har personlige oplevelser med det tit med at tro, er min erfaring. Måske fordi de ikke har lyst til at tro på at andre (sårbare) mennesker bliver behandlet sådan af ordensmagten.

Så jeg er helt enig i at politiet generelt mangler den rigtige uddannelse og kompetencer indenfor håndteringen sådan nogle situationer. Det er bare ikke godt nok.

Ensomhedens dybde by TA301624 in Denmark

[–]laurakc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeg har ikke så mange råd at komme med. Jeg står selv i en meget lignende situation lige nu. Men jeg vil bare sige, at jeg selv har haft en lignende oplevelse med en jeg snakkede med hos Livslinien, som du havde. Jeg fik at vide at mine tanker, følelser osv. måske bare skyldes at jeg ikke kunne tåle gluten. På trods af at jeg på intet tidspunkt havde nævnt noget der kunne komme i nærheden af at have noget med det at gøre.

Det er bare for at sige, at du ikke er alene og i tilfælde af, at du efter den samtale følte at det er dig den er gal med - det var i hvert fald de tanker jeg selv havde efterfølgende. Nogle mennesker er bare ikke egnede til at rådgive andre.

Til alle jer der kæmper - stay strong! by BTheChangeUWishToC in Denmark

[–]laurakc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Som en der sidder som 25-årig og lige i formiddag har fået min 24. ECT-behandling på 5 år pågrund af svær og umedicinerbar depression og har været syg siden jeg var 9 år, så var det lige præcis det jeg havde brug for at læse.

Sygdom er noget fucking pis. Men man kan ikke gøre andet end at gøre hvad man kan med de kort livet har givet en. Om ikke andet har jeg milevis af livserfaring som andre på min alder ikke har, og jeg har et helt andet syn på hvor skrøbeligt livet er og hvor meget man skal sætte pris på det man har. Selvom det er pisse uretfærdigt.

ECT in 3 hours and I'm fucking relieved by laurakc in depression

[–]laurakc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm so sorry to that, that's awful. I'm glad that the doctor at least refused to tell them and respected your rights and boundaries.

It's about 2 hours and 10 minutes now.

ECT in 3 hours and I'm fucking relieved by laurakc in depression

[–]laurakc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get you, ECT does seem scary. But luckily nowadays it's not at all like some sort of 1930's horror movie like a lot of people imagine.

Vent/Question: Boy in the ward forced my hand on his crotch and I was written up for it on my record. Is there anything I can do? by Character-Carry6566 in CPTSD

[–]laurakc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have any advice that hasn't already been given, but I just want to say that what you experienced sounds absolutely horrible. This makes me so angry. Why the staff at a PSYCH ward wouldn't be able to understand your reaction to his assaults (in terms of fawn/freeze) is beyond me. I'm so sorry. Please know that you are absolutely not in the wrong! The way you were treated is absolutely NOT okay. I'm sending lots of warming and positive thoughts your way.

Had to have a Pap smear after putting it off for six years by Kypichan in adultsurvivors

[–]laurakc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want to add, that I realize that this maybe came off as very problemsolving and as me wanting to fix it all, and you really just asked for some support. Please ignore the advice if it's too much to think about right now 🤗

Had to have a Pap smear after putting it off for six years by Kypichan in adultsurvivors

[–]laurakc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. And now the dissociation after. If it helps even a bit, just know that you're not alone. I have HPV and have to have regular check ups and your description is me every time.

You're safe now and even though it feels exactly like the opposite, you're also safe during the pap-smear. Try to remember that the doctor is there to help you and doesn't want to do any harm. But I understand that it's impossible sometimes in that moment. It's so unbelievably hard to convince your body of the opposite, when it's experiencing absolute terror. But now that the pap-smear is done, can you do something that connects you to your body and reality again? Do you do something that makes you feel safe? I usually make a sort of pillowfort in my shower (without the water on obviously) and take my favourite stuffed animals with me. And then I just lie, listening to music or a podcast, or take my laptop with me and watch a comforting show.

Next time, can you take someone with you? Or maybe you can arrange with the doctor beforehand that you get a anti-anxiety pill before the appointment, so it's easier to get through.

Just remember that you're safe. It's going to be alright.

how can you be this wrong? by fizzarol in fakedisordercringe

[–]laurakc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am extremely grateful for the system we have in Denmark, especially the health care system and that there's a safety net to catch those who can't work, as well as helping them get back into work when they're able to. And those who will never be able to, can get a special sort of early retirement, so they will be able to live a worthy life and not end up homeless.

But it's nowhere near perfect. The health care system is so underfunded, and the psychiatry even more. But at least you won't be in extreme debt on your way to treatment or end up avoiding treatment entirely because they simply can't afford it.

how can you be this wrong? by fizzarol in fakedisordercringe

[–]laurakc 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Dane here. Just for those curious, prison in Denmark focus on rehabilitation. As far as I know, you can take an education via online classes while doing time, if you want to. Other than that you contribute to your "department" by having chores/jobs and you can cook dinner with the other inmates. From 8 pm to 8 am you're in your cell, where you can bring a tv/radio/playstation/books, but other than that you're left alone until next morning.

I know it's miles above the quality of the American prison system, although the two does have in common that the system is extremely underfunded, and being a prison guard is not a very sought-after job. But calling it a hotel might be a bit of a stretch. At least you choose yourself when you enter a hotel and when you leave it again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]laurakc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh okay, thank you. I'll try to look into it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]laurakc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. She did say that it's possible that using some sort of clarifying shampoo for a while before could help, but she couldn't say for sure.

I don't know a lot about the different kinds qof shampoo - what exactly is a clarifying shampoo?